I need some advice?

Question

I need some tips on where to go to get help for domestic violence. I have been with a girl for 3 years now and for the first year of our relationship I had abused her physically. It hasn't happened in over two years now and I stopped because she gave me another chance and I made sure not to do it again. However recently her mom was involved in a relationship where her boy firend had abused her and it caused my girl friend to leave me because she says she can't take a chance of it happening again. I know that I am not going to do it but I want to go through a program or counseling. I want to be reassured myself and I want her to know that I am serious about it. I want to do this for myself first but I'm also going to do it for her. I wanted to go after she gave me another chance but never got around to it because things were so good with us and we were always busy. So any advice on where to go or what to do and anything I can do for myself and for her

Answer 1

Kick her to the curb and find a girl that can take a good punch to the head every once in awhile.

Answer 2

It's great that you're trying to get control of a problem. Best of luck to you! Even if things don't work out with you and the girl, you'll feel better about yourself.

It seems to me that you should be able to find counseling with other psychological services. I want to say check in the yellow pages, but I have noticed at times there isn't much reason nor rhyme to how listings are arranged there. Anyway- whatever you do, you will have to MAKE the time to take care of this thing.

Good luck!

Answer 3

This is the number to the National Domestic Violence hot line they can give you a number to a place in your community. Usually, they offer counseling and classes for victims and perpetrators of domestic violence, Good luck 1-800-799-SAFE or 1-800-779-7233

Answer 4

first of all, i'd like to commend you for accepting the fact that you have a problem and that you're ready and willing to seek help to overcome it. you are to be commended!
my advice would be to seek help through a psychiatrist. he/she is better equipped to hook you up w/an appropriate counselling person or group. most psychiatrists counsel their patients. he/she may also fell you need to be on medication for one of many emotional disorders, which may be triggering the abusive behavior.
physical abuse is usually a sign of anger turned inwards. that's really depression. there are numerous drug (anti-depressants) that the psychiatrist can prescribe to treat this.
once you see a psychiatrist (as i have) you can walk away knowing that: the problem is his and yours to work through,
yo're no longer battling this illness alone, and that h/she's there to monitor you through the whole process of recovery.
it's scary taking the first step (been there, done that), but you won't believe the calm that occur through talk and medication theraphies. YOU WILL OVERCOME THIS AFFLICTION!
keep telling yourself this and don't let go of the thought for even a second.

Answer 5

Check with your local community health and human services agency--they'll have a domestic violence unit. They'll be able to connect you with counseling and/or a support group.
Good for you for getting help.

Answer 6

Get the counseling and then show her that you completed it, for her.

You may have already blown it with this girl. If so move on and don't do it again.

Call Ask-a-Nurse or any clinic. They can refer you to additional help.

Answer 7

My advice is to go to a therapist or a guidance couceler or sumthin. OR go to the local gym, join their boxing/fighting team and transfer all dat anger into ur apponent, or hit the bag a couple of minutes or... well hours. and tell her about it