So far we have a great relationship. We never argue. She and I always laugh and have fun, we are able to work on the apartment together without annoying each other. I can tell that she likes to spend her time with me as that is all she does other than go to work. I am really very happy being with her and it seems she is happy being with me. It's just at night, whether we have sex or not, she doesn't like to kiss or hug. I like to cuddle and when it's time that we're ready to go to sleep we kiss goodnight and she turns her way and I turn mine. I could see if we had been together for a long time but it's only been 7 months. Also, I feel the roles are reversed. Am I wrong?
2006-09-29 12:27:34 · 28 answers · asked by Bogie Boy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is probably just that type of person. Talk to her about it. Maybe there are some problems in her past that you don't know about. If you really care for her you will have to understand that those things may never change. Seems like you have a nice relationship together and that you and she are happy together. Try not to damage that but maybe one night when you are both relaxing together, bring out a bottle of wine and watch TV or a move. Try just the touchy feely type of stuff and see what happens. All you can really do is try to get it out of her if there is a problem or not. I wish you the best of luck because I understand that romantic stuff and like it alot.
2006-09-29 12:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't mind kissing and hugging when she's out of the bed, so perhaps she thinks when you do so in bed, you're wanting to have sex. She may not be ready for it and may still feel uncomfortable about sleeping in bed like that. It's only been like half a year, dude, give her some space. Girls don't like rushing into things, especially not something like that. Think about it: if you were a girl and you've been in a relationship with a guy for only 7 months and he's already seemingly wanting to go at you, wouldn't you be a bit scared? Pregnancy is a big thing, hunny, we women go through a lot of pain and sacrifice for what we're going to make. Just take it slow for now, wait about until you're going out for a year before you start getting seriously serious. You don't want to scare her away, do you? Oh, and just ignore the people who give advice for bad breath, they're morons. Hope it helps. Good luck.
2006-09-29 12:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by Karana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a million possibilities, the two I will mention are 1) She just doesn't like to cuddle at night, and 2) She secretly feels neglected. Also, I turn my back to my boyfriend sometimes, and he'll mention it to me, but it just so happens that I like to sleep on my left side- try switching sides of the bed with her if that's the case (my boyfriend won't switch sides with me, but he's so cute I don't care). Okay, now the second possibility- is she someone who keeps things bottled inside? I am. Me and my boyfriend literally have one of the best relationships you will ever witness (just about everything you explained about you and your girl), but I keep things bottled inside A LOT (also because I'd hate to start an argument), and sometimes it's hard not to show, and I often end up taking it out on him late at night when I turn my back and don't hold his hand / kiss / hug him.
Chances are she just doesn't like to do that at night, but I thought I'd throw in my situation for another perspective... Good luck! And yes, the roles are a little reversed on that one, but it's GREAT to know that there are so many guys like you out there who are affectionate.
2006-09-29 12:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just cant go to sleep in any other position, some people have their comfort spots, where they need to be in a certain position so they can sleep, i do that all the time, but i do like a cuddle and a kiss so not sure why your gf doesnt, i think you need to ask her about it
2006-09-29 12:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by lavidamasespecial1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its just her time to be alone. If she gives you all day and your not having promblems still making love, well then it might be just her alone time. Ive always found that no matter how the relationship is women need that time to reflect and think and be alone with themselves. Its nothing against you, but like others have said try to talk to her about it. Communication, goes a long way.
2006-09-29 12:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by c_loll 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
has she always been this way or is it new? how does she act when you two are having sex? it might be possible that has been molested or sexually assaulted and she has an aversion towards cuddling and kissing.
you're best bet is to be open with her and talk to her. let her know that you're a cuddler and you want some more touch time.
instead of turning away from her, have you tried turning towards her and spooning her?
2006-09-29 12:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by .jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there bogie boy I don't think this not liking to kiss or cuddle has anything to do w/you.. you sound like a loving person...but this problem is hers not yours.. it sounds to me that she did not have a warm and touchy life growing up..this does not mean that she did not have love..it just means that there was not much of a huggy, touchy kissy stuff going on ..believe it or not ..there are people like this..I know cause I know due to experience.. how is your dental hygiene????
2006-09-29 13:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by desert star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that she simply sleeps better that way. I can get like that, sometimes. It's comforting just knowing my guy is there in the room with me.
Maybe she just gets too hot at night, and needs the space.
2006-09-29 12:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Shaken Not Stirred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay the problem is that she's not a very emotional person she doesn't like the mushy stuff to much i should know i used to be like that. but once she starts to feel comfortable around u and with her feelings toward u she will open up more toward u i was exactly da same way
2006-09-29 12:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems she's not the hugging kissing type, nothing is wrong with that as long as you two are happy together as you say.
2006-09-29 12:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋