Well I've been disussing the sex topic with my BF who i love, but we know that NO TIME in the near future we will have it, were just discussing, but newayz, I'm wondering what to expect the first time. What kind of pain, blood... And we both have been doing research on the hymen, and how it affects me the first time, and we were talking, and he said that he saw somewere it talked about how a woman can prepare herself, or something like that, buthe cant find the website, so another question is, what could I do, to make it not as bad, like ways to stretch or something the hymen...
hope someone can answer my longass question.
2006-09-29 12:17:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
i don't know your age, nor your level of maturity..... but I do know that the thought process you're putting into this is only going to lessen the intimacy involved in the actual act. Think less, and when the time is right, use protection, and enjoy the moment for what it is suppose to be. When sex is scientific, and non-spontaneous, it's not intimate.
2006-09-29 12:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by woody sims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's difficult to know what to predict for your first time. The bonus is that you have an open communication with a special person that you can share it with. I didn't regret my first time (which is quite a story), but you need to make sure that it will be something worth reflecting on in future years. Don't put too much pressure on it, as you will realise that sex is a messy business, and is nothing like the movies, but can be a wonderful fun experience if you just go with the flow.
Regarding the hymen issue, I guess each person is different in that sense too, some have more of a problem than others, though I did hear that tampon usage can have an effect on this (but in retrospect I think it might be an old wives' tale).
Best of luck!!
2006-09-29 19:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by whingybaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on who you are with. How sensitive he is to your needs. As for the pain it will depend on many things, his size, how relaxed you are and such.
As for blood that depends on these same things, but no where near as much as a period and only for few minutes after the act.
The hymen gets "popped" (torn to shreds is more like it) the first time anything gets about three inches into the Virgina.
So to prepare yourself, a few "toys" are out there in adult shops that will "pop" it for you. Just go slow and careful with them inside of you.
You will also want to use water based lubricants and a condom when you have sex.
You should also be prepared for it to be all over within about 2 - 5 minutes. That is about how long the average boy/man will last before he has an orgasm.
You most likely will not have an orgasm until you have been having sex for some time. Which means he will be enjoying it long before you will.
Good luck and don't be afraid to read a few self help books on the joys and pleasures of intimacy.
2006-09-29 19:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every womans' body is different. It is commonplace for the hymen to be broken long before a ladies' first sexual experience through activities like sports or bike riding...etc.... Also, the pain level and blood, like you said, differs in everyone. The only way to really prepare yourself is mentally be ready to engage in intercoourse and make sure you have a partner that understands your needs and will be patient with you. Instead of psyching yourself out by looking up information that might not apply to you let it happen when it does and stay in the moment. If your partner is sensitive to your situation it should be as painless and easy as possible.
2006-09-29 19:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth my first time I did not have any pain at all. Alot of times if you use a tampon especially you will tear the hymen without even noticing. I would get off the topic since you are not ready for it anyway, I would also not research the pain ect because it will definatly make you think too much into and ruin the experience WHEN YOU ARE READY! Good Luck!
2006-09-29 19:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by natmys333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will try for a short answer. its great you are discussing sex but wait till you are married. yes there will be mild pain a a small spot of blood from the breaking of the hymen but he should take the time to make you more respondant to the act itself.as long as you have had lots of foreplay you will be fine.foreplay is the key to great lovemaking.
2006-09-29 19:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did your homework, but unless you are of age and give it serious thought then abstinence is best. When the time is right you will know it. It's not that pain full but you will get no pleasure from it the first time, and don't forget to use protection I know lots of girls that got pregnant on their first try.
2006-09-29 19:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by TINKERBELLE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i 1st had sex it was very natural, no pain. just some blood. i think that if you feel good with your bf and you both love each other and its not just any guy then you will feel right. If you are scared at all then dont. your body and mind will let you know if its ok. be smart use protection.
2006-09-29 19:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by GirlyWorld 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit researching it and just do it when you two are ready. There might be some pain, but you will survive. If you keep reading all this stuff, you are going to have horrible images and ideas in your head. Just wait till you are ready.
2006-09-29 19:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try masterbateing with a small tapered dildo to streach it.this way you get to enjoy pleasures you never dreamed of.its kinky but we all are that at heart.have fun
2006-09-29 19:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by julie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋