I so don't know what to do! My boyfriend and I have both been under a lot of stress lately and because of that bickering/fighting constantly. We have been together for a year and things have been pretty good but right now I am miserable. Don't know how to handle this, any thoughts?
2006-09-29 12:13:35 · 9 answers · asked by lucydesi1940 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if its about stupid things, you guys need to mature and get over it, especially this far into the relationship, but if you guys are fighting about important things that would affect your relationship (drug use, money problems, cheating, etc.) you may want to take it as a sign that you're not going to be happy and you're NOT going to change theprson TRUST ME, so wake up and ask yourself if this is going to bother you forever and if so you're going to want out. otherwise don't fight about it.
2006-09-29 12:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by coochie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All things go in cycles. Even in the best relationship there will be times you will get along great and other times you get in a rut. I've been married 11 years and we cycle. I can think of two episodes where for months we were quite hateful toward each other and didn't seem to be able to talk about anything without disagreeing and fighting. In the last couple of years things have been even more cyclical with bigger waves. We've been trying to get pregnant for four years. My wife keeps all the stress inside and we're both really anxious to get pregnant and all that balled up stress has lead to a lot of fights. Then we got pregnant last Christmas and we got along better than we ever have. I don't think it was until then we realized how much the not getting pregnant thing was bothering our relationship. Then we had a miscarriage, which also brought us together for a while, but the stress reaccumulated and once again we started fighting. We'll now we're pregnant again which again has helped, although not as much as the first time (the fear and pain from first pregnancy interferes with teh joy).
So as long as you don't stay in this rut, realize that its normal to have both bad and good times. If it seems the rut is not ending and there isn't some underlying fixable problem, well, then you've got a problem. You said your under stress. Can anything be done to help the situation. We'll it end soon. If so see if that helps.
Good luck :)
2006-09-29 12:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Poppies_rule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you recognize? you've only been with one guy in reality your entire existence. At 15 you took your self off the marketplace and performance by no skill had to advance relationship skills for the reason that. you're not to any extent further an identical lady you've been 5 years in the past only like you're not to any extent further an identical lady you've been 5 years earlier that. Now, having only been with one guy your entire "man or woman" existence, you intend to marry him. HE has also replaced and perchance the lady he fell for 5 years in the past isn't any longer round. he's determining, becasue he replaced also, that you're the only lady he will ever be with for something of his existence and that is now scaring the heck out of him. he's searching at starting up his man or woman existence will each and each of the bags from intense college. you do not understand "any guy" so it only isn't honest for you to jumble all of them at the same time. you recognize one guy. it somewhat is it. you're gentle with him, you're taking him with none interest, you stopped doing those particular belongings you employ to do once you first began relationship, and he sees that st the more youthful age of 25 he will be an previous married guy. It type of freaked him out. Take a wreck. See what takes position. look on the guy you're transforming into over the superb 5 years. Then get again at the same time and be conscious if it somewhat works.
2016-11-25 03:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, me and my boyfriend used to fight and argue all the time. We put each other through so much and after a year and a half, we are still together and we hardly ever fight. When a relationship last that long, u know that it is true love. If you have been together with this guy for a year, you must still be in love with him, so don't give up! Things only get better! 8)
2006-09-29 12:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by hotchickhazeleyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does. Fortunately for me, I'm great at communicating certain things and know whats worth starting a fight over, and whats worth not even mentioning. Learn the difference...
2006-09-29 12:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, im in the same position with my own wife,,i have been thinkin about a seperation,, for a short time,, if things smooth out,, maybe if not,, seperate for i dont know 4 weeks the first time,, if a second seperation is needed, then seperate for 6 months,, then for good if all else fails... good luck hope you work things out
2006-09-29 12:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just chill take a day by urslef watch some good ole movies don't alk to him for a day chill have a my day make urself feel good. Relax It works for me
2006-09-29 12:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by !!yentruoc!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...that point in a relationship..."
It's called the end of the relationship.
2006-09-29 12:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just need to talk with him and everything will be fine.
2006-09-29 12:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by imissyou_iluvyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋