Help! I hate my mom dad and brother?

Question

Oh my god I swear i hate my mom dad and my brother I mean they really just not right in the head my boyfriend is the only one I can relate to Im 15 I can't move out until im 18 or can i move out earlier I need some words of encouragment cuz i swear they stress me out i don't think i can wait 3 years i be ready to run away,

Answer 1

you have no choice, make the best out of a bad situation. if you were smart you'd be using this time to get ready for your 18th b-day. enroll in college, get a job, save you $ and move. thats what worked for me anyway. good luck

Answer 2

Alright, dear, you need to take a deep breath. Take a good look at what is happening: you don't get along with your family, your boyfriend is graduating, and you are sooo ready to move out.

You have to have some kind of strategy. First, if you're really ready to go then you have to do a budget. Your income goes on one side and expenses on the other. How far will your income go? Do you have any discretionary cash when it is all over? Darlin' , do you have a job? No fair leaning on the boyfriend. (Read: your education is your job. ) He did his.

Relax about your guy taking the step into adulthood. He's going to be fine, and so are you. Life is about rites of passage. Just because he achieves his rite of passage before you doesn't mean your relationship is doomed. He will be there for you like you are there for him now. If not, then I am sure there will be a young man to appplaud you.

Don't encourage sexual behaviors at this point, too many other things demand his attention.

As a matter of fact, if he is to focus on this turning point in his life, what he really needs is you as his best friend. Let him tell you what his next goal is. Be his biggest fan. It goes a lot farther than just sex, dear. The core of a lasting relationship is freindship not love. Look around you. How long does love last? Then ask someone about their best friend. They'll tell you they've known them a long, long time and that they are still friends.

Friends respect and trust each other. Love comes from this relationship. And if you are very lucky every once in awhile you will be in love. Long term realtionships, the "in love" feeling ebbs and flows with friendhship as a constant bond. Don't panic. You can do this. It will be ok, ok?

Mom and Dad are having trouble seeing that their little girl has grown up. You have to teach them about the person you are now. All they know is the little girl. Demonstrate to them that you are becoming responsible, capable of making responsible decisions: do the homework, keep your room straight, get home on time. All this teaches them to respect you. Do not expect that they will get this new person quickly. Just keep acting like you deserve some respect and they'll eventually calm down. Respond when you speak to them. Do not react. Take a moment to think, and then respond respectfully. Be the teacher.

I panicked at your age. I didn't go to college. It is very hard when there are things I would like to give my kids, and I can't because of my income. A second chance at what can be accomplished now through college at your age is very hard to come by. And they are precious years. Love your man the best you know how. Treat the family with love and respect. Take a look. When you graduate you loose all this. Give your Mom and Dad (yeah, brother...) good memories to hold onto when you are gone. Be the teacher.

Answer 3

You're going through what all teenagers go through; the no-one-understands-me and everyone-sucks stage. By the time you reach 18, you will look at things a lot differently. And you'll probably have more boyfriends before then. You aren't the first, only, or last teen to go through all of that. I'm 21 and when I think about what I thought I knew at 15, it was nothing compared to now. And I still have a lot to learn. So chill out and just try to have fun.

Ps- Your parents have the right to run your life....You're still a minor and you're not mature enough to take care of yourself, so as long as they are doing that for you, they have the right as parents to make your decisions. I know it sucks, but that's the way it is.

Answer 4

Lol, i think if I had a penny for every time I've heard something like this, I'd be sitting on a sandy private beach with a personal butler and a martini in my hand.

You're 15. You're going through a lot of emotional and physical changes that affect your behaviour. And I can garauntee that your parents and brother don't know what they're doing wrong. Understand that it can be worrying for parents when their kid doesn't like them. The more they try and fix that, the more they are annoying you. I'd like to know exactly what they're doing that's bugging you.

Anyway, Sit down quietly with your mum and explain that you're feeling really stressed out by the way they're treating you/ acting. They probably don't understand what they're doing wrong. I remember when I was a teen, my parents couldn't do a thing right by me, and I know now that it was a really stressful time for my parents not knowing what was wrong with me.

It'll get better with time. You and your parents are just on very different wavelengths right now. Talk with them and explain that sometimes they really bug you and talk through what they could do to solve it (Leaving you the heck alone/trusting you with some responsibility)

Answer 5

I had a similar experience when I was 15, and I ran away with my boyfriend. It wasn't the best choice. After a week the police found us and my parents left me in a detention center for 2 months because they thought I needed help. If you can find a counselor or another parent that you can confide in I think it would help you. You need an adult on your side who is objective and doesn't know your family. Try to keep yourself busy so you don't have to be home a lot. Get a part time job, study at the library or a friend's house, and get lots of invites to dinner at friends houses too. That way you won't see them as much and they won't bug you.

Answer 6

Hate is a very strong word. It actually takes more energy to hate than it does to love. 15 is a very hard age for a girl or boy but you will get through it. What is it about your mom, dad and brother that makes you think that they are not right in the head? 15 year olds don't know everything so put a little trust and faith in your parents they have gotten you this far already in life.

Answer 7

Girl kick back,is provably your boyfriend who is putting this ideas in your head; I have a lot of female friends who moved out of the house at an early age like you and they end up in the streets, why because know one will give nothing for free out there in the real world like your parents, and if someone does or say they will sooner or later they will get tired of you cause no one likes a free loader; if you going to run away from home at least get a job, cause if you do run away from home who is going to support you, your boyfriend lol please I don't think so if anything he will used sexually until he gets tired of you. At that age we all gone tru the same ****, not getting along with our parents. If you see my picture you can see I been there and done that... Just open your eyes girl and stop acting like a 9 years old your a teen already...

Answer 8

Think about this: They may not be all that fond of you, either. If you run away things will only get worse. And really, hate is merely a symptom of something else entirely. You need to calm down and think about how YOU could be adding to a difficult situation (adding, I mean, in a NEGATIVE way). All relationships are a two, or three way street, whatever the case may be. There is no one way road here. Think about it.

Answer 9

You sound like a normal teenage girl.

Everyone is stupid except YOUR BOYFRIEND !

Wow, he must really be something!

Here's the real deal.
You think you are "all that". Okay, that's fine, nice to have self-confidence. Trouble is, you don't have any patience or tolerance.

In a few years you're going to be amazed at how much smarted your parents are than they used to be. Hmmm.

Believe it or not, your Parents do know what is up and they do care about you.

If you think that you're a grown, mature woman, act like it, not a snotty little Bit*h.

Answer 10

Parents (and brothers) can be a total drag, but I think all the parents really want is:

1) study and get good grades
2) not do drugs or drink
3) not have sex (and possibly get AIDS or get pregnant)
4) treat them with respect.

I guess that's not too much to ask and probably if you do these things they will give you more freedom and chill out too. Then at 18 you can do whatever you want! Good Luck!