a friend of mine, his wife is dying,i haven't really talked to them in over two years(cancer).should i callher

Question

should i call her and wish her fair well, and let her know that , she will be missed, or would that be wrong,

Answer 1

I don't think I'd do that. Some people really don't want to think or talk about dying, even if they know they are. And often, the person who has cancer is still holding out for some hope of beating it, even though the people who love him have kind of given up. So, what you heard may not be what the woman really is hoping for.

But yes, you should call her. Let her know that you know she has cancer, and that you are always available for a chat, or to run an errand, if they need help with anything.

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Answer 2

It would not be wrong. The only right thing is what u feel. No one can tell u how to or when to approach your friends. I have lost a dad and a granddad to cancer. Most recent my aunt/godmother, the one thing I can tell u is once someone is gone from this world u can never get the time that u miss with them back. So everything that u want to say or do...try and do it before its too late. Good luck and best wishes to you.

Answer 3

If you think you will regret not talking to them, I would call. Just let them know you are thinking of them both. How do you know she is dying? Sometimes things get twisted when they are communicated 2nd or 3rd party. Some ways to approach it may be to say that you heard she is ill, and you wanted to give them your support. The topic of how ill she is may then be answered for you. I don't think it would be appropriate to say goodbye until you know more about what is going on. Just letting someone know you are thinking about them, regardless of the severity of the illness, shows them you really do wish them well and gives you some degree of closure in case things don't go well. You may be amazed at how your friendship could be rekindled just by calling to say hi.

Answer 4

Yes! call him.After losing my son at 29 to cancer and my Mom recently,The cancer patient goes thru a time that they do not want to see or talk to anyone,this also applies to family members.It is as though they want to be left alone except for care takers.So do it soon.

Answer 5

I have failed to pick up the phone just to talk to a few friends who died recently. I regret not doing that. You don't have to say goodbye if it makes you uncomfortable, but just let her know you're thinking of her and you care.

Answer 6

Call her and don't wish her fairwell. Ask if you can help her in anyway. Take a meal over in the crockpot---helps when they don't have to cook.
Your friend will need you emotionally---he probably needs to talk.
Just DON'T ignore them.

Answer 7

I think you should call, and just talk to them. No one want to be reminded they are sick. If they tell you or it comes up, then tell them what you feel. Dont talk to them just to wish them well. Talk to them to re-conenct. If you were nto that close, they mabye there is no point in calling at all.

Answer 8

Send a thinking of you card, and let them know that you will keep them in your thoughts.

Answer 9

i would call to reconnect your friendship and let them know you are there for them. they need their friends to help them through this ordeal.run errands, take food, or just sit and talk awhile.ask if there's anything they need or want you to do.It will be appreciated more than you will ever know.God Bless You All

Answer 10

how far is the cancer what stage is she at, contact me I can help you I had to deal with a lot of cancer cases in my family, my mom is a suriver.

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