do you think you can be friends with an ex?

Question

if you were friends before can you go back to just been friends again

as much as id like to agree with all the 1s who say yes .... i dont think you can

Answer 1

no way & anyone who says yes was clearly never in love with them as it just aint that easy to resign yourself to having lost the one you loved,love comes from the heart & love & friendship are two differant things.

Answer 2

yeah probably. I have once but I wasn't in a very serous relationship with her while dating. I personally can not, because I am perhaps a bit of a jealous type. I don't want to see her hanging on somebody, kissing them, etc. I know she will do those things as will too. But there was something special between us and though it is left in time, the past should still be respected as the present and future are.

One of my favorite quotes is by Dr. Seuss he says: "dont cry because its over, smile because it happened." if you look at it that way then you will always remember the good and set aside the differences.

So yes I think that it is possible however I probably could not. Which by the way is quite detrimental to my ex girlfriends when we break up, espeicially, ironically the ones that break up with me.

Because they always say OH well we will still be friends... Good Luck and do whatever is comfortable for you!

Answer 3

Yes you can be friends with your ex depending on how the break up ended. Being friends is how the relationship started right? Not expecting to much of the other and not crossing the line. Friends are friends not friends with benefits. As long as your both mature enough to handle the situations of seeing each other with different people. Just because a relationship ends doesnt mean the person doesnt have feeling for the other.

Answer 4

Yes but not right away. I am still friends with alot of my ex boyfriends from when i was a teenager. I found it hard to be friends right after the split as it was painful but after a few months and when one or other have moved on then friendships can be formed again i think.

Answer 5

No. I have tried but it just doesnt work. They change their minds and want to go back to having sex with you with or without a relationship or they dont want any contact at all. Had sex with a long time friend recently and although the sex was good, I've ended up just another notch on his belt or whatever that saying is. He has left me heartbroken, without a good friend and pregnant. Be very careful how you handle the ex.

Answer 6

Yes you can be friends if you both want to be JUST friends. I am good friends with my ex. We were together for 2 years. We broke up about 7 years ago. We didn't talk for about 1 year after we broke up. But then we started talking again as friends and we haven't had any problems since. We have had a few conversations about sex, but we haven't done anything sexual since we broke up. So if you both want to be friends, I think it could work.

Answer 7

I'm an unusual case, but yes, I have. My ex had his best friend break up with me over the phone. So I called him and told him to not chicken out like that. Months later, we talk to each other about our current relationships, give each other advice, and I'm even dating his best friend. It's great, better than our dating times. But that's a weird relationship. I don't think it happens often. Good luck.

Answer 8

If your mature enough to deal with the break up in an adult manner then yeah why not. Just because you dont want to spend all your spare time with someone and hump like rabbits anymore it doesn't mean that that person suddenly becomes unworthy of friendship.

Relationships dont always work out, friendships can be easier to deal with.

Answer 9

I have been friends with all my ex-s from junior high to college.
My first "love" boyfriend is like my big brother (Freudian huh).
His wife and I are the best of buds. Its not a selfish thing, its really just like another girlfriend, as with any friend, family is first.

My husband is cool with it. I am always Upfront about the terms of "what makes a relationship" for me and when I'm outta love- its like a switch its off.... and most woman can't do that (I'm told)...it was never a problem for me.

I don't kiss and tell either and most the new girlfriends would "anal probe" me for details and I just said "YOU know its been so long,,,,I don't remember and you know how it is...when your not "in love" you don't dwell on those things."

My real friendships remained until most were dating/engaged or married and the woman had issues about me right up till the time [I got married myself] then they all lightened up a lot.

One looked me up when his wife was pregnant and I think "our chats" saved his marriage, yet I won't ever be the one to tell his wife who was always jealous of our friendship. She was so angry at me, When he told her about it~ she just "lost it" and called me and yelled at me for a solid 5 minutes. That changed and she was really embarrassed when I told her "I am" and have been a minister for the last five years and I was listening and praying with him for their relationship, her pregancy and unborn child and his fears of being a good husband and father.

Answer 10

You can but you shouldn't.

It's too dangerous. It might be harmless enough while you're both still single but I don't envy people who know their partner's ex is still around, knowing that there is a familiarity and underlying feeling between them that could spark again at any time while you're not around.

If you don't want problems with new partners it's better to just make a clean break.

Answer 11

No.
I don't see the point in being "friends" with a person who got to know me, knew me intimately, I gave my heart and trust to, and then say "eh, you're not right for me after all." Who needs a friend like that?
Second-- what do you do with your former lover-friend when you meet a new mate? Still hang around your former lovers? Or do you dump them once you've found someone new?