Why can't we talk to our kids about the important things?

Question

I have seen WAY too many questions from teens/kids on here about pregnancy and such...

then I wonder.. where are all the parents these days!? They should be the first one the little girls should be talking to! But no... she's asking Yahoo!Answers instead... that's pitiful.

What kind of parents are we, this day in age, where our own children can't talk to us about important things such as pregnancies and sex... think about THAT!

Now.. go talk to your kids about sex, alcohol, drugs, boys, girls, periods, SEX, smoking, peer pressure, honesty... etc. (YOU get the picture!)

Quit making those topics such a "no-no" subject... our children are getting taught these things from other kids who don't know the truth! Be the truth to your kids!

This is a question for you to answer in your own head... and a statement so you'll ask yourself.

Answer 1

You're absolutely right, but society has made this a no-no. We as parents do need to include our children on all topics of this matter and not feel any of this is dirty or bad like our parents did. Not that our parents did on purpose, it was just something you don't talk about. I think this generation is more open then ever, and hope the next generations are even better. Sex is not dirty or bad, if it was, would we be here. It's a natural part of life. Should we hide that? I hope each generation shares more and more. Good point!

Answer 2

Thank you. That's exactly what I'm saying. My mom never really talked to me about that stuff, I found out through friends and school. She gave me the basics.

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22, and back when I was 15 the internet was no where near what it is today. And I have only tried pot, not that that's great, but whatever. I learned a lot from life, I had 3 kids in my class my jr year of high school die a month apart from each other all in different circumstances (suicide, trapped under some snow, and heart condition), then someone else I knew was killed by a drunk driver, a couple pregnant, a couple addicted to drugs, etc.

I was a rare case, not everyone was like me. They act first and think later. If I didn't know something I'd try and find out on my own I'd ask older friends or cousins. I also was afraid of disappointing my mom so that's why I didn't do a lot of stuff. I always knew I didn't want to be pregnant at 16, or a drop out, or a drug addict, so my decisions were based off worst case scenario (if i have sex, I WILL get pregnant, if I get drunk and go to that party something bad WILL happen) I knew the consequences of my actions and that it was me who made them.

Each kid has to learn certain things on their own. I know when I have kids we are going to have daily, weekly, monthly chats about stuff and I am going to make sure they know about the consequences of their and others actions.

Answer 3

I could not agree with you more....I have 2 sons that are grown and out on their own,...but when they were little guys,..but old enough to understand and reason, I started talking very openly with them, and trying to answer questions as honestly and candidly as I could. We had and still have a great open and honest relationship I never once felt that they were sneaking around or lying about anything. I never told them that they could not or should not do something,...but to think it through carefully and give it thier best judgement..they never let me down.

THe sex talks were a little awkward at first, but after a while, even that becomes easier to talk about...and when you have 2 teen age boys with raging hormones...believe me you do want to address the issues.

So, I agree with you whole heartedley and wish more parents would think like this.

Answer 4

I asked a very similar question a while ago. Got some prety interesting answers. I hope you find what you're looking for. I think it's just society. Kids mouth off too much and some parents are scared to stick it out. They love them too much. Kids have too many resources and we don't know what they have learned elsewhere and what exactly they don't know. Hence the creation of Sex Ed. classes. ^_^ More power to ya!

Answer 5

You are RIGHT ON !! But, in defense of parents also, some kids do not want to hear about any of it ,,,(at least from their parents),,and lo and behold that's part of the problem. Adults do not know anything---we have only been there and done it all way before teenagers even thought about it. We're old fashioned and dumb...but we haved experienced and lived through the same issues these kids have.

Answer 6

A_MEN could not have put it better than that. Alot of parents think that their children need not know these thing till it's too late. Or their children don't know about these things well guess what our kids know more now than we did at their age back in the day..

Answer 7

A lot of parents are to busy or to embarrassed to tell their kids the facts of life etc. I raised 7 children and I made sure they understood the facts of life and I wasn't to busy or embarrassed to tell them!

Answer 8

I'm not a parent but us kids wish we could go talk to our parents about this stuff. but sometimes its easier to talk to strangers, about it. we wish we could talk to our parents about it but we feel like the won't understand it. i know i wish i had a closer realtionship with my parents so i could tell them everything thats going on with me but i have told that stuff to strangers instead. maybe the parent should bring it up first and not always wait for the kid to bring it up.

Answer 9

Rah! Rah! Rah! You deserve this for voicing your intelligent and caring question. Way to go!

Answer 10

it's like my youth pastor said last wednesday.
"you don't wanna talk to your kids about sex, but you don't want their friends to tell them and encourage it"
i stay true to god, and i stick with going to my parents about sumthin i'm not sure about.
or Jason and Katie. (youth pastor and his wife)