last night i and my bf were taking about sex and he told me that his thing is bigger than average, so i dared him to show it....and he did and it is indeed bigger than the average...but the thing is , I AM A VIRGIN and he doesn't know that, i guess he tried to show off but i got scared, its my first time, and i think we are getting there, so i am even more scared....
2006-09-29 11:38:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok let me tell u something, if you are scared DONT! do it, this is a special moment for you, and u want it to be perfect. if he doesnt know that u are a virgin, talk to him, just so he understands and can know that its a special moment for u. just please dont rush into anything if u arent ready.
2006-09-29 11:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't do anything you are not sure about or afraid of or reluctant to. that is your common sense talking to you trying to tell you that you are not ready yet. BTW how would you know what average looks like? the first time is supposed to be special not wasted on a young man that does not understand the magnitude of the gift. it is not going to be like the movies. there are no explosions and the ground does not shake. there is pain and maybe some blood. it is something that you will remember for the rest of your life. is the back seat of a car or sneaking off to a motel the way you really want to give away your childhood and graduate into womanhood? it is a special time for you and should be shared with someone special when you are both old enough to understand why it is special and can deal with the consequences. some girls have gotten pregnant on their first time. if you are not strong enough to resist make sure you have safe sex.
2006-09-29 11:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your first time, why not wait till you are married or at least engaged. If you are afraid then it sounds to me like you feel this is an expected thing in dating. It is NOT. When the right guy comes along you will not wonder if you need to tell him that you are a virgin. You will feel comfortable with him and you will tell him automatically and he will know he has to be gentle and he will appreciate the fact that you are a virgin. Why not cool things down, give it lots of thought, and decide if he is the guy you really want to lose your virginity to. Good Luck.
2006-09-29 11:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am a little bigger than average also and about 5 years ago, my girlfriend at the time and I had the same problem. She was a virgin and I was big. As long as you are ready, make sure you have some lube, and then just take it slow. He may put it in just a bit and then have to take it out and wait for you to be comfortable a few times. (Or many, many times) but it is all about you being comfortable. You may even have to try again on a separate occasion, but eventually you will get used to it, and then the possibilities are endless. Good luck!
2006-09-29 11:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Grrfield 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it's decision time - either you decide your not ready yet (which is ok and should be ok with him) or you decide you are ready (which I assume means you've got the birth control under control). If you are ready, then you need to tell him you're virgin and that you are a little apprehensive about the whole thing. His reaction will let you know whether he's sensitive and caring or a jerk. If he's jerk, dump him. If he's sensitive and caring then the two of you just need to take things REALLY slow the first time - in fact, you might not even make it to intercourse - that's ok - just be patient and loving.
Patiently,
RT
2006-09-29 11:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by RT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety thats normal to be scared. u need to let him no u are a virgin and really think about what u are doing. dont fell pressured and dont let him pressure u into doing something u are not sure of sex or making love to someone sould be special and not something u do just because everone else does it if u do deside to go all the way use a condom be save
2006-09-29 11:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so if you are a virgin im assuming you havent seen any other "things" so how do u know his "thing" is bigger than average?? n u dont trust ur bf enough to tell him you are a virgin?
2006-09-29 11:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay a virgin that is the best thing for you. Your young and their is plenty of time for sex in your life.
This won't get the best answer award but it is the best advise you can get.
2006-09-29 11:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOO!!!! dont do it!!!! hahaha, i mean save urself till ur married, its the freshest thing, dont ripped apart by some guy u kno u wont be with forever cuz u'll regret it, so dont be scared cuz u dont have to do it....just wait. virginity is the best thing... and u love the fact that u kept it.. cuz when u dont some ppl become emotionally disturbed
2006-09-29 11:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by babiluv 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with waiting. Talk to your mom. If she isn't someone you can trust, find another woman you can talk to. Just because you can have sex, and have taken all of the precautions, it doesn't mean you have to.
2006-09-29 11:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋