I desperately want to get a cat, but my fiance says no. We are expecting our first child in three weeks. Apart from baby i would like some company in the day time as i plan to be a stay at home mum, but fiance still says no. Do you think it is a good idea to get a cat when i will be so busy with my new baby, and if so how can i persuade him to say yes?
2006-09-29 11:26:30 · 35 answers · asked by Nicki L 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
Wait a few months, being a new mom is a lot of work, and once you get into the groove of being a mom, see if you still want a pet. If you do, ask again. What are his reasons for not wanting a cat? If he hasn't given you any, ask him what they are.
2006-09-29 11:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.. firstly congratulations on expecting! I am sure you will be majorly busy with a new born around the place, and I would advise at this stage not to get a cat. now, thats not normally what I would advise, as I am always trying to get people to have a cat as a pet as I love them so much, but I think your timing needs to be better. Do it when you have had the baby, when you are more settled and into a better routine.
A baby will take up a lot of time. Introducing an animal into the equation at this stage will just provide you with more to worry about.
The only other consideration I would ask you to think about is that when I got my last cat, I got him from a rescue centre. He was put there because the woman had just had a baby and felt she could not cope with baby and cat. Cat also became a little jealous over the new edition in the family. Therefore, I would say, please do consider getting a cat in the future, but perhaps when the child is a little older!
Good luck with it all!
2006-09-30 02:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by NikkiJane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience.. cats are not hard work, they pretty much know how to use the litter box from day one. Also a cat doesnt need as much attention as a dog does because a cat is lazy and sleeps alot too, kinda like a baby. If u get a kitten then it can grow up with your child and all that about new babies and cats are not all true. I had a cat when I had my first child and he was over a year and he helped me out alot actually. He slept in her room by her bed and when she cried he would come in on my bed and wake me up. And for your fiance.. he could give it a chance.. most guys dont like cats, they have something against them. so its just a guy thing, My b/f didnt want a cat either and i said well i am going too not like he is going to have to take care of it. And as long as u get a kitten and get vet check ups and its shots and all its not going to give your baby a disease. U get it fixed and good idea to get the front feet declawed and u will have no worries and the cat will grow up with your child and bond with it also. I recently have 4 cats, a puppy and a hamster and 2 kids :) Good luck and best wishes with your new little one.
2006-09-29 12:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your fiancé is right. You do not have a clue how much care it is to keep a cat. You will have as much work with your baby until it is 18 years old. Your cat also will live 18 years old and might not have been a single cat. Your baby will take the place of the cat for giving you a lot of company. Cats are not like dogs, cats are indpendent. I would wait and see after the birth of your baby before deciding for a pet. Take care.
2006-09-29 11:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nicolette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until the baby is born then decide if you have the time to devote to a cat. If decide you do have the time, I'd just get one from a rescue shelter and come up with an excuse (eg, it just turned up at the door or it's a friend's cat and because they're moving away they were going to put it down if you didn't take it in!).
Cats are usually self-maintained anyway so it's not as if it will take as much of your time as a dog would. All it will really ask for is a few cuddles and regular food. And if you're going to be home alone then why shouldn't it be up to you whether you have a cat or not?
2006-09-29 11:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no no no no. Your fiance is a very sensible man, you should listen to him. Your hormones are raging at the moment and it is your instinct to want to mother something, but once your baby is born your instincts will tell you to mother and protect it so the cat will be ignored. You won't want the cat near the baby in case it claws or lays on his face, you won't want a litter tray in the house, you won't want your baby getting cat hairs all over him so the cat will end up being ignored. With only 3 weeks to go, the LAST thing on your mind now should be getting any kind of pet. Put your energies into preparing the nursery,laundering all the new baby clothes, relaxing yourself and not getting stressed, ready for giving birth.
2006-09-29 23:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by fenlandfowl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this decision solely up to your fiance? Shouldn't you both have a voice in this? Is he this controlling in all aspects of your life? If so, think long and hard before marrying this guy. As far as getting the cat, you should probably wait until your life settles down a bit. Having a baby is a full time job, you may not have the time or energy to devote to the cat. If you need company, why not join a new mother's group in your area. This is a great way to meet new friends for you and your baby. Good luck!
2006-09-29 12:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by LA_Chick 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
HAVE THE BABY FIRST!!!!
I have 7 cats. I have 3 kids. I had the cats before the kids.
Kittens are like toddlers...needy, messy and ornery! The last thing you need while adjusting to motherhood is something else to take care of. Wait a few months until the baby is on a good schedule and if you feel like you could handle it, bring on the kitty! Of course, by then you can just tell your fiance "it's a pet for the baby" hehehe
My kids have grown with cats at their side and in bed with them at night since they were born. Don't let anyone tell you that cats and babies don't mix!!
2006-09-29 11:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by eyerishiz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a cat lover, but the worse thing you can do is get a cat if you are pregnant.
They can sense when you are pregnant and feel threatened by the new born.
They can sometimes kill the baby, I have heard cases, they will try and suffocate the baby to get the milk, if it is in a bottle.
You must not handle cat litter (dirty) if you are pregnant, have a new born or breast feeding. There is somethng in the faeces that it fatal to humuns and I think can cause blindness
A baby will take up all your time and you will have to keep your eye on the cat aswell, as they are very curious.
2006-10-01 07:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rebz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people think cats are dangerous around small babies(settling on their faces etc) but I've never heard of it happening for real. I've got 3 cats and wouldn't be without them. They are so much less demanding than dogs (I've got 1 of those as well!) and don't really need to be looked after. As long as they get love, food and water they're happy. I honestly believe that kids should grow up with pets; it teaches them consideration, sharing, caring and plenty of other things too. I hope you can persuade your fiance, not to let you have one but to want one as part of your family. Oh, and you'd never have a mouse problem either.
2006-09-29 11:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by diquarry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the moment i would have to say no i would wait until the baby is a few months old and then see how you feel as you don't really want to have a litter tray around your new baby apart from that cats are not that much trouble i have three and work full time and the only time they really bother me is when they want feeding.
2006-09-29 11:33:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋