My friend says shes emo when she's not...?

Question

My friend is saying she's emo and I know she's not but I think she's just doing it for attention. But now she started cutting herself, I don't want her to do that. How can I talk to her and not offend her? What should I say? Should I say anything at all or just let it be and see if she stops???

Answer 1

You might not know things about her that she's never told anyone.

Cutting is NOT emo, and I take serious offense to that.

Yes, some people who are trying to be "emo" cut themselves... but cutting is so much more sensitive and serious than trying to be a certain type of person.

Cutting is a serious medical issue, and your friend needs to be talked to by a psychiatrist, or held in a psych. ward and evaluated for 72 hrs.

Cutting can sometimes be(NOT ALWAYS) a suicidal attempt.

If your friend is just trying to be emo by cutting herself, tell her that is a stupid descision, and you will not talk to her if she continues to do so.

Cutting can form into serious habits(BAD ONES). Trust me, I know from experience.

I said I would try it just one time,and then I became addicted to it. And it's been going on for almost 4 years.

Talk to her about it, but don't DRAG it out of her.

She could be having some serious issues that you don't know about.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Emo or not that is a side issue. If anything let her be emo.

Self harm is extremely common. It doesn't just affect teenagers. Adult professionals including doctors have been known to self harm. Most people who self harm hide it so it is not for attention. Some do it for decades before they can kick it. She may be just experimenting with the idea but that doesn't mean she doesn't need some sort of release. That is exactly what it is a release from mental torment. People are extremely good a hiding what they are feelings. But you can't repress your thoughts forever you need some release.

Self harming is not just symbolic. When you injure yourself your body produces endorphins. These are like natural pain killers and anti-depressants.

If anything don't tell her not to self harm that is likely to have the opposite effect. Just be there for her. Also encourage her to wash her wounds so that they don't get infected. If you are going to touch on the issue, try to be caring about her feelings and not just talk about self harm. Obviously you have to match it with her personality don't be soft if she is not into it, just show you want to understand. Give her an outlet that self harming is doing for her now. If she becomes more receptive encourage her to find out herself about it. There are websites and forums out there. Like this one.

http://www.channel4.com/health/microsites/0-9/4health/mind/wwr_selfharm.html

Don't think if she is not emo, that she will not self harm. If that makes her feel like she belongs to something than so be it. So it is not mainstream but maybe she doesn't want to be mainstream. I bet she wouldn’t want you to become something you weren’t into.

Answer 3

Cutting is serious.
When people hurt inside and can not express their pain, or feel numbed and blunted to the world, sometimes they cut, claiming that cutting pain is the only way they feel alive, and feel /display their pain.
Your friend is in trouble. F**k whether she's emo or not, she's your friend and something is wrong.
Without being judgmental or nasty, let her know you've noticed the cuts and ask her to tell you about them, why, when, what she feels- just listen. Be a friend. Offer to help her find a safe group or person to talk to, and go with her. Tell her cutting scares you, because you love her, and you know that cutting hurts, and something must hurt way more inside if she's doing that.

Answer 4

Wait, emo is not just bad music and hating your parents for only giving you $40 a week for allowance? Now kids have to cut themselves to be emo? Take your friend to a homeless shelter or to a hospital and let her see people with REAL problems
.....and for god sake tell her to listen to some better music

Answer 5

Make fun of emos. That's what I used to do with my sister and now she only likes emo music but she's over the emo behavior!!!

Answer 6

My freind does the same thing but she says she is goth.Do people make fun of her/him if they do that is probably the reason she wants more friends and attention you can't really stop her from doing it unless you are brave enough to tell her the real truth. But it is risking your frendship or you can say just try to be yourself becase i like you that way. And you are acting like you are emo but i know you arent.

Answer 7

I have a close friend who used to cut herself. What she needs is a stable plan out of her troubles, whatever they maybe. Remind her to seek help and remind her as well all that can happen if she does that.

I was talking once to my friend and she told me she was bleeding alot. It was hard but I talked her into getting help and she was okay. Later after a kind of intervention, she got soem things worked out and with a better structure around her is perhaps the best she has ever been.

I urge you to try to get her to some sort of help.

Answer 8

Just address each personality separately. Ask her, who you're talking to when she's in your presence. Find out which personality is doing the cutting and attempt to mentor it; out of the cutting phase. You also might want to find out as to why they have the need to cut themselves; attention, self-mutilation, punishment; struggle between the two personalities, etc...

Answer 9

What is emo? You'd best talk to an adult about you friends situation, if you truely are her friend

Answer 10

attempt to get to the muse. attempt to be certain why is "emo". communicate some sense into her, tell her she is only dropping her existence and that she would desire to SNAP out of it. tell her reducing would not remedy any issues. once you have a situation, remedy AND pick it.