2006-09-29 10:58:04 · 16 answers · asked by red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because being with someone else who was possibly better than them in their opinion and who knows you really well is a problem in friendships let alone stronger emotions... plus people are always scared that their other half still has feelings for their ex, especially when they talk about them alot or protests that they dont... 1 can protest too much!
i suppose its just a human nature thing... everyone wants to look after themselves at the end of the day whether it is in a conscious or subconscious way!
2006-09-29 11:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by amzydoodles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you see your ex as a threat maybe its because he/she still has feelings for you and finding it hard to completely let go and move on. If someone new comes into your life then your ex may try his/her best to make things difficult for you as your new partner is a reminder that you are moving on and a realisation they may have lost you for good.
On the other hand if your new partner sees your ex as a threat it may be just his/her own insecurities or maybe them wondering if the nice feelings you are experiencing together, are the feelings you once shared with your ex and wants for them to be the only one to have ever made you happy.
Its healthy to have a little jealousy in a relationship as the reassurance that comes from tackling the issues can help a relationship to grow stronger. However, a lot of jealousy can be damaging and put a lot of strain on a relationship. The last thing you want is to end up with is a bunny boiler!!
2006-09-29 18:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by angel1902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that ex-partners are the BIGGEST threat because most have history. and that is what it boils down to. they had SOMETHING together...Do they still have a hold on him/her? My bf's ex was pyscho!! she called all the time..we worked together and she would make stupid excuses to come in the store trying to make it look like she wasn't there to see him. She went so far as to blackmail him when she heard that he was buying a house and she thought that we were getting it together. She eventually got him fired & he lost the chance to buy it. Now that sucked! she was a constant presence in our relationship and it was hard for me to stay. i felt that I shouldn't have to deal w/ her!! now 3 yrs later we are still together and she doesn't attempt to contact him (THANK GOD!!) it's a tough situation to be on either of the 3 parts.. if you are the ex you feel replaced or jealous or not good enough...if you are the other part of the 1st relationship you may still care about your ex or have regrets about the break-up.. if you are the new person in the "love triangle" you feel unsure because you don't have any history or because your bf/gf may still have feelings for that other person, it's so hard to gain & earn trust in today's society...it is a rough ordeal to start & maintain a new relationship..it easy to go back to someone you know everything about and who knows everything about you. I believe that TRUST & COMMUNICATION are the most important things to have in any relationship old or new. It seems that there are far more failed relationships than ones that last, but if you don't try and just give up when the going gets tough you won't get very far. you have to fight for what you want & you have to give & take equally.
2006-09-29 18:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by panamared12345 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is not clear as to whom it is a threat to but i would guess to the new partner.This is because your new partner takes in what ever story you tell them that caused your split without necessarily believing it. And there is always a thought in their mind as to what department your ex. was better in after all you dated him or where in love with him/her at one point.And they are more of a threat if it was a long term relationship.But there are less of a threat as your new relationship ages.
2006-09-29 18:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by obino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biggest threat to whom?
2006-09-29 17:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-wife hasn't been any threat at all to me. She is history, she knows it, and I wouldn't tolerate any old bollocks from her now we are separated. I didn't take much fuc*king notice of her when we were together, I take absolutely no notice of her now we are apart. She is an irrelevance, and poses no threat whatsoever.
2006-09-29 18:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Phish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that is true. Why would they be a threat when they are history? I am not sure what you mean bey threat.
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2006-09-29 17:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with panamared, I assume she is a she as the answer was intelligent and well constructed .
I think the answer is :
Because they know everything about you,your current person does not as yet.
2006-09-29 18:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by iain xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They shouldn't be I would hope to be over my ex if I found someone else and for them to let me move on with my life. Visa versa.
2006-09-30 07:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋