is your bf/gf physical appearence to you? Would you leave them if they added 30 lbs to their build? What about if the weight kept them from being able to perform sexually like when they were thinner?
2006-09-29 10:54:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If someone gains that much weight and does not have a medical reason for it then yes I would leave. why? because it would mean they do not care about themselves and about their body. i want to be with someone who takes care of themselves!
2006-09-29 10:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ooh, that is a good question. If I had the ability to vote, you'd get mine. I love my man dearly, and I can only hope he gains weight and it reduces his drive! Ha ha. I think that physical appearance is important to an extent. We have to be attracted to someone to really feel that way about them (whether we admit it or not). It is human instinct. However, I believe that once we are truly in love a bit of a weight gain shouldn't take that love away. I would absolutely not leave my guy if he gained some weight. Now if he gained the weight and it went to his head and he just gave up on life, I can see that changing the personality that I love so dearly. I don't know that I would leave him, but I certainly would encourage therapy! If the weight kept him from being able to perform, I would just join a gym with him and get us both in better shape.
A relationship is something that always should be worked on together. Problems in relationships are never one-sided, and if they can not be worked out mutually, then I don't think it's a very good relationship. I can do anything with my guy!
2006-09-29 18:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by boggin828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my bf for who he is on the inside.. of course there was an initial attraction between us but I am not looking for "appearances" necessarily when I am attracted to someone. What attracts me more is the way they look around at things - take things in.. the way they talk about things, their passion, beliefs - those traits on the inside that will never fade with time or go away. I do pay more attention to someones' face then their body though - that does not really matter to me - as long as they feel healthy & we have chemistry. I am not attracted to that typical man that most women are attracted to.. I like different features - things that set a man apart from the others. And some women never see what I see - but I just see things differently I guess. The face is what you see every morning and night - their eyes.. that never changes.. but a body can always change.. so to me, I just have to have that initial attraction to something about them - and then what is on the inside draws me in..
He turns me on no matter what cause he is who he is - and he just knows how to - and he doesn't even have to try - it is just there between us.. so he is a very sexy man but that just is a bonus... What makes sex and our relationship so good - so strong is that strong connection we feel to each other - eyes open or eyes shut - it is there so I would say physical appearance is the least important of anything between us.. though we are lucky that we have that attraction as well.
I have been with my guy for years and he has gone up and down - that is ok.. if it meant no sex for a while like it used to be, we would deal with that too - there are many other ways to get around that I am sure.. Most couples - after getting into relationships - go through times when their weight fluctuates cause they have settled down a bit and are more comfortable with the other person - not looking to impress someone new, etc. I am here for him though so if he were heading way up - we would work out together, etc - the body can always change.. I would want him to be healthy above all.
We were meant to be together and when you are with someone who you feel like that with - you will stay with them regardless of what happens to their physical appearance - sometimes people get into accidents and become disfigured, handicapped, etc - and people leave them who used to tell them they were in love with them. I think that is horrible - if you love someone you LOVE someone - not based on some conditions - escpecially materialistic or physical ones.. that is not love.
So many people base love or feelings on looks alone and realize in the long run that no matter who that person is and what they looked like - it wasn't enough to hold their interest cause there was nothing on the inside to reflect the beauty on the outside.
2006-09-29 17:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me but I would not leave someone I loved just for that. I would try to help them get back in shape
2006-09-29 17:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by hope4best 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never stop loving my man because of a weight gain. There are lots of ways to make love, so if one way is too difficult because of our weights we could try many more.
2006-09-29 17:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
nope i love my boyfriend with all my heart and nothing will change that
2006-09-29 17:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by southernbunny06 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋