He's 22 mo. His twin brother and little sister will be sitting there playing nicly and Brian will just walk over to them and push one over or hit one to take their toy. He's not always trying to be mean to them, sometimes he's trying to get them to wrestle with him, but it still hurts them. We've done time-out, spanking, both, distraction and isolation. I think we need something a little more creative. Any ideas?
2006-09-29 10:52:51 · 14 answers · asked by Lesley C 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A flyswat to the hindquarters worked wonders on my boys. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying to beat your kids, but spankings at the appropriate time coupled with an explanation of why it was/is nessessary does work and gives kids direction. If you don't believe me, ask my 93 year old grandmother who says my kids are 10 times better behaved than my brother's. He and his wife refuse to spank their kids.
2006-09-29 11:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by easi822 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Treat him like a child NOT as a problem... Don't Spank him at all. He is coming into his "terrible Two's" soon. He is probably extremely curious at this time and is copying your behavior towards him, spanking, hitting etc. with his siblings so you must be very careful what message you get across to him. If he doesn't behave separate him from the others...alienation works wonders with very small children. Teach him that cooperation and team work are a key feature to happiness within his group of siblings.
2006-09-29 12:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most of the time when kids act up...it's because they want their parents attention...basically wanting them to do creative things with them...Not just one child but all 3 together. Family outings, Art time, cooking time...little things to get him distracted from the negetive behavior. Once u extablish family time... u'll notice his change in behavior. Do keep up with time out and make it 1 min for every year. Keep it in a spot where it's established that where he will be placed when he acts up. Once time is up have him apolize and let him up to play...STAY TO UR GROUND. if something is changed or not enforced them behavior starts over and u will be fustrated.. GOOD LUCK!!
additon- Spankin can be bad if u intend to hurt them...But spanking can set limits. Honestly that where we have problems with some youth these days. some parents are afraid of raising a hand to set a limit. That what kids need, limits set!! JUST dont' over do it, leaving bruises and blood is abuse. Smack on the hand or behind should do the trick.
2006-09-29 11:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have this same problem with the twin boys I nanny for and I have done everything to get him to stop this to his brother and my daughter who is older by a year. But nothing works. I think that you need to just keep on the discipline and taking things away but also talk and explain what he is doing is wrong and that he needs to learn to share and not hit. But eventually he will grow out of it because one of the twins I nanny for the one that hits and throws is starting to move on but it takes time and discipline.
2006-09-29 11:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Separate them. placed him in a diverse room and make him stay there. do not supply him something to do and if he throws a fit, enable him. supply your daughter some interest and at the same time as he stops throwing a fit flow the different room get down on his aspect and ask him why he thinks you probably did that. If he starts throwing a fit again go away the room and enable him. If he supplies you an answer like "i do not understand" tell him he has to stay there till he does understand. shop him there till he supply you an answer like "I hit my sister" and performance him allow you to recognize why it really is incorrect. make certain he's common with it really is incorrect and ask him if he's able to go back out and be large to his sister. If he does it again, go away him contained in the room again and enable him throw a fit. He ought to ultimately comprehend at the same time as he's way off from his toys and anybody else he must be nicer to his sister.
2016-11-25 02:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with you! My daughter was a biter, and her poor older sister bore the brunt of it. I would just be very firm in telling her NO when she did it, and point out that her sister was CRYING because of her. Sometimes she bit me and I cried -- extra hard, which made her cry. She eventually stopped. Don't worry this won't go on forever!! (I know that doesn't help much NOW. Good luck!)
2006-09-29 10:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to the first 2 people....scold him when he does it...put him on time out, take away something that he likes, don't ever hit him back or push him that is abuse...when he does it tell him in a really Stearn voice "don't hit or push him or her again that is not nice, how would you like it if they did that to you"....then sit him in time out...he is doing it for attention, try to give him alittle more one on one time....he is young and will probably out grow it
2006-09-29 10:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by ramos_luanne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take his toys away and put him somewhere by himself. Just a few minutes should do it. Repeat as necessary. He will get the idea after awhile.
2006-09-29 10:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats what brothers and sisters do, helps their bonds grow stronger. I fought with my brothers as a kid too, now we are all as close as brothers.
2006-09-29 11:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Evil One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-29 12:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋