Anyone else out there who has ( or had) a 3 year old son who has no interest in being potty trained at all?

Question

My son, Jason turned 3 in Aug. He has no intrerest in potty training at all. He has a potty that goes on the big potty. And can care less in it. We have tried big boy undies and all he did was pee in them. Didn't bother him at all.
Here is the thing. We have another son, cody due on Jan. 25th. Becasue of that we are not pushing the potty training. Don't get me wrong I would love to have him fully potty trained. But, it looks like he won't do it. What do you think? Should we try to push it? Or wait until after the new baby is born?
I don't believe in any kinds of rewards in potty training ( or for anything for that matter) and we are teaching him to sit for both pee and poo. I don't think boys need to stand to pee. We can sit for both so can boys.

I don't want any men in my family standing up to pee in our house, because I don't want to clean up the mess. Nothing is wrong with having a boy sitting down to pee. At least until he masters the whole potty training thing?

Sorry but, I grew up with out any brothers and my dad sat to pee because my mom trained him to sit. Just has I trained my husband to sit!

99% of the time my husband sits for both. Becuase I trained him to sit becuse I didn't wait to clean up the pee mess. He has shown Jason both ways and he can care less. I think that a man can be a man even if he sits. Sitting doesn't make him less of a man. And I will not allow my kids to pee out side. That is what a bathroom is for.
And I will not allow my sons to go into the man's bathroom until they are at least 9 years old. My boys can come into the ladies room with me.

OK! My kid doesn't know what a reward is. He has never had a reward in his life. He has never had candy either. I may give him a hug or kiss. But, he will never get a toy or candy becuase he pees or poops in the potty! Kids do not need to be rewared for things they should be doing, like potty training.

Oh, by the way. I am a stay at home mom. And he is not around other kids who go potty. I don't believe in day care at all!

Answer 1

Geeze people! There is nothing wrong with sitting down and peeing! It is much more sanitary. Those of you who have husbands who stand and pee in the bathroom in your bedroom, think twice before you use you toothbrush! My husband sits too. I never have to worry about falling into the toilet or sitting on pee. He stands when he has to use the restroom in public.

Now that I've vented, I think if you son is not showing an interest you should wait. If you train him now, he may regress when the baby arrives. It may help him to take an interest when he sees that his baby brother is wearing diapers. He may want to be the big boy and not want to be in diapers any longer.

It's great that you are not trying to force the issue. If you insist, he will resist. He is the only one who can control this. Count out the remainder of his diapers. Say "After 7 more diapers, use get to use the bathroom." Make sure he is in clothing that he can get on and off without any help, including some "big boy" underwear. If he cannot get on the toilet by himself, get him a step stool. When you see him doing the "potty dance" say to him "It looks like you need to use the bathroom." Give it no more attention than that. When he is successful, give him a hug and congratulate him. If he soils himself, hold him responsible for the clean up. Say to him "It looks like you need to change." He can remove the soiled clothing, rinse them out, put them in the laundry, clean his body, and put on dry clothing. He will soon learn that it is much easier to use the toilet. Hope this helps! Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 2

My first son potty trained at three years old with my second son due in a few months as well, small world. Anyway, I had my son go with my husband, and when the call of nature sounds, he will pee anywhere(gross) and my son found out that men can (and do) pee everywhere and do it standing to boot. Well, we thought the lesson did not take,not until 3 months later(after the baby came) until while at a friends house, she caught my son teaching her son that men pee standing up. The fact that made her so mad was that they were peeing in the air conditioning unit in the back yard.

Answer 3

First, teaching him to sit for both will only make him stand out and feel self conscious when he enters school- plus would you want to sit in a man's bathroom?? Gross!!!! Do the men in his life sit when peeing? If not this could confuse him. I was going to suggest letting him pee in the back yard or something like that. My nephew responded well to that. Secondly, if you're at your wits end then why don't you set up a reward system. Training children is very much like training animals.
Reward good behavior : Get good results!
Good Luck1

Answer 4

first without being rude, there is nothing wrong with rewards for potty training....don't push him he will do it when he is ready try putting him on the potty each time you change him and maybe even once in awhile just to do it eventually he will pee in the potty and that's when you reward him, it doesn't have to be money, toys or candy it could just be praise tell him how excited and happy you are that he went....and teach him to stand a pee it is much easier for them......you need to teach that boy to be a man.......if you teach him to sit and pee he will most likely have a lot of torment from others when he gets older

Answer 5

sitting to pee for boys isn't the way to teach him. they all stand. so should your son. and rewards are incentive. either it really isn't his time and there is no use in pushing it or you can work with him. a few cheerios to aim at are fun for boys and a treat afterwards is the key. my son loved gummie candy so i bought a costco bowl and would reward him and make it a big deal when he went. there was also the regression stage but that's all normal as well. i don't get why you want him to sit though? are you single or married? is there a male role model in his life? and why would you not want to reward him for a job well done. it's a great way to help him get into it.

but for the most part whatever you decide pushing isn't the answer. it will only deturr him. it will all happen in good time

Answer 6

firstly i would get your son checked in case there is a medical problem

but barring that we can be thinking in terms of keeping your son in nappies - but don't make them the nice absorbent ones - make them the less absorb ant ones that become uncomfortable once used

he may then get the idea that using a potty isn't so bad after all

and yes the standing for a pee with boys comes a lot later (school age) so sitting down for both is easier for them.

praise him up for times when he starts showing readiness - even if he isn't totally successful at first

also go and visit a local school and note how many of them are actually wearing nappies - they do grow out of it - just some sooner than others.

my son was 4 and then became potty trained overnight with very few accidents after trying with him for over a year

Answer 7

My son was three when we started potty training. I am like you and don't give my son candy for going to the bathroom and I didn't push him. He loves the movie "Cars" so I got him Cars underwear. I told him that Lightning McQueen doesn't like to be wet or dirty. That was what worked for us. Also, I let him spray air freshener after he poops. He thinks it is the neatest thing to spray that stuff. Try not to push your son. Especially with the new baby on the way. He will let you know when he is ready. No matter what anyone says, he will not graduate from high school in diapers (that's what the grandparents kept telling me).

Answer 8

have daddy train him. my son who is three and just trained in august. learned and got it down when daddy took an intrest in teaching him. he was the same way except he hated wet underwear. so daddy put him in big boy undies and in a week he had it but he was ready. give it time when the baby comes he will regress but keep at it and when hes ready he will do it

Answer 9

Well, if you don't believe in rewards, you may be waiting awhile. He has no incentive! It's not like he CARES what others think of him at age 3, so embarrassment isn't a motivation obviously. The motivation, I would think, is going to have to come from his parents.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Well you can try to make a game out of it "Sink the Cheerios" does help. But something else that has help me with other things(binky) was making up a story. I used a simple story i made up as i went along. Something along the lines of the tooth fairy, except i called it the binky fairly and she comes and collects the binkys for the new babies that need them and leave something you know that they love behind as a reward. My son is now seven and i heard him telling that story to one of his younger cousins. to which it has also worked. Good luck.( May i suggest diaper fairy for diapers for new baby brother.)