I ahve been dating this guy for 2 months now and I am wondering how to talk to him or even if I should about the happenings in my life. I have a 4 year old from a failed marriage (not a problem), we have never talked about said marriage. Right now it is the source of alot of stress as we are finalizing the divorce. I am having to sell my house because of this as I have discovered I can't afford it as a single mother...stressful! Plus, someone quit suddenly at my job and I have inherited a massive increase in my workload and a possible promotion...stressful! Everytime I have had a bad day I want to run to him, but am not sure if I can. He works nights, so he is working while I'm sleeping and sleeping when I'm working. He will call me from work while I'm destressing from my day and then talk to me for about a minute in some robotic from of communication that leaves me feeling even more upet. Is it too soon to drop all of my problems on him, how can I tell if he's really ready?
2006-09-29 10:33:41 · 5 answers · asked by Devon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask him. Tell him that you life is very stressful right now and would like to be able to talk to him about it but you're not sure he's at the point where he's willing to listen. Tell him that it won't upset you if he's not - you understand but it would be nice to know you can talk to him about at least SOME of it.
2006-09-29 10:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think after you have dated more than a couple of times then you are allowed to start sharing the bad in addition to the good. You call him your boyfriend so I'm assuming this relationship is more than just casual dating and that there aren't other people either of you is seeing. That means you should each expect to be able to lean on each other when things get tough. Ultimately it is during these hard times that you find out if this relationship is really as strong as you think and if it really is the right relationship for you or if this has just been fun but isn't anything serious.
2006-09-29 17:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that this is someone that you CAN open up to, then tell him, that you have something on your chest that you want to get off, and watch his response. The way he responds is going to tell you whether or not he'll be a good listener!
2006-09-29 17:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Melandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dump on him now you may freak him out. Talk to a good friend about your problems or a counscellor.
Good Luck.
2006-09-29 17:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him enjoy the relationship, and don't drag a bunch of unneeded stress into it.
2006-09-29 17:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋