I've been with my baby father for only 3 years and he's ready to get married. I think were to young but I do love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I feel that if we get married young it won't last.
2006-09-29 10:12:33 · 32 answers · asked by teeka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
having doubts doesn't mean you're not ready. it means you are thinking it through, and that's very mature. lots of people have doubts when they are about to make a very important decision.
think about all the things that marriage will change. are you living together now? do you share a bank account and expenses? things which were once separate become joined after marriage. if you're already sharing these things, then marriage won't change things much.
think about it from a financial standpoint too: will your tax situation improve from marriage? will combining incomes (if they're not combined already) make life easier or more stressful?
keep your baby in mind too. will there be a bad custody battle if divorce does occur?
if you've thought the outcome through beyond mere love, and you still want to do it, then do it. some people marry young and go on to lead happy, fulfilled marriages. some people marry way later and have horrible marriages. it all boils down to if YOU think you're ready.
2006-09-29 10:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by woodpecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know this is totally your decision .think twice act once or think many times act once.Hey I don't know a way a special test to understand am I ready for marriage this is related with your feelings.
Do you love him.Do you want to marry .Do you want to make a baby.Can you look after your baby on your own if you are break up with your husband.Is it the right person for you.Answer these questions .And think a little rationally emotions are temporary and can pass.Think for yourself love yourself .Will it be better for the rest of your life .Do you know your partner completely I mean do you know all personality and characteristics of him .Why are you so fast about getting married you can live together for a while then get married.Be sure about that before getting married
2006-09-29 12:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then baby, you're not ready.
Ask him why he's ready and see what he says. If he's really in love and knows this is what he wants, then if you love him too, he'll wait til you're ready. If he says it's because it's the next logical step, or some crap like that, then it's more about him thinking he's doing right by you and the baby (which is not necessarily a bad thing), but his love for you isn't a factor and it won't last because you'd be going into it for the wrong reasons.
Know what you two want and where his feelings stand before you make your final decision.
Good Luck!
2006-09-29 10:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey if you are asking this question then you are not ready. I don't know about you but when I find the person that I am meant to spend the rest of my life with then I will have NO doubts. If I do have doubts then I think it would be settling!
I suggest figuring out where your doubts are coming from and work on them prior to accepting any engagment.
I know you say its about your age but come on, age means nothing if you were truly in love with him and wanted to spend the rest of your life with him would you really care if you were 16 or 60? No you'd be running off and marrying the man. What are you really scared of?
So many times my girlfriends tell me "I really love him. I could see myself with him forever." Only to turn around a year latter and tell me that they knew all along that they didn't really want to be with the person.
I think a lot of times we get comfortable and we mistake comfort and stability for love (Sometimes we just plane talk ourselves into loving someone!) I think you have to do a lot of soul searching. Do not agree until you have NO doubts!
2006-09-29 10:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are ready for marriage if you are willing to divorce. Only married people can divorce, so if you do not want to ever get divorced, never marry. I've been married 7 times, and can assure you that there is no sure way to know if a marriage will last. I believe you should simply get married. It is very good for the economy, and Dr. Laura's nerves. Marriage is the only way to cool romance, lower sex drives and ensure that you will simply disappear as an individual. It is better to be angry than to be lonely. Marriage is a surefire way to generate regrets, and regrets are the shortest path to individual growth. Make the mistake. You can always correct it by divorce later. If you are a good actor/actress and like to fool friends, family and co-workers, marriage is a wonderful way to get daily kicks, and to develop your deeper hypocrisy skill set. Congratulations!
2006-09-29 10:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have the slightest doubt about marrying him, then you are not ready. Although you do want to marry him and spend the rest of your life with him, I would wait until you have no more doubts and truly believe that your love will last!
2006-09-29 10:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by marypaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that getting married to him now is any different from getting married to him later. You are already a couple. It think what most people mean is that you should not have gotten involved with him at a young age. It is too late for that now, so go ahead and get married and give it your best shot.
2006-09-29 10:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is serious. If you are willing to go through life with him, through thick and thin, through rich or broke, whether sick or healthy, then you might be ready. I knew a lady once. Her husband divorced her because she had breast cancer and a breast was removed. Why am I telling you this? Because things happen over life. Every married couple will face something big and you have to be willing to deal with it. If you are not, then don't get married.
2006-09-29 10:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Aria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter, it depends on how mature the couple are. You already have a child and are raising it. I call that mature! Getting married young doesn't mean it won't last, you both have to work on making your marriage work! You will have your ups and downs, everyone does, but if you both work together, the marriage will work!
2006-09-29 10:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay inside a house, its better to get in and not come out, than to stay outside and think if you enter you will be thrown out. Because while you are thinking you are outside.
Marry
A good marriage will last a thousand years even if you are young or old. True love lives forever
2006-09-29 10:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋