Girlfriend Problem....?

Question

I’ve just had one of those weeks! My girlfriend who I’ve been going out with for about 7 months, has been starting to get on my nerves, I thought she was going off me, but apparently not!

She’s really intelligent (much more than me), and got higher grades at school (all A*’s), so is applying to Universities’ such as Cambridge. I won’t be but am applying to still some top otheruniversities’, but all she goes on about is how clever she is, her exact comment was ‘oh, people LIKE YOU don’t need to apply to University yet’ (for Cambridge you have to apply earlier than normal universities’, and she just like puts me down all the time. She’s just really patronising, and the smallest little things that she does are just starting to get on my nerves, for example, I’ll see her when I have a break, but she’ll say she’s busy and stuff, so we spend very little time together, yet when we next meet up and go away for the weekend, she says we're great? what do i do?

Answer 1

"Little Girls" or "Immature Girls" have this annoying habit of thinking the world revolves around them.....they also feel if they have pressure or insecurities in their life it is perfectly acceptable to put others down to make themselves feel superior......which anyone with half a brain can see is very wrong.....it is caused by poor breeding and lack of positive discipline....First let us tackle this obvious misconception of a good university, Cambridge is an Ivy league school....but it doesn't produce any higher quality students than Let's say UCLA or Central Michigan....And I have known quiet a few Lib Art majors who barely scooted through Brown....So you see...right there proves she really isn't all that bright.....Second let's tackle the fact you have been only with her seven months...Unless this is your first relationship I highly doubt your that "close" at this point that you would be devastated to walk away....am I right in assuming as much????

I feel you're letting her get to you when you need to basically put her in her place (verbally) and tell her to either respect you for who you are not what SHE wants you to be...cut out her childish behavior....quit acting like something she never will become....or you will walk away with your dignity intact!!!! Our partners are supposed to make us feel good when we are around one another and make us feel good about ourselves...support and love, encouragement.....If you can't get that out of her quit trying to beat that dead horse and walk away!!!!

Answer 2

Sounds like she's a little stuck up her own ***. The thing about intelligent people is that they sacrifice social skills for brain power.

I'd try, next time she says something like that, to confront her and say "do you know how much that hurts me?" She maybe thinks that you think it a joke if you try and laugh it off. Her A*s were in GCSE I take it? (Or can you get * in alevel now?) Cause if they are, A-level is a completely different can of worms. And they do say pride comes before a fall.

If she was truely intelligent, she would have a bit more modesty. Like I said, talk to her (I know its difficult with lads) but you might find that she's very surprised that you feel that way.

You sound just as intelligent yourself, don't ever think you're less intelligent than other people. You're probably more intelligent in ways that can't be measured by exams.

Answer 3

couple of things stand out:
she is really intelligent(much more than me)
puts me down all the time
really patronising
shes busy and stuff

one a scale of one to ten, how is ur self-esteem, self-love and confidence.

Who says that you are not intelligent enough?
you and u critisize ureself by her standards and not ur own

puts u down all the time, means u dont pick urself up at all, another way of looking at urself with her in mind

really patronising
putting down, tolerating but also by her standards, what about ur standards

she is busy and stuff, well dont u have somethin g to do with your life?, what might you do on ur own, does ur life revolve around her? Do you need her to complete you, do you need her to be happy?, If so then you are in this relationship for all the wrong reasons

Answer 4

She sounds kind of mean and degrading. It is rude to say those things to you. I think you should move on and find someone that respects you and appreciates that you are intelligent enough to go to any university. She also sound arrogant. Think about all the women that will be at the universtiy you decide to go to.

Answer 5

pass on. that's no longer hassle-free, yet do no longer waste our life in this. There are different women human beings greater desirable looking with greater to grant. that's like a drug, yet get some help (in simple terms communicate it out with a counselor, have faith me, it helps) and know which you will desire to have greater desirable. do no longer enable it get you down or make you greater jaded than you would be able to nicely be. as quickly as you start up worrying with regard to the type you sense and respecting your self greater, you will attraction to a greater physically powerful high quality female. there is not any longer something incorrect with being single, it would not propose you're on my own. She needless to say isn't the single.

Answer 6

Nobody wants to be with someone who makes them feel small. You should let her know that you are not her patsy and won't stand to be condescended to just because she's smart. I'm sure that there is a lot of things that she is NOT qualified for. If it makes her feel better about herself to belittle you, then she's not the girl for you. Who likes to feel inferior?

Besides that, if you two go to different colleges and she's acting like this now...pretty soon you're going notice that you aren't welcome around her "new brainy friends" and that you feel like you are not "as good as she is" around people. After that happens, you'll hear less and less from her until one day, someone says "yeah, I ran into __________at a little coffee house and she was pontificated with this nerdy looking guy in a beret." You don't want to go out like that, do you?

Give her up now, so you can enjoy the rest of your high school days with someone who truly can make you feel good about yourself.

Answer 7

Loose her man, if you are just finishing high school then there are a thousand other girls out there for you to meet. If she is acting like that then she is not the person for you, either right now or at all. Dump her.

Answer 8

You are being used. How could you tolerate such a condescending attitude? 7 months isn't that long - cut it off now. That's my advice.

Answer 9

Don't let a gal "sit on your face" out side of the bedroom!! She is putting you down and does not respect you!! Drop her before you will be committed to a "nut house"!

Answer 10

Are you mostly sexual on the weekends with her ? If the answer is "Yes" .. then she enjoys sex with you .. and perhaps as some kind of lower end friend. I wouldn't plan a future with her. I'd move on. Good Luck! :)