basically, he wants to know, can you be attracted to someone, without finding them physically attractive, he thinks he might love this woman, but he does not find her physically attractive, it is doing his head in, and mine, can you help, any advice?
2006-09-29 09:39:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has dated her before, they are extremely compatible, intellectually, and he loves being in her company,.
2006-09-29 09:47:33 · update #1
sosueme53, Thanks for that theory, but it is definetely not the case, absolutely not, but thanks for your answer.
2006-09-29 09:59:38 · update #2
Yes, it is possible for a male to love someone he does not find particularly physically attractive. He must be really taken by her personality and heart. Men can become infatuated and fall for women, but we really choose to love. True love doesn't really befall a man like I believe it does for a woman.
If it is doing his head in though, that could be a problem. He may feel he is lacking something in a potential relationship by not feeling physically attracted. I really know the feeling and it is not a good one.
For example, I love my wife to death. I would never deliberately do anything to harm her and I want her to be happy. However, by no means do I find her physically attractive anymore (she's gotton very fat ). I choose to remain in love and committed to her and honor my marital commitment to her, although, by no means am I satisfied in the relationship.
I hope the insight helps.
2006-09-29 09:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a beautiful balance. No one can truly say that looks play no part in it, but in the end, everyone knows that whats inside is most important. If she has such a great personality, i would go for it. He might be surprised to find that over a while he actually does become attracted to her physically...it happens a lot. Don't pass up Simone great because of looks, i would tell him to date her, but keep it innocent. That way he gives himself some time to see if it would work out, and if it doesn't then he can move on.
2006-09-29 16:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by marcus K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is if he's attracted to her as a person or as a woman? As a person it;s very normal but as a woman its very incomplete , maybe would be better to let her go so that she can found a man who would be attracted to her also physically.
2006-09-29 16:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure if he is under 8 years old, he might want someone to play with. If he is older that 14 than it will never work, eventually he will want to go out in public with a girl. Who wants to be seeing with someone that is not attractive.
2006-09-29 16:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by leocruz21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can love there personality and the way they are, but I don't think things will last if your not physically attracted to someone. Even if that person is ugly, but to you they are the best looking to you. That's all that matters. So yeah, I guess he can love this person's personality, character, etc. But I dont think it will last.
2006-09-29 16:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think physical attraction has so much to do with being in love...How else would you prove your love without making love....
2006-09-29 16:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not attractive and its "doing his head in" it may cause problems later. Otherwise if he loves her he should find her attractive. It sort of comes naturally. But it is definitely possible
2006-09-29 16:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by cheryle222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can be, but the love won't last long or while the relationship is going he will find her more attractive the more he sees her sweet soul.
2006-09-29 16:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ellise T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can...he has proven that himself. He obviously sees something that he likes/loves/ wants in this woman and it overwhelms her physical features. Tell him he has a great quality about himself. He isn't shallow. G'luck!
2006-09-29 16:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to bag her (put a bag over her face)that makes looking at ugly people a little easier
2006-09-29 16:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by soldierof the 82ndAirborne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋