Abortion goes against everything that I was ever taught to believe, and I don't want to go that route.
I'm also afraid that this is going to cause some kind of unresolvable difference between the two of us. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to kill the baby, either. It didn't do anything wrong...
Help!
2006-09-29 09:28:46 · 29 answers · asked by <3 The Pest <3 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My husband and I talked about it, and we've decided that we're going to keep the baby! He was accepting of the idea when I told him that I couldn't live with having an abortion!
2006-09-29 13:36:09 · update #1
OldRGuY4Y, you're reading comprehension skills are lacking, by the way.
2006-09-30 01:45:30 · update #2
First, I would like to tell you that my husband and I are completely against abortion, we have 6 kids, the last 2 are twins. Did your husband say that he wants you to have an abortion, or do you feel that he will, and he just hasn't done it yet? Does he have any information about abortion, about the side effects for women, not only mentally, but physicially? Has he ever seen pictures of aborted babies? Does he know that there is a definate link between womanhood cancers and abortion? Find out what he knows first and we'll go from there. You have our complete support, I have known several couples who have adopted babies. I have one girlfriend who has 7 kids, the last 5 are adopted. Encourage your husband by giving him info. on how to raise kids, about the growth of the unborn baby, have him come to your dr. appts. be sure he comes to the ultra sound so he can see that his child is alive and it would be murder to have it aborted. Get him involved in your pregnancy, maybe have him help keep track of your weight gain, make a graph with the circumfrance of your stomach vs. your weight. Do you already have children? How long have you been married? Why would he want to have the baby aborted? Is there some financial stress to make him want that? There are alot of resources out there. Let me know and I can help you.
2006-09-29 09:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not the one to judge and such and I don't have anything against your husband but he should be happy that you to will have a child. A child brings a family closer and stronger and there is nothing better than to actually have something that is yours....your child....your baby....yours. Together i know both you and your husband will overcome this and he will except the act that you are pregnant. Thats why you marrried each other because you guys love and care and trust each other. And what other way is there to say I love you then to share your own child? Plus abortion is illegal and morally wrong. Beacause yes from conception that baby is a human baing and does not deserve to be murdered. But I wish you the best of luck and suggest that the two of you sit down and discuss the situation. Remember the two of you love each other and you two will love your child. Good Luck.
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2006-09-29 09:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by No_other_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't tell your hubby you are pregnant until it's too late to have an abortion! That solves it! Now whether or not you give it up for adoption is another story! But...if he doesn't know until it's too late, he can't make you abort!
I'm so sorry about your situation! I just don't see how your hubby would want you to abort something that was created by the two of you! If he doesn't want the baby when it's born and you do...then you are better off without him!! Because, if you stay...it will only cause problems in the future! Best of luck with everything and congratulations on the pregnancy!!!
2006-09-29 09:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_gal04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. listen. This is a choice you are going to have to end up making sooner or later, so here's what I have to say.
You are married, I presume, seeing you have a husband. And if you're pregnant, than clearly you have had sex without protection. And what usually comes out of that? Pregnancy. If he really doesn't want kids, either right now or never, then he should have taken the steps to prevent this from happening. If you feel you should keep the baby, I say go with your gut. I personally would never have an abortion, no mater if it ruined my life or not.
Again, this is something that could have been prevented, and had the necessary steps been taken, then this wouldn't be a problem.
Best of Luck,
Lauren
2006-09-29 09:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by TudorRose1595 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm Vice from the advice Gurlies. Your problem is a very hard one. But my advice for you is talk to your husband before it's too late for an abortion. Have a mature discussion and see what he thinks. Listen and Learn then state your opinion. Another thing that is important for you to know is abortion isn't a bad thing. Your not killing the baby just the fedis. Anyway if it'll be too hard for you to take care of the baby now or handle being pregnant then it's actually a better idea to have an abortion. You wouldn't twant this baby to have to have a bad or hard life becuase of a wrong decstion. Another possiblilty id giving the baby up for an adoption (if it okay with your husband) you can give your baby to a noutring family that you know will take good care of him or her. But before making any of these decistions you should definalty consult your husband. I hope I have been of assistance. I'm Vice and the other Advice gurlies are . Ad, gurl, and Ies. If you have problems we have answers. Email us at: advicegurlies@yahoo.com Thank you!
2006-09-29 09:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by carly Monhufermona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with my gut instincts. You don't believe in abortion, did he know that when your first got together. what would make you think he would want you to abort this child? Talk to him first and see what he says, he might want this baby. If you don't like the answer he gives you, tell him that you want your baby, The question now, is what do you want more, your boyfriend or your baby?. Let your conscience be your guide. You are the one that will have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.
2006-09-29 09:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God - he's your husband, i find it hard to believe that your husband will want you to abort it. A husband and wife should be completely inlove and making a child out of love is a beautiful thing.
What kind of husband would do that? If you just talk to him, he might have a different reaction. It's completely up to you anyway. Having your husband and your baby growing inside of you is an amazing feeling and I love being pregnant. Go with what YOU believe in. never do what a man tells you, regardless of who is to you.
2006-09-29 09:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Vickyandbump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks/tries to force you to kill the child that the two of you created, then he's obviously not a very good husband. Children will be your children forever--men are like the tide...they come and go. Why would he want you to have an abortion? Is he really THAT selfish?
2006-09-29 09:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are in love with a true winner. If you want to keep the baby, then keep the baby. If you abort it for him then your relationship is probably over because your resentment towards him will never go away.
At the end of the day you need to talk to him. Who knows he may surprise you!
2006-09-29 09:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by joelrnic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to be your decision. It may be his baby too, but it is YOUR body. If you do not think that you are ready to have a child and do not want an abortion, then putting the baby up for adoption is the best solution. If your husband cannot respect that, then your marriage is already doomed.
2006-09-29 09:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋