guys and girls, help me im confused?

Question

I like a new girl at school and she is confusing me. Sometimes she is quiet and reserved and other times she talks to a certain group of people. I have never spoken to her, so I want to be friends first. There is literally no time for us to talk b/c the 1 class we have together is a pretty nontalkative class and i sit as far away from her as possible (b/c of the teacher not my chioce obviously). I happen to know one of the kids she talks to and i know his screen name. I have only known him this year and don't know if i can trust him. SHould i take the risk and ask him what things she likes(sports,music) so that a have base for a conversation, or should i just approach her and try my best to make a conversation myself ( i might be able to at lunch)? Keep in mind I am not that popular (i'm not a nerd though) and i am nervous as hell to do this! how could i overcome this nervous feeling also? be as thourough as possible or no 10 pts. for u!

Answer 1

I suggest you try to talk to the girl directly instead of this guy - especially since you are not so sure of his ways.

Since you have common classes, one way maybe would be to ask her for help with notes/ assignments etc. Or try to get to talk to her at lunch as you mentioned if that makes it easier. Talking directly with her will give you clues - watch her body language, her voice, her eyes - all this will reflect whether she is interested or not.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You could try both, but I would go the route of talking to her....because the guy might get suspicious that you like her and tell everyone! Why risk it? So, what I would do is this! If she is in line at lunch or standing around by herslef just casually "stand" by her and say how the class you two have together sucks or it rocks for some type of reason. That will break the ice, then you can say "Man homework was tough last night." or I rather be (insert your favorite hobby)" and then ask her what she likes to do. It won't be creepy, but nice and friendly which you are going for. I would recommend talking to her alone or with a bunch of people who are not talking to her..Just be cool and casual..and you shouldn't be nervous because you will be coming off as friendly not obsessive or creepy, and maybe if you two realy hit it off, you can sit by her (to continue the convo) or keep talking to her since you already kind of know her and she knows you

Good luck!

Answer 3

This is simple to me. Forget the friend thing especially if it's a guy. He really won't have as much inside depth as opposed to her female friend. Matter of fact he might be tryin to get at her too but that's another matter. I would just take the balls and go up to her. Not some dorky pick up line but something sarcastic but funny. Make her smile, make her laugh. Be desire-less. If you let on you like her too much she'll fly away. Then be excellent Always have something cool to say. Notice things about her without being a stalker. Most of all don't be afraid. If she rejects you. You are exactly in the same position you were to begin with. You lose nothing. You already have the privilege to try again with another girl. Remember, you win. Not them.

Answer 4

i know this is cliche but being yourself is the only way you'll have a chance with this girl you like. Just go up to her and say hi and start a casual conversation. You don't have to be Don Juan or anything like that. You'll win some and lose some. Getting rejected is not the end of the world. The more you admire from afar the more you live out of reality, and you'll miss that great girl. Glory favors the bold! And remember buddy just be yourself and treat her like any other person you're meeting for the first time. Trust me if she doesn't like its better to know now then to never know at all!

Answer 5

well i think you may have to bite the bullet so to speak and just pluck up the courage to talk to her.whats the worst that can happen, well nothing is the answer to that, if you don't ask her out or come on to heavy then it should go well. just start talking to her, try to find out what things she is in to and do a bit of research on it so you can start a convo about that, that way you know you will get a nice response.if you just pluck up the courage to do this once, then I'm sure you ll find her receptive and if she isn't interested then no harm done, you wont have made a fool of yourself at all. after all, all you did was talk to her. as for trusting your friend if your gut instinct is already making you question whether you can trust him then i would be inclined to say no , not yet, until you are more sure, follow your instincts they are usually right. last bit of advice, be yourself, okay, girls don't like it when guys pretend to be something they are not.

Answer 6

I hear you. I was very shy too.
One of the best tools to get over shyness is, not to focus on yourself. Find ways to look for other peoples interests and get them talking about those.
Second you have a very powerful tool that if used well can earn you many friends. A Smile, think about it, have you ever been walking through the halls and some girl just smiles at you? How did it make you feel? Never underestimate the power of a smile, and then later maybe a simple Hi.
If you can find ways to make others feel happy, important, respected, interesting, appreciated, and good about themselves, you will never be short of friends. Don't you like to be around people who make you feel good about yourself?
One word of caution. No fake flattery, just honest comlements. Look for admirable traits in everyone then suprise them by letting them know that you noticed
I would say start practicing on several people not just the special one. As you become comfortable with helping others feel good about themselves, you will find that you've found the real you. No more trying to be like anyone else because they will just love you for who you are.

Answer 7

I think you might wanna leave the extra ppl out of it ... if you really like her you dont want to let her find out from someone that cant keep a secret.... so at break or any other time you can get near her walk up to her & at least say hi... if she shrugs you off then she's not good enough for you & if she says hi back then just start up a conversatin with her , thats how you find out things about a pesron ... you ask them.... good luck oh & the nervous feeling imagine something funny right befor you walk up to her & keep it in your mind while your saying hi then she'll think you were full of self esteme , dont worry it'll be fine just do it before someone else asks her out...

Answer 8

Yeah, Take the risk and talk to the guy that you know who hangs out with her "group"..find out some of her interests, and get to know a little bit about her. I mean, what's the worst that could happen? Him tell her that you like her? That'd be great! :) The nervous feeling you're having is just human, we all get that around someone we like...There really is no way to overcome it, you just have to push through and forget the nerves. Go for it! =] The best of luck to you!

Answer 9

The best time to approach a girl is when she is not with her friends. Many times a guy or girl will be influenced by how their friends react and not on what their personal feelings are. Do not stalk her though. When the time is right and she is walking alone and does not look to be in a bad mood, you walk up to her, introduce yourself and confidently let her know that you have interest in talking to her in the future, hand her your phone number with your name on it, let her know what hours are ok then walk away so you are not putting her on the spot to promise you she will call sometime. Keep it short and sweet then walk away leaving the decision to be left up to her on her own time.

Answer 10

Just approach her @ lunch (maybe in line?) and stary a conversation. Charm her to death lol. Just start out by being her friend, and you should get a pretty good idea of whether she likes you or not. If so, ask her out after a while. If not, at least you've make a new friend!