Ok, it's obvious this guy is using me for sex. He calls me, invites me over, we get to it, I leave his apt. feeling a little weird and rejected. I keep resolving that I won't do it anymore but he's so hot, everytime he calls my body literally heats up, and I feel like I can't control myself. I don't call him, so as not to turn him off with expectations of a relationship. I don't want to jeapordize our rendevous! I know this is dynamic is unhealthy and humiliating, yet I just bought some amazing lingere to wear for him. What is wrong with me? Maybe I'm some sort of validation/ rejection junkie.
2006-09-29 09:27:42 · 18 answers · asked by reason 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It could be yer compensating the conscious awareness that you are not engaging in a healthy relationship by justifying the pleasures of the encounter. It's been done before. Maybe you find the recognition appeasing to your state of mind. Some people honestly have a fetish, and nothing is wrong with them mentally, it's just how they think and what turns them on. The detachment from human emotion becomes a turn-on, it it's rather taboo, but unless he's screwing around everywhere in a similar fashion, it does not indicate an illness or mean anything is wrong.
2006-09-29 09:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rick R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, well I think your not a validation or rejection junkie but I have no clue what those things are.. Your body is just taking over.. even tho your mind says no, your body wants to more then your head doesn't want to... and from the sounds of it your body wins the fight every time.. I know you like having sex with this person but it still isn't right your giveing he something that you shouldn't unless he really cared... if you keep doing this and then later find out that he never loved you and was just plainly sleeping with you and some other girls it will hurt you more then if you just let him go now.. your worth more then what he using you as....
but its not my decsion its yours.. so I hope I helped a little.. plz make the right choose for yourself...
2006-09-29 17:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like I wrote that question, I have someone who says I love you when hes with me but we wont talk for weeks at a time and when we do get together its just hott and passionate. I know that its all about Sex but I still let it continue because in that moment I like it and it makes me happy....nothing wrong with that enjoy its why its good and let it go when it no longer makes you feel happy
2006-09-29 16:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by mamiluv6969 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a thing wrong with that as long as you both enjoy it.
I have a similar situation where the woman and I meet, we do our small talk, knowing what's going to happen next. She goes home, I return to the game and everybody's happy.
2006-09-29 16:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might pay a little more attention to those times when you're feeling rejected. I think that feeling may be telling you something.
Remember that we only get the treatment we think we deserve.
And... you deserve better.
Good luck
2006-09-29 16:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's called a friend with benefits.. lots of people have done this in their life (lord knows i have) .. but in the end they almost always crash and burn.. someone will get attached and get their feelings hurt better than 90% of the time... so just be careful and try to find a healthy relationship.
2006-09-29 16:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by pip 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Simplye and plain: When you command more respect, you will get it. As long as you continue being available, you will be used. I am sure you are better than that, but it is up to you to discover that fact and work on your self- esteem. Good luck.
2006-09-29 17:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by wilhelmenawiem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you do is force him into being your boyfriend regardless of whether he wants it or not. So I say give him a taste of his own medicine, and see how in the hey he deals with it.
2006-09-29 17:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if it is only sex?
Are you enjoying it? Is he enjoying it? Then so what. Enjoy it.
Its not unhealthy at all. how is it humiliating??
You are both wanting sex. So sex it up. Dont feel bad about it.
2006-09-29 16:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by nickkap1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you want the sex and don't care for the love.
This is not a healthy relationship
2006-09-29 16:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋