It was all good. we loved eachother. we dated for 8 months. we were closer together in 3 months then she was with her ex for a year and 5 months. but now she likes him again. she says she still loves me, but it wouldnt be fair for her to date me liking him still. idk what to do. i want her back. she told me she wants me back to. but she doesnt want to hurt him. and she still likes him but she loves me to.wat should i do. how can i get my love back. i need her. more then anything.
2006-09-29 09:26:01 · 12 answers · asked by cold_killa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LEAVE HER ALONE< GIVE HER SPACE< SHE'S CONFUSED!!!
2006-09-29 09:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm really sorry to put you down like this, but you were a side-dish for her. Obviously, you fell for her, and quite deeply, for that matter... But to her you were nothing else than a fast-flame, one that's just about to go off... Probably she didn't love you at all, what she was so found of was only the idea of being with someone else than her ex, and that for a while... She's worrying unusually much about not hurting the other guy, and somehow she misses that, by behaving like this, she's really hurting you... I'll say that one true measure of love is that you cannot hurt the person you're in love with; you are definitely incapable of such an act.
No, she feels nothing for you right now, but a shadow of the memories of the good times you two have spent together... But they will fade quite rapidly, in the excitement of the (re)new(ed) events with her ex... If you'll keep chasing her past that point, you'll get one hell of a hurt, as she will tell you one of my favourites replies, like "what we had was nice, but didn't mean so much", or "you don't attract me anymore; whatever was between us, it's gone now", or "I'm sorry to do this to you, but I've realized I love him"... (and there are some more, I'm still working on a list)
My advice to you would be to act now, without delay, since this is one situation time is NOT on your side. I see two possible options:
1) Let her go, without any more disputes: break up with her, take some time to heal your wounds, then go out and find someone else - this way you may avoid the hurt, but also sacrifice any chance of getting her back;
2) Confront her, tell her what you feel for her and how she hurts you by behaving like that; this is not about placing the blame or getting an ultimatum, but about giving her a reality check and making her understand that she has to choose (and that you would be a better choice by far - doesn't hurt to try and suggest this with some subtlety, but clearly enough) - you may still yet win her by doing this, but... be emotionally prepared for the big blow.
Whichever you choose, I wish you all the best of luck !
2006-09-29 17:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Restless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back, then you need to leave her alone. One thing that you don't want is her being with you hoping that she was with him. You don't want to get cheated on. The best thing to do in a situation like this is don't bother her. Don't call her. You can pick up when she calls you but cut the conversation short. Let her think that you are too busy right now. If you act as if you don't care, she's going to start to wonder about you. Believe me. She'll start calling you trying to get you back. If you leave her alone and act as if you don't care or have time for her, then she'll come crawling back. And if she did love you and only likes him, then she wouldn't have left you to begin with. Your character will show, if you actually take her back right away when she comes begging you to take her back. If you do, she'll always know that she can do this to you again, and you don't want that to happen.
I wouldn't even take her back, if I was you.
2006-09-29 16:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ...ok ..listen here...u need space and she needs space too...you cannot be with 2 people at the same time...love is reciprocal..and love is sincere...she is being honest about what she feels , be honest about what u feel too, and do not settle for second best, u deserve a girl that values your worth...if u finished a relationship...it's turn the page....so if she has unresolved issues about her last relationship...maybe she should not have ended that up in the 1st place...and started one out ..with feelings for someone else..u need to be clear..that past is past...if she is not clear on that ...maybe she is not sure about where u guys are heading...Don't worry u will be ok eventually if it ends....
2006-09-29 16:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by LatinSpice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is......... let her go. That way you aren't wondering if he is always going to be there hovering in the back ground. If she is going back and forth between you than she doesn't know what she wants either and its' unfair to both of you to be caught in this situation. Maybe if she gets her fix of him she will realize why they broke up before or maybe she will settle for him. Be patient if you really love her.
2006-09-29 16:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude..i had the same problem a couple of weeks ago, and my advice is that you should leave her alone..get over her, she will only be playing with you both, and come on, there are a lot of girls out there, i used to think that she was the one and stuff, but time heals everything!! Play the game!! I know it's hard, but you should do it...
2006-09-29 16:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, get over it- she doesn't like u. she was using u to get her ex back. (i no u don't want to hear it, but i've done it too) her saying she still loves u is her way of trying to let u down easy. girls r amazing actresses, and she obviously did a good job w/ u b/c u haven't seen through it. but let me help u now- she loves her ex, not u.
and u don't need her, u need a girl- but that girl doesn't have to b her
2006-09-29 16:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all- u've got 2 b honest
she's really confused right now and u have to understand her. talk with her, tell her what u feel and tell her that u know that she is confused but she's gotta decide what 2 do sooner cause she herds u.
b honest - that's all
good luck and take care
ali shkodrova
2006-09-29 16:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh brother, you don't need her more than anything, goodness gracious. What you need is some self respect. If she really wanted you back, I mean REALLY, like you seem to need her. Then she wouldn't care whether or not she hurt his feelings. I mean she would care, but it would not stop her.
2006-09-29 16:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go sounds like she wants her cake and wants to eat it to shes useing u for what i dont know but shes holding on to both of you and its not fair to u or him. go on with your life if shes doing this to him whats to say she wouldnt to u?
2006-09-29 16:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by missluvsharleys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go star in a soap opera
2006-09-29 16:29:36 · answer #11 · answered by thatguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋