how do You respond if your Child says he/she is Gay?

Question

i'm not going through it ,i just want to know how you would respond as a parent

Answer 1

as a parent, you need to respond in a supportive manner.

Answer 2

My response would be one of complete indifference. I might even go as far as telling them that their sexual preferences are not really any of my business.

The way I look at it there are two cases.

1) Your child actually is gay and there really isn't a whole heck of a lot you can do about it.

2) Your child is just being rebellious and wants to do something to shock you. If this is the case making it a big issue will only re-enforce the behavior.

For what it's worth, I believe that people who are truly gay are, in fact, born that way. However, I think there are many who claim to be gay but are really just being socially rebellious.

Answer 3

when you are a parent the love you have for your child is unconditional. there is no such thing as "i'll love you as long as yu arent gay". you accept it. this is your child, your own flesh and blood. we dont have to like everything our children do, but we always love them no matter what. i would probably be just as calm about that as i was when my teenager came home pregnant. i told her we would get through it together and i would be there for her when she needed me. and i was. being gay is not that big of a deal. the child isnt going to jail, so far its not against the law, its what keeps them happy and isnt that what we want as a parent? we just want our children to be happy. give the child a hug, tell them its ok, and then lay down a few ground rules that make you comfortable such as "no kissing in my house". whatever works for both of you. all the parts will figure out their own place over time.

Answer 4

I would probably be shocked internally, but I know I would have to be a parent and support my child regardless on anything they do, are going through or decide.

Alienating them for something that is beyond their control, and for being something that others don't like, is totally wrong. Parents should love their children no matter what. (except if they become monsters and rape, kill, torture, etc.)

Answer 5

I would say, thank you for trusting me with this information, and ok. You still love them... nothing about them changes... they are still your child. There is no point in getting mad or making them fell shameful because it was not your choice that they should be gay. Ultimately, as a parent, you love your children unconditionally.

Answer 6

Depends on their age. If they were a teenager, I would ask them if they were positive that it wasn't just "curiosity" getting the best of them. If they were an adult, I would not treat them any differently than I always have. Just because they are gay doesn't mean they are any less of a person than the one I raised. They would still be my son or daughter and I would love them just the same.

Answer 7

With love understanding and support. Clearly this was difficult for them to tell you, and there is absolutely nothing to be gained by not being supportive (and much to lose).

Or - you can follow the word of god and stone them to death.
Lev. 20:13 "If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall be put to death"

Well all you religious folk- will you begin to put a few hundred million people to death in order to follow the word of god? Or- is there still some semblance of rationality left in your brain?

your choice.

Answer 8

Worried. It's not a pleasant life choice. There is still plenty of obsticles for them. Church, society, relationships, work all those things that you have tried to protect them and nurture them for have just been magnified. I know gays and health insurance, survivor benefits ect. that married people have access to they do not. Unrealized is that it is ok to not hire gays based on that alone. I thought it was sexual discrimination but I was told it's a sexual preferance not a sexual orientation so it's ok not to hire them. So many school teachers do not "come out" in fear of losing employment.

Good luck

Answer 9

im not a parent..yet but i have friends who told me first...,i would say ok i have nothing wrong with it would my outlook on the child change maybe a bit (i mean 2 females or 2 males cant have a kid...) you know what i mean i wouldn't care as long as you [the parent] is there for your child NO matter what..then fine

Answer 10

My reaction would depend on their age. If they were young I would educate my child on what being gay actually is, and help them understand weather or not they truly were. If they were a young adult I would still educate them, concentrating on safe sex and support them in their difficult life decision.