we keep on searching for the right person, then we get heart broken, yet we keep on looking! what is it that constantly makes us look for someone :p
It might seem like a stupid question, but I was wondering...
2006-09-29 09:19:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't NEED someone to feel complete. I've always been told you need to be comfortable with being with just yourself before you are ready to truly be with someone else. i thought this was a crock of **** however as a past sufferer of being a chronic searcher of "someone" I recently got sick of getting my heart broken I forced myself to take a year to be with just me. Truly define myself by myself not by someone else and guess what...it helped ALOT. I think until we know ourselves well enough we end up feeling completed by someone else because they distract us from the gap that it caused by us not knowing what we want for ourselves. Because the other person can tell us what we want. Than when we get comfortable in the relationship we begin to dislike certain qualities in the person that we all along didn't like but didn't know it because we didn't know ourselves well enough. Once you know yourself to complete yourself by yourself you are ready to share your completed self with someone else. Just think about it....
2006-09-29 09:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by tana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a stupid question. The thing is you don't need someone to feel complete and happy. You have to be happy with yourself first. If you need someone in your life to make you whole the you need some professional help. That's putting all the weight on one persons shoulders, it's not fair. Those relationships end in being stalked or worse. You can never be happy if you constantly put yourself on has clinging and needy. Women hate super nice guys and men hate super clingy ladies! Normal people like the balance in a relationship spend time together but spend time apart. It'll make to relationship better. So what's important is to love your self and be confident not a narcissist. Then you'll feel whole and find some great!
2006-09-29 16:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Vesdog! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things in life that we seek for and keeps us driven: The meaning of life, money, and of course love. It's not about feeling complete, it's about going through life with someone that will not only willing to share the burden and pain life gives you but to also share the joy. Think about it this way, if you were to be in great financial debt, don't you wish someone can help you out a little, or if you got a promotion in your job, don't you want someone there to share that joyous occasion with? Someone to hold, to hug, to love? We might get our hearts broken but living without love is like not living at all.
2006-09-29 16:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone feels that way..if you do it's a sign of insecurity - also modern day standards or religious standards being pressed on you. Everyone should feel complete on their own FIRST before ever entering into a relationship...if you are looking to have that by being with someone else - that they have to give that to you somehow?...that relationship will never work. Hence: the divorce rate in this country.
You don't get married or find a boyfriend or girlfriend...whatever, to feel complete - you should be strong in your own self and independent and confident in your own self...happy within your own self...then? if you find someone that is the same and can share a life with you harmoniously?..that's great! Finding someone right for you should enhance your life - but not be what completes it.
2006-09-29 16:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the need to express and receive love but then again I'm a Libra. I understand I'm doomed to be in love with the idea of being in love.... Being in Love is so addictive that you'll try it again and again because let's face it. When it's good, IT'S GOOD. I believe the heartbreak part comes in when you expect too much from Love. Real Love you give with no expectations other than it's a gamble. Heartbreak is emotional mourning for the death of a relationship. In time this too shall pass.
2006-09-29 16:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jakkie F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because people need someone to share their day to day life with. We need someone to tell our day to, someone who knows the little things about us. You know like what that one thing is that you always get from that restaurant or if you like to cuddle when it rains. It makes a person feel like they are important and they matter even though they are only one out of millions of people.
2006-09-29 16:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be well educated searching for the right person and you'll live happily ever after.
2006-09-29 16:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a myth that we are told. They should be telling us that we are complete just as we are. We should never need someone. We should be with someone because we want them.
2006-09-29 16:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a youth thing. as you get older,, ie,, my age a young 50 ,, its not a big deal, don't feel the need for another person.. its called confidence in yourself
2006-09-29 16:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by valda54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont feel complete even with a mate. You are hard wired to have a relationship with God, and until that happens you will always feel like something is missing.
2006-09-29 16:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by NOIZE 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋