I swear! I have to follow him around with a broom and a dustpan! He went from living with his parents to living with me. His mother did everything for him (made his bed, did his laundry, put his clothes away, dressed him until he was 10, made him something to eat whenever he wanted) and now this is my job! As soon as I put all the dishes in the dishwasher, he puts his plate in the sink. When he comes home from work, he takes off his shirt and pants and throws them on the family room table that I just dusted. We have a hamper in our bathroom but he puts his dirty clothes on the floor in the corner of the bathroom. He takes his socks off before bed and leaves them on his nightstand. He flosses his teeth in the shower and leaves the used floss over the shower door. He won’t put these things what they belong! I do! I’ve tried leaving them for as long as I can until I can’t take it anymore. He collects everything! We have hundreds of guitar magazines all throughout the house. He saves shopping bags from his favorite stores. He still has clothes that he had in high school (many years ago). Is there any hope for me? This has been going on for almost 13 years! Now that I’ve vented, I must go remove the giant hairball that he shoved to the corner of the shower.
2006-09-29 09:13:47 · 23 answers · asked by marnonyahoo 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Haaaaaa...Does your husband have a "private space?" Like, a space or room all to himself? Because I've taken to throwing my husband's dirty clothes and trash into the garage, or in his little music area he has, and after that he thought twice about where he threw his dirty socks. As for the magazines and shopping bags... box them up and put them in a closet. If he doesn't look at them for more than 2 months throw them out. Now if I could only find a way to make them put the toilet seat down...
2006-09-29 09:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW could you have described my husband any better?!!! hahahaah all I wanted to do was laugh the whole time... Anyways, I just started to complain about everything I had to do extra around the house for him while he was home and within earshot. Nag, nag, nag that is all I did. That didnt work so well because all it did do was make him hostile towards me constantly. Then, I tried wearing myself out doing everything and making the house look perfect. That OF COURSE didnt work... So now I just politely ask "Hey, hun, By the way can you do____" and if I ask so very nonchalantly he gets the picture, and does it. I still do the majority of the housework, but since I started complimenting him on his cooking, he has been doing that everyday. So it evens out, I do the housework while you cook. Oh and since he makes the mess in the kitchen, he cleans it. (He is becoming one of those picky cooks who likes all their stuff where THEY like it to be) Good luck with yours!!!
2006-09-29 16:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved this question! I have the same problem! He can't seem to figure out that complicated hamper either, or the toilet paper rolls! I think I have changed him in the ways that are the most important for our relationship, but I am still in the process for the little things dealing with cleaning. Oh, well... I just say I've got three kids instead of two!
2006-09-29 18:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 13 years it might be too late to do anything but complain on Yahoo Answers.
However, you could try wearing sexually provocative, see-through lingerie, but not letting him touch you till he's picked up his mess.
Or you could threaten him with a tazer.
Or you could hire his mother to come over and follow him around every day.
Best of all, would be a combination of all three options mentioned above. Simultaneously.
2006-09-29 16:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way. I on the other hand am a neat freak. It took my husband a couple years before he started helping out and wanting the house spotless. I have to laugh now tho because, if the house is a little messy he starts cleaning and won't sit down until its spotless...lol
2006-09-29 16:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you should never take over the mother roll. You could always not clean after him but if you did that he still wouldn't pick it up and your home probably would be condemed. So i think it might be a lost cause.
2006-09-29 16:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Brown 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That was the story of my life & I'm soooooo sorry that I never learned the secret to this riddle. However, I did change the ending of my story to something much brighter when I left him. No woman needs to be abused on top of trying to train their mate in the basics of life.
2006-09-29 16:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Shadow 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just start throwing things away...He probably will not notice with the high school things...And those mags...throw them away one at a time...And all of the other stuff...Get bossy...lol
My husband was just as bad! And now he is a little better now...I feel your pain! Best wishes to you!
2006-09-29 16:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Blessed1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could have written this question word for word. I try and I try but I think there is no hope for our men. Good Luck hon!!
2006-09-29 16:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if hes got any money that's the only reason i can think of staying with a cat like this! tell him to hire someone to help you even if its some teenager around the neighbor hood to help or go too his mothers!
2006-09-29 16:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋