My 13-yr. Old's "boyfriend" (close friend, she calls him)'s mother invited her to go to a football game this weekend with them. I told her no. Is that unfair or is it appropraite for this situation?
2006-09-29 09:10:05 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I forgot 2 say that ther football game is about an hour away
2006-09-29 09:20:50 · update #1
I personaly think it is unfair... but every parent is different. You could have your reasons. It was however the parent asking the child, not the *friend*. She is 13 and needs to know that you trust her and that she can be a teenager. If there is going to be parental supervision, why not let go of a leash just a little bit to see what happens. Try giving her your cell phone to take along with her so you can get ahold of her any time you want. That's what I did when my two girls went to a baseball game with a few freinds and one parent. It eased my mind and all went well.
2006-09-29 09:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being a little unfair. YOu have to trust your daughter. Also understand that she's going with the parents of the boy and not alone with the boy. I mean come on, they're going to be chaperoned and hey whats the worst thing that can happen at a football game? I can understand if it was the movies or something then I would worry, but it's a football game. Let her go!
2006-09-29 09:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the parent! For me I would think so.. I don't believe I would allow my daughter to go. Nor would I allow her to say close friend. She's 13....not 17,18 and so on. I remember close friends and things do happen. I would allow him to come to our house with a couple of other friends. When you have the daughter I believe you should have more to say. Then you are supervising. I would be frank with your daughter. Now a days it's not like the fifty's when you said hang out and you just hung out. Times are different.Being hard but also coming up with other solutions. Our son 12 likes a girl and she him and wanted her to come over and watch a movie. I said NO. But I said lets think about another way we can do this because that would be considered dating. So we invited his friends girls and boys to a movie night and open the invite to the parents as well. 1) our son had a blast and 2) some of the parent NOW have have really good friends.
2006-09-29 09:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by froggielover72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be positive that your 13-year old told you about her "boyfriend" and the invite. I'd give the boy's mother a call to confirm the invite, at least, you'd know your own child would be in the right hands out there. After agreeing that your child should be sent home at a certain time in the evening, the answer can change to be a "yes".
2006-09-29 09:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a Dad of a 14-yr old girl....If the Mother was going along with them, I think this is perfectly appropriate. Its only a football game, and the two of them are accompanied by a parent.
2006-09-29 09:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by rhblong2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a foot ball game and she was invited by an adult. What's your malfunction? Did you bother to ask the adult if she would be attending? Or did you just automatically shut down and say no? Yes, it's inappropriate to just shut down and say no if there's no reason.
If your daughter has behaved exceedingly inappropriately recently, that's one thing. If the mother is not attending, that's another thing. But if she hasn't done anything wrong and the parent is attending as well, especially if the other parent is paying for it, I really don't see what the problem could possibly be.
2006-09-29 09:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't see what is wrong the parents are going to be there and it's just a football game. If they were going away for the weekend then maybe depends on the thrust between you and your daughter and their family, but just one day to a game what's the harm.
2006-09-29 09:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what we think. If you don't feel comfortable letting your child go to a football game with her boyfriends family, then don't feel bad about saying no. If you said no just because you don't like her boyfriend or his mother, then that is kinda selfish. Unless the boyfriends mother is not a good & responsible adult. Either way, when you told her no, I hope you explained why to your daughter, otherwise she might think you're just out to get her.
2006-09-29 09:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it really is unfair to her its only a football game and the parents will be there with them i think u need to trust her and let her go she is getting older she needs some space to do things with her friends if you act like this over a football game what are you gonna do when she starts to drive and go places on her own i think she should be able to go
2006-09-29 09:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF they would be sitting with the parents of the "boyfriend" or mixing with other children to form a group of boys and girls and have regular check in times with the parents of the "boyfriend" I think it would be appropriate. Create situations that are well supervised but enable you and your 13 year old to practice "trust skills" you eventually will have to let this child move into young adult hood and those skills will pay off.
2006-09-29 09:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Geo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋