I asked this earlier but i think people had the wrong idea. I have a healthy sex life as far as i get some on a regular basis, but i feel overwelmed sometimes and wonder if what i have is a disorder or if i am just a normal man. My problem is this I often will see a women at where i work walk through the bank and even though i have a women who is nice and caring in which i love I get a very big intence maybe even heated feeling when ever i see a women walk through the bank with long hair big natural breast and i guess what i feel and do is two different things. But sometimes i feel like walking up to one of those women ripping there close off and then one big breast in one hand and the other helping me to rip her well you know her private rip her private apart like theres never been another day she felt so good. Of course this is not realistic however it feels more tense then it should be what do you suggest i do?
2006-09-29 09:04:18 · 26 answers · asked by Thomas A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Need help.
2006-09-29 09:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are talking about having quite living fantasies towards other women. As long as you don't feel an uncontrollable or obsessional urge to put your fantasies into action, you sound just normal and healthy.
Having a good sex life and a great partner does not mean that you never think about others anymore. Most people have fantasies about others then their partners. That's just nature.
You do of course have a choice in what you do with it. I would say, just enjoy your fantasies and take the answer of no. 1 as advise.
2006-09-29 09:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Bloed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure I undertand the question, are you saying that looking at women gets you hot and bothered ( horny)??? Maybe you should get your g/f to walk thru the bank or you can just unleash all the built up tension on her. Beyond that or approaching these women at the bank ( which is a no no if you are in a relationship) I would say you are a normal healthy guy who enjoys fantasising about complete strangers, No harm in that.
2006-09-29 09:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, be glad you have those intense feelings. It can be frustrating to feel so intense, but having a loss of sexual desire is worse in my opinion.Yes, losing interest altogether would definitely be worse.
Try to think of something utterly horrifying when you see these lovely ladies such as dead puppies (I've read that some guys do this), or try to keep your head down and look only at your work.
2006-09-29 09:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by That Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i notice that you didn't notice that you are ATTRACTED TO your current woman. that could be your problem. if not, well, just because you have a partner doesn't mean you're dead, of course you will find other people attractive, part of being in a relationship is making the effort to ignore those kinds of impulses--nobody said it was easy! maybe you have an over-active imagination; try writing.
2006-09-29 09:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by KJC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are dysfunctions of the mind that have to do with sexual urges like that. Maybe a little role playing at home with your woman would help you.
If not, seek counseling. Seriously. The last thing you want to do is act on one of those urges. I can garuntee you it won't be welcome be the woman you get ahold of.
2006-09-29 09:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by lonestars_pride 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to control your thoughts. Think about something else, tell yourself this is unacceptable thinking. Hum a song, distract yourself with some work or anything better. you need to control you thinking because everything we do in this life starts with a thought. And I don't think you realize it, but you are being unfaithful to this loving caring woman that you profess to love, in your mind.
2006-09-29 09:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think theres anything wrong with haveing thoughts, fantasys or desires. Theres nothng wrong with you at all. Anybody whos says they dont think about things like that are lieing.
Who knows the girl your having thoughts about might be thinking tsomething similar to you.
2006-09-29 09:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by girly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for some self-control and get some Morals.
A healthy sex life now? You then are married?
A real man learns how to control his lust.
Peace!
2006-09-29 09:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just have a vivid imagination and fantasy is good for your sex life ...acting it out could get you arrested ....think how you can make this happen maybe with your wife???talk to her about it maybe she can help you fulfill your fantasy
2006-09-29 09:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. probably typical male. what should you do? Ignore it, obviously. and if you are really feeling such intense urges for a long time, then break up with your significant other and go be single, but be safe
PS why can't you spell? How old are you? and who the hell gave me a thumbs down? JEALOUSY
2006-09-29 09:06:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋