2006-09-29 09:03:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
is it a school night or not?
where are they going?
who will they be with?
what is your area like at night?
what's the area like where they will be?
how will they get home?
consider all factors, talk with the girls, and work out something reasonable, don't just impose an arbitrary time
2006-09-29 09:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by tsmith007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure anyone else can answer that for you, as only you actually Know your daughters. Are they responsible? Do you have any reason to be concerned if they are out later? Are they usually honest with you about where they are and what they are doing? Kids can get in trouble at any time of the day so I don't know that being home at 9 or midnight necessarily makes a difference. If you feel your daughters are good, trustworthy girls then allow them out later as long as they let you know where they are and what they are up to. If they break your trust, then you can crack down. Keep in mind your oldest is nearly an adult, time to start encouraging her to excerise her own judgment while you are still legally able to rein her in if it is a bad choice and she still has time to learn from you.
2006-09-29 16:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by nativeAZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am about to turn 21 so memories of being a rebellious teenager and what it was like to be 15 and 17 still sticks to the mind.
For a nice neighbourhood and nice friends I would say a compromise of 11pm. If it was just for the 17 year old I would say 1am but the 15 year old might be envious.
2006-09-29 16:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot treat them as the same a 17 year old would not expect to be in at the same time as a younger sibling, beleive i have tried. It's only fare that there is a difference in the time issue explain this to the younger. I would allow the 17 year old to be out till 10. 45 and the younger to be in at 10, remembering that the younger has school, and ofcourse weekends maybe 10.30, as for the older if at college or work maybe 10.30 and 11.00 at weakends. Girls always think they are more grown up then they are,but trust them and they should respect you.explain to the younger that maybe it is a good idea that she does not have to be with her sister all the time and to let her experience her own life, not follow in her sisters footsteps, hope this helps.
2006-09-29 18:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by jane a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10:00 only if they go out together. If not, 8 pm for the 15 or 12:00pm for the 17 yrs old, she will soon be 18.
2006-09-29 16:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I assume the 15 year old and the 17 year old still go to school. So I would say 9:00
2006-09-29 16:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by zoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this depends on how mature your daughters are and the type of friends they hang out with, i'd say if they are still at school then 10pm. Weekends it depends on where they are going and how far away from home they are travelling the latest if they are together 12:30 because you'll only stay up and worry untill they get back and you know that they are ok
2006-09-29 16:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by cleavermar1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 17 yr old out alone 12PM to 1 AM, but when her sister is with tell her 10PM or so. Since the 17 yr old is a young woman not a child there may be occasions she will be out longer but have her agree to let you know in advance.
2006-09-29 16:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, this is the problem. Parents are supposed to have this homing instict for exact answers. I never knew whether my judgement was right or not (girls, 19 and 17). If you asked them, not.
I just started asking what time they'd be home. This put it on them. Now, 3 am obviously was not gonna work, but if they gave me a reasonable time for the function, fine. They even remember to include the restaurant jaunt after and include it in their time. Of course, please touch base before I crash. I just need to know you're alive.....
I tried staying up 24/7 keeping up with them and it really didn't work for me. Put it on them, see what you get.
2006-09-29 16:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 17 year old son and I am very strict on him. He has to be in at 7:00 p.m. on school nights and 12:00 on the weekends. But I have to know where he is , and who he is with at all times. With girls I would be a nervous wreck. Believe this, you cannot be to nosey, or to involved in your kids life these days. This world is way to dangerous. WATCH THEM LIKE A HAWK.
2006-09-29 16:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by eagfan5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋