I some help or advice. I have been going out with my bf for almost 3 years now. In the beginning, it was a beautiful relationship, he treated me like his little princess. Lately(past 5 months) he has been hanging out with a different crowd, I do know them but they arent a good influence. He started out smoking pot once in a while, but now he has tried mushrooms and worst of all...cocaine.
He is not the same guy I started out with, he doesent treat me like anything now. We dont ever do anything as a couple, hes not as sweet and caring and attentive as he used to be. He has also lied to me. About clubbing(grinding with random girl) and doign more cocaine. I have talked to him but he just keeps hurting me. I really need some advice because I still love him with all my heart I just want my boyfriend back.
2006-09-29 08:48:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't fix his problem. He has to. If you love him and want him back, support him totally but get him into rehab. However you have to do it.
2006-09-29 08:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thankfully he's only been at it for 5 months. There's still a chance for him. you have a major decision to make: do you love him enough to help get him back on track and stick it out with him the whole time? If you decide you want to help him out, if it would be worth it, you must realize that you'd be committing a lot of time to him. Good luck in making your decision.
If you decide to go for it, first you'll have to convince him. He has to see for himself what is happening to him and its effect on you. He has to want to change himself. After that it would be best to seek professional help, like a counselor who can help you both through it. He'll have to be removed from his new friends or whatever the source of the drugs is. (even if that means reporting them to the police, since cocaine is illegal). It will get discouraging but you can do it. That's why I said it's so important that you consider whether it's worth the struggle or not; helping him would be a major committment. There's no guarantee that he'll ever be the same but if you love him, I don't have a doubt that you'll succeed. Best of luck, I'll be praying for you.
Check out this source, I hope it helps.
2006-10-01 01:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Silver Spoon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is important for you to break up with him immediately, for your sake, his and his family's sake. He's in the fast lane now, not the guy you knew or want and he'll either smarten up, slow down and stop or he won't. If not, you already lost him. The choice is his...you can't compete for his attention in his present state. He's in a self destructive mode...don't be there for him. Good luck and I hope he sees the light.
2006-09-29 16:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think wisdom is your guide...
you can love anybody that your wisdom says... If I was in your shoes I would obey my wisdom and...
Have you ever read the book "Unlimited Power" (Anthony Robbins)? If you read that you will learn how to love your desirable person as much as this your bf...
2006-10-03 02:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by m.k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to put your foot down... and put him in rehab if he does not want to go to rehab tell him you'll leave him.... its the coke that's doing this to him and nothing else drugs realli have a big affect on someone and if he realli loves you then he will realli try to change his ways if not leave him cause they never knoe what they had until it is gone
2006-09-29 15:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to straighten out or leave him.
2006-09-29 15:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
see if you can get him to go to rehab or something, if not i would say dump him
2006-09-29 15:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by guitarded 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋