What do you think God is up to?

Question

What do you think God is up to when He makes a guy unable to have any close relationship with a girl? I'm such a guy and God makes everything hard for me. To be honest, I do not even have a female friend. I'm not shy, not lack of confidence, not cocky but eveytime I speak to a girl, she'll give me a cold shoulder. Is it because I'm slightly overweight? Forget about losing weight, I've done everything I can, sports, diet etc but no results.
I need to know because I'm so boring nowadays since my guy frens all refuse to hang out with me bcuz they prefer to hang out with gals.
Also, no gal ever hook me up in conversation (in class or social places). I mean those who is stranger to me. Why? Why am I always have to make the first move only just to be frens and I always get a bad response?

I juz cant believe this can happen to me unless God plans it.
Do I still have to believe in this God?

PS: I'm not ugly.

Sincere answers only. Thanks.

Plenty of answers but answers 1,2,3.4.6,7 are completely useless. Others just don't seem to understand my question.
Notes:
1) I'm not gay.
2) I already think mature. Don't always think about people wanting gf r those naive desperate guys. By the way, I dun even mention gf, I only mean frens.
3) This has nothing to do with my action. Since I treat them well, I shud expect them to be treat me well too. My point is most of them are blinded by something.
4) Don't try to be too smart by telling me to forget about my surrounding. I live in it. Those ppl out there dun even know I exist.
5) I'm not low self-exteem nor I say that's something wrong with my weight. I just say that it can be potential factor. Btw, this is clear. Fatter ppl r always ostracised. If not, why on earth the Fat Acceptance Movement is initiated?
And to all the completely nonsense answer, u guys can juz **** off.

Answer 1

sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. i don't think God *plans* for you to have these kind of social problems. just keep trying, despite the discouragement. tell them why you want to be friends. good luck!

Answer 2

First of all, God did not make you 'gay', you did that to yourself. It took a contious actions to train youself too be the way that you are. So don't blame God for your decitions. Being shy is nothing new, I do not know very many men that were not or still are not shy around women. They give you the cold sholder because you are not 'back bone'. Stand up and be open and friendly with them as if you did not want to get into their pants. I am 'over wieight' and the woman that I married did not care that I was over weight when she met me because I was being myself and did not care who liked it, of even if they did not, I could not have cared less. Why are the women 'stronger' then you? Because you let them be stronger. Go to your bathroom mirrower, if you can look yourself in the eye and carry on a one minet conversation with yourself, then you can do it with a woman. Always look them in the eye and Never look down, they take this a sign of inferieoraty.

Answer 3

See, this is yet another reason why I am glad to be an atheist.
What happens to me in my life, how I act, how I treat others, how they treat me is all because I made the choices that lead me up to this point. I can rest assured that anything I do is done on my own free will.

You, on the other hand, are taking your religion, and like so many others, hiding behind it and blaming things that go wrong on a higher power. I cannot think of anything more reprehensible than this. You should honestly be ashamed.

If your life is not working the way you planned it, only you can change it. Do not look elsewhere for blame, but look at yourself.

Answer 4

Dont blame God for your mistakes. The problem is with your atmosphere. You have been raised in a particular society, without knowing much about this world. God has cread millions of millions human being in this world.

For example, i am in Saudi Arabia. We are not even allowed to see a girl here but still i am happy because i see life more than just talking to girls or making girlfriends. You need to mature your thinking a lil bit more. Think broadly and internationally. Dont limit your thinking comparing with your buddies and pals.

Answer 5

you sound like a nice guy to me ... but maybe there is something that is holding you back that you dont notice .. i couldnt say though honestly

i dont think your weight would be a big issue with most ladies ( the ones who can see a person for what they are )
perhaps just give it time and the right lady will find you

but if you do wish to meet people now .. have you thought about dating sites ?

Answer 6

Sorry to say, but it's you. you are only blaming a "god" because you do not want to be self responsable for you actions or inability to make you situation different.
Only you can make that change. Look at your level of self esteem. Do you like yourself? I'd start there.

Answer 7

You're trying too hard...and maybe God has a plan for you. He will send someone your way when you are ready.

Make sure this girl is a Godly women. Otherwise, you're losing either way.

Answer 8

Personality counts too...im not shallow like that Everyone isnt...my husband is a Sexy Aries with a good personality and hes overweight but it doesnt bother me exept to worry about health issues cuz he is tender and sweet with me.. Horoscope section can help with who you are compatable with. Pisces girls always need attention but we are always snapped up too..

Answer 9

Celibacy is a gift to the most exalted of Gods followers.

(You need to do more sports, if it doesn't hurt then you won't gain muscle, it's simple. You want to be in shape? Do it until it hurts and then some more.)

Answer 10

Try smiling more, and making them laugh. If you can make them laugh then you'll be able to **** them.