2006-09-29 08:36:14 · 15 answers · asked by Lovely B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it depends on the person and what happened. It might take a while before you can get your life and love life back on track. But, if it's meant to be then it will always find a way!
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2006-09-29 08:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ciao ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,I'd have to say that it all depends on what happened to get it off track to begin with.Every relationship should have what I call "Deal Breakers".I had to establish "RULES" after being in abusive relationships.First,I went to counsling to find out why I was attracted to,or was attracting these kind of men.Once I was ready to get back "out there" dating again,I set guidelines and stuck to them.Deal Breakers for me are first and foremost....ABSOLUTLY NO ABUSE IN ANY WAY,SHAPE OR FORM.That includes verbal.I treat my husband with respect,and I expect the same in return.Even when mad,no one needs to be abusive.The 2nd Deal Breaker,is cheating.I don't cheat on my husband,and if I'm not taking care of his needs then,we either go to counsling,or leave.But there won't be any of this "Oh,I'm sorry.It just happened.She doesn't mean anything to me, it was just sex(?),Or it'll never happen again".Cause if they do it once they will do it again.Some men just can't help themselves,if another woman shows the least bit of attention,down go the zippers.This crap about not being able to help themselves is crap.The last Deal Breaker is lying.If you lie about something small then you'll definatly lie about something big.My husband knows that if he were to do ANY of the things I listed above,he's gone!! Love is one thing that you have to have for yourself.And if you do love yourself you will know that you don't have to put up with anything you don't want to put up with.I love my husband deeply,but if he did any of the above,I would never be able to trust him again.And I refuse to live my life wondering if he would do any of the things again.I would rather be alone than to put up with someone I can't trust.Love does not hurt,and if it does then it's not love.So for me,because I had been in abusive relationships before,it's 1 time and you're out.And trust me,if they've done it once and you let them back in they'll do it again.So,love yourself enough to look at the big picture,and ask yourself is it worth it.I wish you all the best,and God bless
2006-09-29 16:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by LEJIANE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try acting like you are just meeting and try a new relationship. Don't mention anything of the past and just relive the relationship but make sure to stay honest and to love each other. From there just keep it positive and if there is a problem, try talking it out and don't yell. Hope i was a help!
2006-09-29 15:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by slayr101@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes as long as you both want it and can let the past go. In every relationship there is problems and if you atleast try to make it work and show each other how much you truly care the love can be revived. It might take some time though.
2006-09-29 15:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Charmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to gain those things back once you've lost them or been hurt. But if you're willin to put yourself through the same thing again then go for it. That person might change and then again they may not, but if you're a risk taker then do it just to see if will happen ,but just don't give that person your all, like you did before.
2006-09-29 15:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ambi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if there ismore than enough love, I don't think there is a way to get everything back to the way it was before.....it is jjust not possible, there is always going to be that memory of what happened....besides, why would you trut someone who was already capable of breaking your trust once....if he did it once, he'll do it again if it is necessary, understand??
2006-09-29 15:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Honey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what track you need it to be on? I believe love should just happen and if you have to manipulate it , it might just not be right.
2006-09-29 15:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes... provided both people are really willing to work at it. Time is the way to rebuild.
2006-09-29 15:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go back to square one: romantic evenings, a lot more sex and more pillow talk.
2006-09-29 15:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a girl (especially if she is beautiful & blond) its easy to hook up with another guy the next day.
for guys its like a hell to findanother girl
that sucks
2006-09-29 15:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by drinda_house 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋