i dont wanna sound like a jerk but there is this ugly girl at my work and it turns out she likes me now im friednly with everyone i meet especially girls i always flirt no matter what they look like because i love girls and so i'm usually friedns with most unless they did something to me that i don't like
anyway i guess i was too affectionate with her, we work on the same line so we work together everyday and i found out from her sister that she has this major crush on me now and i hate myself for leading her on because now i have to reject her because i don't date people i don't find attractive
the problem is she is the really sensitive type and i don't want to hurt her feelings so should i just pretend i don't know since i think she is too shy to make a move or should i say or do something.. maybe pretend i have a girlfriend even though i just got out of a bad relationship?
what shoukld i do?
2006-09-29 08:31:01 · 17 answers · asked by Paul H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
T C- neither one
to other people:it doesn make sense for me to date someone that i dont want to be with even 'ugly people need love' because then both of us would be miserable because i think shed be smart enough to figure out that i dont want to be with her no matter how nice i am
anyway its happened to one of my friends and my best girl friend he thought i would kick his butt if he didn't date her and break her heart so he dated her and she is quite goodlooking so that wasnt the problem.. i dont know why he didn't want her and they were miserable and are now enemies and my friendship with both of them has changed,,, even though i never said anything to my guy friend about if he broke her heart he just assumed
2006-09-29 08:43:44 · update #1
just tell her that ur having an affair with ur dog.
2006-09-29 08:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by congoman365 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A) I think that you are an arrogant asshole, big girls need loving too. B) It's not your fault that you feel this way though, you have fallen into the trend of styreotypical America. No matter what you do the girl loses, and gets her heart broke in the end. I think that you should just tell her that you are flattered by the way she feels for you, but that you don't have the same feelings but you would love to be friends. If she's not attractive enough for you to be with then at least be her friend. Although I am not sure why you can flirt with unattractive people but you won't date them, that doesn't make sense to me. And if you ask me that classifies you as a major asshole.
2006-09-29 15:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by funlovingwomannky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Well..I think you're kind of contridicting yourself. If you love girls and it seems sorta that you aren't shallow..why do looks REALLY matter? I do agree they matter to some extent..but maybe you shouldn't be flirting with every single girl..because thats liable to happen..you just being nice is going to make a "ugly" girl like you.
Do you really know her that well either? Sure she might not be that good looking..but get to know her then make a final decision. I'm not saying that if you really get to know her and you don't click well that you're a jerk..but you tried at least.
Also, she might be shy..but if she really likes you and she doesn't see you doing anything to ask her out..then she might actually surprise you and make the first move.
If you really honestly must tell her something..tell her you got out a bad relationship. Tell her you just want to be single now..and have some fun. That wouldn't be lying completely..because you did and it backs up that you're a flirt.
2006-09-29 15:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rozlyn P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a jerk and a dick! U shouldn't judge people maybe she is really nice and maybe u have a bit in common. You'll never know unless u go out with her and try her out. Don't be a jerk. I go out with guys that aren't that attractive and I don't care b/c I like there personalities not just there looks. Everyone has something cute or hot about them no matter what they look like.
2006-09-29 15:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Her sister went right back to her and told her that she told you about the crush. I don't know what you are going to do? Just tell her what you said in your question. That you just got out of a bad relationship and your not interested in dating right now. I'm sure she will understand.
BTW....I'd like to know what you look like? You seem kind of shallow.
2006-09-29 15:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should give her a chance, looks aren't everything. If you really don't want to then tell her you like but just as a friend-she maybe alittle upset but she will understand over time.
2006-09-29 15:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look just be honest it will hurt her for a small time but she will get over it. probably better to set her aside and tell her privately. lying to her about a fake relationship will only just make it worse for her
2006-09-29 15:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Norz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her on her hands and knees and slap a picture of Carmen Electra on her back. You don't have to actually look at her.
2006-09-29 15:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by rjinsanjo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ugly person can be really beautiful inside and an pretty person can be really ugly on the inside. If you had to choose which would you prefer?
2006-09-29 15:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by T C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ugly people need love, too.
2006-09-29 15:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do nothing. just let it ride out by it self. find a girl woman you want and just talk about her .
2006-09-29 15:37:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋