What would you do?

Question

If you lived with your boyfriend who makes messes and leave them for you to clean up. And is always making comments about putting you out?

Answer 1

Let him know that he is actually putting you out, but only because you have to clean up his messes! I haved learned that instead of getting mad the best way to deal with a boyfriend/girlfriend is to "teach" them how to do what you would like. It makes for a better relationship and then you learn better communication. It always works both ways in any situation, just talk to him!

Answer 2

Isn't this a form of blackmail? You need to find some place else to stay. Maybe with a friend or a family member. He obviously thinks he has a live in made or something. If you two live together, then the responsibilities around she split. You are not his mother! Have him clean up behind himself, he's not a child. Tell him all of these things and if he's still being an a$$shole about it, it's time for you to find a new establishment. By the way, he doesn't respect you if he's threatening you in any form or fashion. Would if you guys were married? Would you allow him to treat you like this? You need to get out now since obviously this is the type of person he's going to be. Who would want a future, or anything for that matter, with a guy like this.

Answer 3

Big Flag! Obviously he has had someone before you to pick up and clean up after him, as if it should be expected.....my theory is - if I did not make the mess, why am I assigned the maid to clean it up?
He was probably allowed such luxury thru a mother, grandmother or significant other to think it is his lifelong option.

There is nothing wrong with helping to care for someone who you love but laziness is laziness.....and then have the gaul to complain about you asking for some help also. Please!

Pay big attention to this if this is someone you are seeking a future with - for it does not get better - unless he does his part.

Best wishes!

Answer 4

You need to set ground rules now or you are going to be picking up after him forever. When my husband and I lived together we decided to be partners...we divided up the expenses and kept our separate checking accounts (we put stuff together after a few years... haven't ever fought about money!) etc. as well as all the household chores from dishes to laundry etc. He got the message that I was serious about the laundry (I refuse to this day to put away his clean clothes 17 years later) when I up-ended a basket of his clean clothes over his head in bed with the statement: I am your fiance..NOT YOUR MOTHER!!! Good luck.

Answer 5

Quit picking up after him, but always pick after yourself, then he can't have anything to say about it. But the next time he threats to "put you out",........ leave! Honestly honey it works! See, somewhere along the line he got this crazy notion that no matter what he does, you're not going anywhere. Don't worry, when you leave he'll come chasing, they always do. You never relize what you have till it's gone.

Answer 6

If he is making comments about putting me out then i would go because he probably wanted me out in the first place, but i would try to talk to him about it first and tell him that you need that half of him because you are bring one half but he is not bring the other

Answer 7

everytime he make a mess, u just gather all his piles of clothings and put in a black garbage plastic.paste the word "garbage" on the plastic and put it in a place where he can see it.if he still dun get it, then burn all his clothes.

Answer 8

It sounds like he wants to control you with the threat of kicking you out. You should consider getting a place of your own.

Answer 9

Hit the road Jack. Find someone else to control.

Answer 10

if it was a girl, I'd confront her and tell her that its pissing me off (in a nice but stern matter) and then if it continuedI'd try again, but if by the third time they can't respect me by either listening to men or anything like that then dump her and move on, you shouldnt be someones doormat