We already have a 22 month old together, and have been living together for a long time... My dad and I arent too close- Should I have my dad give me away anyway? Or my dad and mom? or walk by myself?
2006-09-29 08:05:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
whatever makes you happy
2006-09-29 08:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong here, even if you two have a child and have been living together for a long time.
This is going to boil down to what you want. If you and your dad don't really care one way or the other, I'd suggest walking by yourself. All the "giving away a daughter like chattle" stuff aside, seeing a father walk his daughter down the aisle usually implies that there is a closeness there. If that's not true, why fake it?
On the other hand, if your dad feels strongly about walking you down the aisle and you don't really mind, then I would say go for it. Hurt feelings and resentment are no fun on a wedding day.
2006-09-29 08:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best part about all of this...is that it's YOUR day! So, you can 'cater' and 'alter' the details to suit your own personal wishes, dreams and lifestyle.
If you and your Dad are not close- maybe this is something that can bring you closer. Or, since this is your day...you can have any significant father figure, grand father, brother, cousin, friend give you away.
For some reason when I read what you wrote...I pictured both your parents (on of them holding the baby) to ALL give you away.
It is also just as appropriate for you to walk alone down the aisle. The choice here is all yours! I'm so happy for you and I know that when you already have a baby together...it's more than just a getting married day- it's a bond and unity of a family!
I hope it's the brightest and most beautiful day of your life (next to giving birth)!!!!
Congratulations!!!
:)
2006-09-29 08:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beauty of the modern world is that you can have any kind of wedding you want, you can have anyone you want to give you away (or not), and you can have anyone in your wedding party that you see fit.
If you want your dad give you away then go for it, the decision is totally yours.
When I got married to my husband it was my third marriage and I still had my dad walk me down the aisle, my father and step-father-in-law also served as the ushers, my brother was my honor attendant (his wife my bridesmaid), and my husbands sister was his honor attendant (her husband the groomsman), we had no ring bearer, only a flower girl/ Jr. bridesmaid (husbands 11 year old sister).
Sorry for the rambling lol. My point is this, what ever makes you and your future husband happy is what you should do, there is no "right" way to have a wedding anymore.
2006-09-29 08:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be "given" away by anyone. If you're not close to your father, then I wouldn't push for him to do it. Ask him and take whatever answer he gives. I had my youngest son and his youngest son walk me down for our wedding. We'd thought about having his dad, but liked the idea of the boys having that honor instead. Anyone you feel close to can walk you down, there are no set rules to follow. Its your wedding, do what you want to make this day special. Congrats on you engagement!!
2006-09-29 10:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have ur father give you away. IT is his right. regardless if u are not close to him I am sure he would be honored... What a big deal for a dad. Its lonely to walk by urself...lol... just have ur dad do it
Even though u started non traditionally.. for wedding memories it is always better to go ahead and do things a lil traditionally
congrats on ur marriage
2006-09-29 08:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Christal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this practice comes from whilst the daughter became in actuality considered as somewhat assets. She became going from one caregiver (father) to the subsequent (husband). over the years, the meaning has replaced (for sure), and is now considered as extra of a candy and correct practice in classic centers, like your "section B" has reported. in spite of the undeniable fact that, it quite is not "section B"'s wedding ceremony. it is not "section A"'s wedding ceremony, the two. it is your sisters. If she would not desire to take transport of away at her wedding ceremony, then your loved ones would desire to understand her determination and only get exhilaration from the 2d and the actuality that she is happy. no remember what, congrats to the happy couple!
2016-10-18 05:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, this is totally up to you. For my wedding, my dad had passed away, my mom didn't want to do it, I didn't want to walk up alone, so me and my man walked up together - and I think people liked it because it was different. We had the attendants walk ahead of us in couples, too, so it was neat.
2006-09-29 16:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already gave yourself away long time ago by living with your guy and having a kid It will be ridiculous having your dad to walk you down the aisle . Go by yourself .
2006-09-29 15:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have your dad walk you half way down the aisle and have your groom meet you half way, and walk the rest of the way with you. You dad would go back to where you started before going to his seat. That way no one is "giving" you away.
Or you could walk the aisle by yourself. Or you could again, have your groom meet you half way.
2006-09-29 09:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad both walked me down the aisle because my mom felt left out. I didn't see anything wrong with it and none of the guest said anything about it either.
2006-09-29 08:13:44 · answer #11 · answered by BBdiddily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋