What to do about baby daddy's girlfriend?

Question

I am 6 months pregnant and babys father went back to his ex-girlfriend and mother of his son. I do not trust her what so ever. She is a pathalogical liar who is addicted to pain pills and even stole her sick grandmothers pain pills along with almost $1000. I have seen the way she treats her son and DHS has been involved a few times with her. Why he stays with her i do not know. But he is a good father and i want him involved in our daughters life but i cant trust her around my child. How do I handle this??

Answer 1

wow let me first say don't listen to these judge mental people some times things just happen you cant controll him or her and their actions are certainly not your fault. but i do agree with not allowing him to subject your baby to her not only because of her behavior but because of the dhs crap. that could get you even more involved and you don't need that. tell him the truth you don't feel comfortable about her being around you baby and either he makes the right choice and agrees or he makes the wrong one and you be strong and tough it out and do this on your own. i too am a single mom who have had to make hard choices about who i allow in my children's lives ( i have 4 kids by the way 8,6,1 and two months) it hurts and its not fair but now all that matters is your baby and making a good life for him or her. stop stressing its not good for you or the baby you are about to be blessed with. and let me say one more thing you probably need to hear i am so sorry you are going through this and its gonna be OK maybe not right away but it will.

Answer 2

I would keep a diary of everything you know about her, and if you could some how get a copy or someone else who may know her and will go to court with you when it's time to, and hope that she will speak up to the judge. I'd just keep a record of everything you know about her and once the baby is here, i'd go to court for both child support and to ask the judge to vote in your favor, that you want him to be a part of your childs life, but you want it to be supervised visits with either you or the state can tell you a place where to go and someone from the state will supervise it, but you don't want the girlfriend anywhere near your baby and the reasons are: state them as follows. and make sure you bring some kind of proof. The judge could rule any way. Just like the dad has no say in who you hang out with, you really don't have the right to say who can be around the baby when he or she is with your ex., just as if he doesn't with you.

Answer 3

nicely he does have the duty 2 help u out with the toddler. yet, no longer only cuz u do not favor him 2 make investments in his lady friend. U to boot as him have the right 2 flow on now that u are not 2gether. And its contained in the babys suitable intrest and psychological and actual well being for u 2 get alongside. U don't have 2 like or talk 2 his lady friend only him. And it appears like he's only strining u alongside. Tellin u 2 be with him a million minute and by no skill the subsequent. He is common with he can do it. Now he's only doing it shop u there without guy and u no longer get baby help on him. So if u do come to a decision 2 get baby help then do it for the toddler 2 get him each and each of the stuff he needs. and by no skill so he received't spend no money on the different lady. So wat if u don't like her. She proboly hates u and is jelouse cuz ur the a million that has his toddler and he has 2 talk 2 u and be conscious u no count number wat cuz of ur toddler. and she or he has no say in it.

Answer 4

you are only six months pregnant. The law in most states says " if the child is under the age of five years old, the visiting parent must be supervised, unless stated otherwise by the custodial parent." This means you do not EVER have to leave your baby alone with them. He is more than welcome to have visits in your house, but if you feel the baby is uncomfortable out of her surroundings then they can't visit. You need to contact a Laywer and get a free consultation about this. They will give good advise for very cheep.

Answer 5

Oh sweetie this has hit home.Please listen to me and listen carefully.Dont stress ur self.I just has a baby and she just turned 2months and I didnt realize how stress could affect ur pregnancy.My daughter was born @ 31wks and 3lb.She came out a trooper but its just the fact that I let my baby's father stress me with his bullsh*t.Look let him have that sh*t.worry about that after you have your baby.I know it is hard.Trust me I know.If he's gonna be there then he will do it on his own.A man will take advantage of the fact that ur pregnate and treat u like crap!He is playing on the fact that he knows that u want him there and he thinks obviously that he can do whatever the hell he wants.He may but dont let him involve u.Think about it as if ur already alone and if he decides to be there ir "You Aloow It!"then fine if not then be healthy for your baby.It makes me want to cry this hits so close to home but trust me he isnt worth it and if he's gonna do u like this then let him be her problem.Trust me my childs father did similar sh*t.

Answer 6

You'd have to arrange to speak to the judge when you apply for child support. During the court hearing, the judge will ask you to speak on your own behalf. Now, an attorney would be the safest bet. They speak for you and know their way in the courtroom. If he is a good father, express your concerns without attacking his girlfriend or making slanderous remarks. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

First of all, no matter what you do, very important, DO NOT let your baby daughter be in her prescence. That means not going to her house, not going to her daddy's house, not letting her in either of their vehicles, no trips, outings, not any dwelling, residence, vehicle, and certainly not a situation that would allow your daughter to be alone around her fathers girlfriend, her father, or anyone related to or associated with either of the two. Harsh? No. You may be asking, why not her daddy? Well, for right now, as long as he is together with her, he cannot be trusted. No doubt, he knows his ex/currents ways , her habits and her character. Yet, he chose to go back to her. And if he went back to her, he is capable of being brainwashed/persuaded by her. As in, "That's ok, you go ahead and run your errands, your daughter will be fine here with me. (Getting tense) You do trust me don't you?" I'm not saying that she would harm your child, I'm saying don't trust anyone with your child, especially someone like her. I'm sure you watch the news. People like her are capable of commiting some crazy acts. Add drugs to the mix in an already crowded, hazy brain, that's why the prisons are full of psycho drug addicts. Since you are not legally tied to this man, you have more space and options here. Eventually, hopefully, he will come to his senses and rid himself of her for good. If he doesn't, well, take one step at a time because thats a whole nother question. Until then, do the right thing, pray, take care and enjoy your new baby and yourself. Trust me, he's not living a life in the park with her anyway. Do not contact him, unless you want him to be present for the birth.In that case, wait until that time comes. After she is born, make the rules so clear to him that it's crystal. If he wants to see her, he comes to you and stays with you or another one of your trusted family members supervised for the entire visit. He is NOT to leave with her. If he tries anything funny, that's kidnapping and I'm sure he doesn't want the police or CPS knocking on his girlfriends or his door. Don't make it sound harsh or like you are mad when you talk to him. But if he doesn't contact you about wanting to see her, don't call him and don't push it. You say he's a good father so he should understand your concerns and reasoning for not wanting your child in that environment. Stay on your toes in case his girlfriend tries to pull some unexpected tricks on you, like calling CPS or interfering with your life somehow. Personally, I'd concentrate on my life and trying to bring someone new and positive in it. Get someone whos gonna stick with you, not leave on a whim. This shouldn't slow you down. Move UP. Let it be his decision if he is going with you or if he is going to stay stuck and take the low road. You can't control him. Move on, up and out. One day you will take a minute out of your new, busy, happy life to look back, but instead you have to look down because he will still be falling in that downward spiral.

Answer 8

If you know this much about her then I can assume he does too!?Yet, he still went back to her, cut your losses. Raise your child with him involved, but find another MAN! Try to work an arrangement with him and explain how you feel about "the baby's mama" but, don't interfere in their relationship.
When they break up again, do not take him back.

Answer 9

You might have to arrange visitations with the court where he can have supervised visits or have him visit your child in your home. Or, there might be a way to have a court order that he can't leave your child alone with her. That's a hard one, I wouldn't trust any woman with my child beside me, my mom, and my sister so I understand how you feel.

Answer 10

Heck no I wouldn't trust her around my child. Shes already shown that shes a little crazy. She will hate and resent your child. You need to consult an attorney and see what your options are. Your in a bad situation.