Why does my bf get turned on everytime we argue or everytime Im mad at him?

Question

Im screaming at him, and hes getting a b*ner, whats the turn on?, its frustrating cause hes not taking me seriously

Answer 1

He's insensitive and doesn't have the guts to communicate in an adult way.

Answer 2

Men and their penises. Penii? Anyway, it can be hard for a woman to understand how guy plumbing works.

Good news - arousal isn't proof that he's not taking you seriously. Maybe he is, maybe he isn't - but you can't tell by how high his flag is flying.

Some people, male and female, are aroused by ANY kind of passion. Strong emotions produce a lot of adrenalin in the bloodstream, and the effects aren't always predictable. Some of the same body signals (sweaty palms, fast, shallow breathing, for example) accompany any really strong emotion, from sexual arousal to terror. It's not always easy for the nervous system to know what is going on.

Look at it this way - you can change how you feel emotionally by what you do physically. Studies have shown that smiling for a certain amount of time actually does make you feel more cheerful, even if there's no other reason. It's like the body says "hey, we're smiling, we must be happy," and produces the right hormones and blood chemicals, so you end up feeling happier.

Same with this. Your boyfriend is aroused - as in highly emotional - and his body says "hey, we're all worked up over something" and produces the necessary chemicals, some of which appear to be waking up Mr. Happy.

That's why it's such a cliche in movies/t.v./romance novels - people get really upset, or really scared, and end up having passionate sex. The mind may know it's upset, but the body just knows the hormones are pumping, so it gets everything ready for whatever.

Plus, hey, maybe you're really sexy when you're highly emotional, or he thinks you are, which isn't a bad thing - it beats him thinking you look like a shrieking shrew when you're mad, right?

Maybe, if you want to be sure you're listened to, you need to stay calm, discuss the issue when you aren't so amped up over it. That way, the brain can stay focused without Mr. Happy getting the body all worked up, which can be distracting - plus, people respond less rationally when highly emotional, so your chances of really being heard go up as the volume goes down. Good luck!

Answer 3

I am laughing so loud right now. B*ner? Really? HA. I gotta meet this guy. By the look of your picture, you are probably so darn cute when you yell.

Answer 4

Because he doesnt want to fight,he wants to have sex instead. That would be the best thing to do instead of arguing anyways. I wish thats how it went when my man and i argue,,,but we go in other rooms of the house and dont speak for hours or days. At least you have a man who isnt into arguing. My man sometimes tells me that im cute when im angry...ughhhh.....maybe that turns your man on when your head looks like its about to blow off....lol

Answer 5

maybe its the way your face looks when your mad that he just can not resist... but in a way he should learn how to control himself for the simple fact he needs to take you seriously wen your mad

Answer 6

Well, get some handcuffs, nipple clamps, and a good whip. He will pay attention when you have him handcuffed to a wall and are causing him all kinds of pain. Best part is, he will like it too

Answer 7

He's busy thinking of the make up sex the two of you are going to have.

Answer 8

sometimes its hot when your significant other gets angry....its sort of a turn on :) and make up sex is the best thing ever!!!

Answer 9

You must have had "mad" sex with him before? You know, where it's a tad bit rough and hurried? My guess is ... he likes that, lmao ... who can blame him?!!

Answer 10

Maybe it is because he knows that the make up sex is going to be great, because lets face it... it is!