me and my boyfreind wnat to elope on my 18th birthday but every one says we should until we're ready whats ready?
2006-09-29 07:40:58 · 34 answers · asked by tabbypickel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My daughters have been told they need to have a college degree, a car, a career and a decent place to live before they can marry with my blessing. And the person they are marrying needs to have the same things. Why jump into life unprepared?
2006-09-29 07:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
T-ready is when you feel in your heart that you want to commit yourself to this guy for the rest of your life. I don't really think that anyone can really tell the two of you whether you are ready or not. That is completely up to you. However, I think those people who care about you are worried because you are young and have the rest of your life ahead of you. There is a really big difference from being a teenager, than being an adult. There are more freedoms and pleasures in life that you haven't even begun to experience yet. I think that those people want you to be happy, but they also want you to get a little bit of life under your belt before you take the big plunge. Perhaps you and your guy need to sit down and talk about that. In this day and age, there isn't anything wrong with living with someone before you get married. Maybe the two of you ought to give it some thought.
2006-09-29 07:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 you haven't had enough life experiences. If you marry that young you will in a few years long to have some of the things you missed by getting married so young. A marraige at 18 years has a 90% chance of failure. If you two love each other and really want to marry, why not wait until you are at least 22. If you are meant to be together, you will still be at that point.
2006-09-29 07:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by so_silly_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ready" has nothing to do with age. And no one else can tell you when you're ready. But waiting is probably a good idea. 18 is quite young to commit to a life together. The fact that you're asking if there is a "set age" when you should get married indicates that you aren't ready yet; if you were mature enough to be married, you would know the answer to that question already.
2006-09-29 07:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there is not a set age there are studies however that say if you marry to young the marriage will most likely end in divorce
i think a good age to get married is 23 or older
if you really love your boyfriend Witch it sounds like you do, then you will do anything to make it work so wait a little bit and give your love a better chance
2006-09-29 07:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's no set age. I think 18 is young, there's still a lot of life to live-why get tied down, but that's just me. If you are "ready" to compromise, to work toward common goals, to share household and financial responsibilities etc. then you are "ready". Only you and he know the answer to that.
2006-09-29 07:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Wait until you are a little bit older. You haven't experienced much. There is no rush in getting married. If you get married when you turn 18, you'll probably end up divorced within 2 years. Mark my words.
2006-09-29 07:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason they are telling you to wait is that in your early 20s, you have such profound changes in your values, goals and personality. If two don't grow in the same direction during that time, it often leads to a failed relationship. Every couple is different. I like that I waited until my late 20s though. I certainly would have had a failed marriage if I had done it earlier.
2006-09-29 07:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO set age. If you feel that this is really what you want and think you are mature enough to handle it, go for it. Don't miss out on true love! I made that mistake once and I'll never do it again or forgive myself for letting it go! You need to do what makes you happy - Not focus on what other people think and not worry about what will make them happy - You have to live life for yourself and no one else!
2006-09-29 07:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like a steady, adult relationship for a few years? Or get a little more experience yourself?
Think about it, what does marriage give you extra that you can't have now? You are 18 and free to do what you want. Do it and then decide if you want to get married. Saves a lot of trouble for everybody.
2006-09-29 07:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by pietaune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋