I'm out with my boyfriend last night. A group of friends were there & I wasn't completely comfortable because one friend didn't know we are dating. It could potentially have hurt his feelings so I wanted to 'break it to him gently'. I was going to take a few minutes with him aside from the group & make him aware of the relationship. Apparently, I wasn't being as receptive to my boyfriend as I usually am - his take on it. He says he put his arm around me & I "pushed him away." I don't recall it that way, of course. I think I was a bit standoffish, but only enough that my boyfriend would notice, nobody else. So maybe his take on it is close to accurate. I don't know he's feeling this way until I realize he's gone. I think he's in the restroom & it turns out he left. He was in his truck - he was going to leave & didn't. I find him outside & he tells me why he left - without a good-bye or anything. Just left. I'm really upset that he could just leave me like that. Am I wrong??
2006-09-29 07:20:57 · 14 answers · asked by Grá 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah. Despite what you're saying, it looks from here like your playing the field. I imagine that's what he was thinking. He is probably worried about trusting you. If you want him to be your boyfriend, then you will have to step up here. If you don't and are interested in other guys, that's fine. Just say so and let the guy go.
Hope it all works out the way you want it to. Best of luck.
2006-09-29 07:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look at it from his point of view. It hurt his feelings when you did not allow him to be close to you. I think that you should have talked to your other friend before you even went out, you put everyone in an akward position. How would have you reacted if your boyfriend pushed you away?
2006-09-29 07:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could just take one hand of your boyfriend in one of your hand and all would realize we are dating and not to put him in an embarrassing situation stepping aside with one of his friends who apparently wasn't aware and maybe was looking at you in a certain way , if you was with your girlfriends and one of them who would be aware that your boyfriend and you are dating and your boyfriend would step aside with her to explain that to her , how do you have felt ?
2006-09-29 07:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong. There are things that my exboyfriend did all the time that i know i was wrong for thinking the way i did. he did do some things wrong, but you have the right to be upset no matter what is was. My ex made me so mad but then i realized i had no right to be mad. But some things you just cant hel p be mad about.
2006-09-29 07:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by hilaryannette05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you are interested in this other guy too. have you been with your boyfriend long? are you sure he is the one you want to be with? i agree your bf was wrong to leave, but he obviously got jealous over something (unless he is the jealous, possive type). i think you need to evaluate your feelings for both these guys and see where you really stand.
2006-09-29 07:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man are really anxiety driven. they never show it but its true.
if you were alittle standoff-ish your man will take it as you are dumping him.
or if you dont realize that something is wrong your man will take it as you are dumping him
so talk to him and tell him that you are sorry if you hurt him and you didn't want that it just came out wrong and you really still love him to death, but it hurt your feelings when he left.
and you also might want to see if you do like this friend of yours cus it sounds like you do
2006-09-29 07:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you need to ask is because you didn't understand your boyfriend. I say yeah you were wrong and your boyfriend probably felt like you were ashamed to be with him.Am I right?
Think about it and reread your question. It will be more clear to you.
2006-09-29 07:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sort of. why would you need to "break it" to the other person gently that not everyone knew you were dating? especially if it s a friend!
if you are dating someone you should be proud of them, no matter what company you are in.
2006-09-29 07:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your BF sounds like a drama queen.
2006-09-29 07:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by BWLJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE HONEST , go talk to him.TELL HIM your inter feelings on that night. IF he dont understand hes not the one 4 you.
2006-09-29 07:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋