how, tell me how, do you lift yourself outt of the depths of despair when your living somewhere you desperatly

Question

dont want to be? ive been here a year and a bit now, ive beeen verbally harrassed a couple of times, and its just generally a noisy area full of motor bikes speeding, young thuggish youths shouting, i have a mental health problem that ive endured for a while that im trying to get a diagnosis for & treatment. ihave high bouts of anxiety& panic, i have horrible nightmares where i dont feel at rest, i feel insecure & generally intimidated inside,& when i have to leave my flat,i feel angry at myself for feeling this way and i feel inadaquete. my mum says i shouldnt feel intimidated and should hold my head up, but because of my symptoms. i find it hard to do that & i get mad at myself for it..im also obviously trying to leave the area, but theres no quick fix. no easy way out. & im presentley filling housing assossiation forms out, its so despair inducing because until something comes up, i have 2 stay here for an uncertain time.i just want peace and quiet,my self esteem is zero im 29, male

i no i would feel 65 % better if i could move to a quiet area, in the future i long to live by the beach. i cant stand the fact i have to live around DEGENERATES

Answer 1

get some ear plugs, good music, an air conditioner. Also, get some good meds, maybe Ambien. I was in a similar situation and took that for a year, hard to go off of it but worth it. Get good sleep at all cost. Maybe get massages if you can find a way to afford them. Get them even if you can't. Then get work and move if you can. Good luck.

Answer 2

I understand how hard it must be. I've been depressed for about 2 years, and I was living in a condo complex with BAD neighbors. I had a very hard time. They eventually got evicted - but it is almost unbearable sometimes. Some things I did: wear earplugs when sleeping, play calming music, go somewhere during the day that is comforting, try to realize that there are some things that can't be changed, see your doctor or a counselor if you're arne't already for medication and help dealing with your feelings. I understand needing peace and queit - I'm the same way. Understand the people who are making your life miserable are jerks and probably have no self esteem either - that's why they are mean! Remember, when things get bad, try to think rationally about the situation...it can really help. Distance yourself if you need to.

Answer 3

Lots of good advice around here....

My advice: Try everything you can to change your situation. Find a job somewhere else and move out of your area.

If you are looking for quietness and remoteness then look there. Via the Internet there could be ways to score a job. And there then you start a new life. Once that you have chosen and which you will shape.

My gut feeling is that this will automatically cure your mental health problems. Feeling insecure is very normal and most people are really afraid of all the challenges around life and changing.
All you have to learn is to eal with your fear. You sound like you can do it.

Answer 4

Take one day at a time and focus on the things you enjoy. Keep pursuing the proper treatment for you. It will get better, but only if YOU are willing to let people help you. I know it is difficult to see past your current situation, but there are so many people out there that can help you. You will see major improvements when you find the right treatment so don't give up on it. Your Mum is right when she says hold your head up, but, I think you will be able to do that better with treatment and possibly medication. Don't be ashamed of taking medication, you may have a chemical problem, it can work great. It can take a little time to find the right medication for you. Can you have a pet? An affectionate dog could be great for you. They love you unconditionally!! Good luck and God Bless

Answer 5

when you feel overwhelmed with anxiety, the more you think about it, the worse it seems. try to go somewhere inside your mind that is pleasant...the beach for example. when things get that bad, give yourself an emotional time out and imagine you are at that special place like the shore. imagine the sea mist on your skin and the salty smell, the breeze and the sounds of the waves lapping at the sand. if you practice this for a few minutes at a time when you are not stressed, it becomes easier to "go" there when you are stressed. your mind is a powerful thing and can take you anywhere, (or out of anywhere) your heart desires, but it does take some practice. i have been doing it for years, and it really does help. reality is still there in the end, but it is easier to live with if you can take brief time outs to go to that special place in your mind.

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear that you are suffering so.
Have you tried befriending any of the degenerates?
People who act poorly are not necessarily bad, sometimes they just don't know any better.
You may also benefit from getting out of your own head for a bit.

It may be quite difficult for you, but how about going to a park for some exercise?
Also, sounds like you're in England, how about asking someone at the NHS to hook you up with group therapy sessions that may help you to cope better.

Answer 7

Go out for a walk early in the morning and come back with your observations of the birds chirping or flying out in beautiful formations. The morning sky's hues as they metamorphise in the Dawn hours can also serve asTarget to watch. As you sit down to write those observations you might even want to paint them.These exercises will interrupt the non-stop obsession with the depressive thoughts. They will also bring surprises in the form of newly discovered hidden Talents in you.

Answer 8

Have you called the Samaritans? It isn't a perfect solution, but they can and do listen, which always helped me. I have been where you are. Please take care of yourself and give them a call. Take things 10 minutes at a time. Answer questions on Yahoo, watch telly, listen to soothing music. Call the Samaritans.
Thing will get better.
Take care.

In the UK dial 08457 90 90 90, for the cost of a local call.

In the Republic of Ireland dial 1850 60 90 90, for the cost of a local call.
http://www.samaritans.org.uk/talk/phoneus.shtm

Answer 9

Until you get a grip on your mental health situation, you are ALWAYS going to find your surroundings disturbing. Moving isn't going to help. You have got to get into counseling, talk to a doctor and get some medication--if that is necessary. Geographical cures do NOT work. Your peace has to come from within.

Answer 10

i live in a town like that for about 4 yrs now.the first two i felt depressed but in the 3rd yr i realised that im better than all the scum that troubled me and i learned to keep my head up. now because of family and relationship probs i feel depressed and fed up again but im trying to move home so i concentrate on that and it keeps me going.concentrate on getting out and remember ur better then the scum that tries to drag u down. good luck my heart reaches out to u