are you crazy starting a family with this guy is not right you are unsure and if he is not willing to wait for you then do not do it !!! that is how divorces start just move on you will find what you are looking for !!! who knows you may find a nice woman in the navy !!!
2006-09-29 07:15:53
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answered by f912guy 3
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Think about what you just said:
1.) You have a commitment problem. After three years you should know if you are ready to commit your life to someone. Although you are close to this person you do not see yourself spending the rest of your life with him.
2.) He is unwilling to compromise. If he really cared about you as much as he should, your career should be important to him as well. Instead he is being selfish and is only concerned about his wants. You should not be expected to give up on your dreams. He could have offered to delay having children for X number of years to give you a chance to achieve your goals.
I am not psychic, but I do not see this relationship lasting. If you quit to have children, you will end up a divorced single mother with no career and no future. It is painful, but you were right to end it.
2006-09-29 07:32:01
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answered by sloop_sailor 5
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No. You should absolutely NOT give up your career to start a family you're not ready for. No.
I wanted to have children and had my first at 23. If I had truly understood what it meant to be a parent, I would have waited. I love my children more than life itself, but it is an awesomely huge responsibility. It is a step you should never take just because someone else wants you to. Wait until you're ready!
2006-09-29 07:19:26
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answered by gatheringplace2002 3
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Listen, to be honest with you...that if u leave the navy to satisfy him do u think u end up happy forever...i know it is ur choose but u come frist.
If u want the navy he should wait for u and then have ur children...unless he is for real, but thats not what i hear u saying he just wants to get something out of u and not want to wait for u.
Thats shows he is doesn't care about what u want he jsut wants to get what he wants.
bye
2006-09-29 07:37:55
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answered by *~`h!8@Q 3
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You need to do what you want to do. If you want to settle down and have kids then do it and if you want to stay in the Navy and not have the kids then dont. If you only do things to make him happy but you arent happy then I promise you it wont work out in the long run because you only build resentment eventually and the resentment will lead to more problems.
2006-09-29 07:16:33
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answered by Sarah K 4
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Would you resent him or your children if you left the navy? If the answer to that is 'yes' or even 'I don't know', then to be honest, it wouldn't be right for you. It would only make you unhappy in the long run. Only go for it if you are 110% certain that this is what you want.
2006-09-29 07:23:28
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answered by Matwix 2
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Its really up to you and how you feel. If you are just having kids to please him because that's what he wants then that's wrong, you should have children when you are in a fully committed loving situation which even though you loved him, you can't commit. You have to seriously think about what you want and what you are going to give up just to get your man back. I think he has a point, you can't both pull in different directions or your relationship will fail again.
2006-09-29 07:25:18
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answered by GaryUKB 3
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Children is a huge commitment and it takes both of you to really want them for it to be OK. Do not give up your career to have kids with a guy who is going to think you dont belong together because you aren't ready. If he loves you then he will wait for you to e ready for kids.
2006-09-29 07:17:28
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answered by boyandhisdog2 2
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No you should not it will not work at all. Emotional blackmail is so evil be true to yourself hun and stay in the Armed Forces you will begin to resent him if you suddenly find yourself with a blooming bin full of stinking nappies. All the very best Dirky
2006-09-29 07:18:26
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answered by ? 4
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Nope. He got it right. Even if you love him now, you sure won't if you do something you don't agree with as life-long as bringing in kids that you don't want. I am so glad you two are smart enough to see that instead of keeping the relationship, playing games, and dragging some kids through the mud, then divorcing. You SO did the right thing even if it hurts like hell right now. Nice job and best of luck in the Navy. Thanks for serving the country and thanks for being intelligent enough to do what's right. Whew!
2006-09-29 07:18:08
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answered by whereRyou? 6
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