About a month ago, this guy, Sam & I started going on dates. We went on one "date," and every other date has been us hanging out at his house, either alone or with his friends. That was cool with me, but all of my girlfriends got real suspicious over it. One day, I asked him if he liked me, & he was like, "Yeah, I like you a LOT. I love hanging out w/ you etc..." That made me happy, because I felt the same way. But, I like him in the, I want him to be my boyfriend way.
We don't really talk on the phone anymore (we both hate talking on the tele, but when we first met, we would stay on the phone for hours,) we talk through Myspace a lot, but certainly not everyday.
And, last night I was hanging out with him & his friends (again) & Sam got really, really drunk. At one point he was talking about how he was looking for a long lasting girlfriend, but was only "Faking Out" right now. Later, we had sex (our first time together) & then he was like "normal" Sam again... So, what does he want?
2006-09-29 07:11:16 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex only
2006-09-29 07:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Missy M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he wanted he got that night. It's like ya'll trying to have a relationship without having a relationship which is as crazy as it sounds. The "normal" Sam feeling will fade after the sex haze wears off and then what will you have? A bunch of questions again. Wake up, Girlfriend! When you let dude know how you really feel, you will know what you've really been holding on to. Don't be surprised if it was only an illusion of your own making!
2006-09-29 07:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by meillee44 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex with a drunk person. Ew. You slept with him while his inhibitions were down. Now you want a gurantee that he sees you as more than a sex object? Were you drunk too? That is the only reasonable excuse for your behavior.
Talk to the guy and tell him what you'd like to have happen. That you'd like a relationship. I have to tell you though, this should have happened before sex. Did you think that a toss in the hay with a drunk man would make you more of a consideration as a long lasting g/f? You thought wrong.
2006-09-29 07:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he told you that he wants a long lasting girlfriend and you are going out with him????? why would he say that if you were already his girl, well I think you need to move on and find someone who really likes you and stop wasting your time on this jerk. Cause all he wants is sex if he dont wanna talk to you or call you. Just talking on myspace is not a relationship, sorry but its the truth! And I feel bad for you cause you shouldnt have slept with him until you figured him out. But he could have just be acting in front of his friends saying that because he really doesnt find you attractive and he doesnt want his friends to think he is with you like that . but good luck and you should wait alittle bit more to figure him out and dont have sex with him any more until you know!
2006-09-29 07:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want?
If you want a relationship where all you do is hang out at his house with his friends and have sex, you've got it. If you want someone to go and do something with (like build a life together), you need to look elsewhere.
He's already told you that he's only "Faking Out" and he thinks you're cool with it, because you had sex with him right after he told you that, but you're not really, are you?
2006-09-29 07:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Wonderland 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that if he reaaaally wanted a serious relationship ith you he wolud see you as his girldfriend prospect. The bad thing is that after you heard he was only faking out roght now you slept with him so now he may think you are ok with that faking out. Stop sleeping with him at all, start treating him as a friend and if thing don´t progress stop having any kind of contact with him. Good luck and remembre there are lots of fish in the sea.
2006-09-29 07:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously morals arew not an issue with you. What better time to let him into your pants than when he is "really, really drunk" and indicates that he is looking for someone/something else.
My recommendation is to give him a bunch more sex. Really push the limits on positions, locations, etc. Make him use you like a toilet. Then, cur him off or do his best friend or something.
2006-09-29 07:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he likes you...but more as a friend than anything else.
I suggest you keep your distance, and just date other guys...
I suppose he would be a commitment minded guy if the right girl came along...
Of course this is all speculation, but i think you should leave it alone and just avoid getting hurt and even more confused than you are already.
2006-09-29 07:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by Patience 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face it he drinks, and screwing around right now. If i were you i'd say hell with it and not see him anymore. Because you know if you get in the relationship, then he will start drinking even more and cheat in every girl around. think about how that will make you feel. but if you are in for that than go ahead.
and i do think he is just for sex, because he said we wasnt' serious now to look for a long lasting relationship. i'd say stop seeing him as soon as you can
2006-09-29 07:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait it out if it was your "first time" together than just see how he acts if he continues to be the way it was then he might want something more he's just either not yet ready or too shy to say something. but if he starts to act different and you slowly stop talking then he just went for the one thing that he wanted and got it and now it's no use to him.....wait it out a little.....
2006-09-29 07:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, there's a very simple way to find this out for yourself:
Stop putting out and see if he still wants anything to do with you.
I only wish this question had occurred to me a few relationships ago; would have saved me a ton of heartache.
2006-09-29 07:16:58 · answer #11 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋