A couple of months ago I started dating a guy I had known some years ago, and I had met again. Long story short, we started dating and then I find out he is married and has a kid. I know I can't or shouldn't be with him, but I find myself thinking about him all day long, wondering how things could be.
I want to feel better, I want to be happy again, so my question is: what can I do to get over him? sometimes I find myself with the need to call him, or see him. Every now and then we chat for a couple of minutes, because I need to know that he is all right... but how do I get him out of my mind?
2006-09-29 07:06:16 · 14 answers · asked by Martha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Read this book....it helped me stay away from someone. It's by Greg Behrendt.....and the title of the book is "It's called a break up because it is broken". Reading it will not only help you feel better (it's a bit funny too) and chart a new course for yourself, but also give you the strength to stay away from him. Goodluck!
2006-09-29 07:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Martha, he is married and has children. That in it's self should be enough reason for you to get over it. Life changes all the time and you were not meant to be with him. You need to understand that and keep moving forward. Don't let this get out of control where you have to call him all the time or you mess with his mind and he does something he will regret for the rest of his life. Marriage is something you should never interfear with.
If something happens and she finds out, you will not be happy with him trust me, he will be a mess. Leave him alone, don't call and don't pick up if he calls! There are children involved!!!
I know it wasn't what you wanted to hear but I just don't think it is right to mess with married men, you always loose anyways!
Always Amy
2006-09-29 14:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i have been there, done that. I am going through it a second time now. I just have learned to leave the past behind and move on. I will be hte first to admit it that it is not easy. I still want to go back to my ex, but he has made it perfectly clear that he does not want me. it's okay to be friends, but it only makes it worse. I think that you should tell him that even though your time together was short, you wouldn't trade it for anything. If you let go first, maybe he will realize that your time was special and he might get back with you. If that doesn't work, look at the fact that he was basically cheating on his wife. Why wouldn't he do that to you?? Looking at the negatives will be the only thing that will help you. Move on, it will help you to let go. You have a bright future ahead.
2006-09-29 14:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anashya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not calling him is a very good start. If you feel like you want to call him, call a girl friend instead! :) Go out with your friends and have a good time. It's going to take time to forget him, but you will. You'll also find someone whos going to make you happy, but in the meantime, be happy with you! Enjoy the single life! It can be fun!
2006-09-29 14:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Don't call him 2) Get involved with some volunteer work helping someone less fortunate than you are 3) See other people 4) Change your phone number so that he can't call you 5)Get a counselor to help you stay away from unavailable men
You deserve better but you won't find that out until you get the heck away from him.
2006-09-29 14:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody pretending to be Confucius once said "To get over someone old, get under someone new".
I don't believe I've advised folks to "just go get laid" before, but seriously, that's probably your best course of action. You've got the hot heavy spark-flying of a relatively new relationship, and about the only way to stop obsessing and over-romanticizing things is to seriously distract yourself by igniting those sparks with someone else.
2006-09-29 14:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be happy being alone you'll never be happy with someone else. You shouldn't need someone to complete you, they should compliment you. It sounds like you God, only He can make you feel good about being you, then you can find that right person. Imagine if he was your husband and you had kids, then he cheats on you and destroys your family. Is that who you want to be?
2006-09-29 14:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by his.grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get yourself busy with other things, get a hobby, I can tell you that I was in those shoes before and the thing that worked for me is the idea of his wife touching him and being near him, I thought about that and pictured that in my mind and it just turned me off so much, and eventually you will get over it, you have to constantly remind yourself that he is someone else's husband and that you deserve so much better!
2006-09-29 14:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont NEED to know that he is alright. You will never get over him if you dont for one thing cut off ALL communication. Get over him by realizing he is a loser, liar, cheater, and not trust-worthy. If this doesn't work - you deserve to stay miserable. LOSERS are the easiest people in the world to forget hon.
2006-09-29 14:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK if he wanted you he'd be there with you .BUT most of the time its the bed room they want.I just feel your too good 4 that. HE HAS low self esteem. AND you will push yours down further if you continue.TELL YOUR SELF THIS: I DESERVE BETTER, and go get it. best wishes star
2006-09-29 14:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋