Ive been going out with this guy for the past 5 months, When I first met him I wanst planning on falling for him or feeling so attracted to him. We were suppose to just enjoy each others time as friends going to the movies, poetry shows, dinners, concerts, talking till the sun comes up & SEX. Five months later I'm wanting to be around him every chance I can. Were just friends I keep telling myself but my heart knows better. He has awakening feelings in me beyond passion. We have talked about it an he isnt ready for a serious relationship due to a previous failed engagement. Until now I haven't thought about a serious relationship but this man makes me feel in a way that I didnt know I could feel. I want to take my time getting to know him better but on the other hand I dont want to lose sight of a good thing. Since we are just friends were open to dating other people but thats not what I want anymore. He completes me. I want no other man than him. What do I do if I want more he doesnt?
2006-09-29 07:03:06 · 5 answers · asked by ReeRe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is always the problem with "friends with benefits situation". Someone always wants more fulfillment from the other one, who is not willing to give more.
Sleeping with a guy too soon (especially when you know they don't want a relationship) is the best way to guarantee that there will never be a relationship.
You can't "make" or "force" someone to feel the way you want them to feel. Nobody "owes" you anything, because you feel something for them.
He has already told you he still harbors baggage from a rejection in the past. Baggage contaminates potential relationships. Let him work it out on his iwn.
You are feeling the euphoric feeling of when a relationship is new. Your body creates certain endorphins like crazy, and it gives you a "high". Chances are, he doesn't want to gove that up, and his baggage is acting like a 'filter' that distorts his reality. he probably sees a relationship as something that kills the 'high'.
Eventually, when you two get used to each other, learn about each other's flaws and shortcomings, and you are still "friends with benefits" you will start to lose that 'high' and split up.
Maybe he just sees the relationship as something that makes that happen for you two sooner.
Either way, you should start to withdraw. See other guys (even though you may not want to). Do not become intimate with them so soon. Let this guy know that you are only interested in seeing him if he wants to become exclusive. A way to tell him would be "I don't want to share you with anyone anymore, and if I have to, then I can do better".
If he is really into you, then he will be a little upset that you want to quit seeing each other. He might give it some time, and miss your company enough to come back around and want you, and you alone.
Stand up for yourself, girl. If you keep giving it to him.....ever heard of "why buy the cow when the milk's free"? if you keep giving him what he wants with no committment, then don't complin that you have to share him with other girls.
When he sees that you respect yourself, and he has competition (other guys that you're dating), he will either move on or try to won you over. Whatever the case, you are not needy and desperate, and you don't have time to be strung along by anyone.
2006-09-29 07:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 05:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, deal with it
relationships suck anyways
why not keep it as **** friends, and itll be like a relationship
consider this
you know how they say everything changes afer you marry a person, well it changes when its labeled "a relationship" too. so just go with the flow.
no rush, if its meant to be than dont even worry about it.
just tell him how much you enjoy being around him
flatter him too...he wont be going anywhere.
and daily blow obs never hurt anyone
2006-09-29 07:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is just the 3 letter word which you emphisized in capital letters. It is all there is to it. I know someone who is with the worst guy in the world but she doesn't leave him just because of that little 3 letter word. Just get over it! You CAN LIVE WITHOUT IT. Trust me.
2006-09-29 07:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space.
2006-09-29 07:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋