there´s this guy i was going out with but one night I got really drunk and I told him I really liked him and we kissed, he called to times after that and then sudeenly he stoped calling me and I haven´t heard from him in a week . The thing is that tomorrow I have to see him at a weddin were I´m the maid of honor and he´s the best man and we have walk down the isle together so I don´t know what to do, how should I act around him and with him?
2006-09-29 06:55:37 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, Been there done that. I did all the wrong things by acting hurt and annoyed and clueless that the only thing I accomplished was not have a good time and ruin my sister's day. I really suggest that you keep your cool. Act like your above the drama. A women who prides herself on knowing that there is a time for everything.If he would like to discuss it I would say "I would really like to discuss this with you but today is _____ day and I would be more then happy to get together later and talk but today lets enjoy and have fun. Say it with a smile and kick your heels off have fun. He might of been scared and does not know how to push forward or maybe he's had a change of heart. I've learned that when it comes to matters of the heart you can't allow emotion to guide you. You have to remember your action play a big role on how other react. I hope I've helped...
2006-09-29 07:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by froggielover72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would act completely normal. It was a innocent & friendly kiss. You didn't tell us if he has a girlfriend already.
Take the high road. Tell him that you really enjoyed your kiss and ask him if he will save a dance or two for you at the wedding. You never know. Maybe he was out of town for work or didn't have time to call you. Its not like you were dating before, so why all of a sudden are you expecting him to call everyday?
If you get all goofy on him you will chase him away. Ignore him completely, he will think you don't like him. But to worry about something as simple as an innocent kiss, you are going to drive yourself nuts. Most women over analyze things anyway.
2006-09-29 07:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are under the influence of booze, it doenst create mistakes , its just means you are less shy to say the things you want to . I love to be around people like that cause at the time , you get the truth from them . You said the truth. The only thing that you need to be ashamed of is that they way you felt came out when you had a bit of booze. Now , if you only liked him for the moment when you kissed him , then fess up too
I say go tot he wedding with you head high and have a good time. If he comes to you looking mad , appologize , but if not , you did the right thing . Either way , you dont lose anything
2006-09-29 07:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by dramaqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize for your behavior. And stop drinking - see how it caused you a dilemma? After that, all is as it was before. Just do your aisle thing, be casual and charming and if he decides you are not a fall down drunk he may call you again. That's all there is to it.
(We are all allowed stupid mistakes in behavior but we are not allowed to repeat it. So far you are normal like the rest of us)
And don't worry about the horrible dress you have to wear - the other women also look rediculous. Guys understand that.
2006-09-29 07:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love how nobody else is suggesting that maybe you apologize for making an @$$ of yourself whilst drunk. Intoxication is no excuse.
However, I'd advise not bringing it up until after the actual ceremony is over, and if you think he's the kind to get loud when upset, drag him far away from the reception to talk about it. Just in case. Don't need your irresponsible behaviour ruining the couple's big day.
2006-09-29 07:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play it cool. He may like you and he may not be that into you. Just act as normally as humanly possible, which I know can be hard. If he stopped calling, he may have been busy, but he may have changed his mind about you. Try a little flirting, see how he reacts, if he doesn't react, quit and just play it normal. If he goes for the flirting, go for more and see where it leads. Don't drink too much at the reception so you can be in control of your game! Good luck and have fun!
2006-09-29 06:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In as much is just only kiss and not sex or maybe he want to have sex with you but you refuse that why he didn't called you anymore . I will say maybe you should ingnore him at don't even pay any attention to him if he really need you he would have called you and not waiting till the day you see each other again. Just be careful he may be a frick.
2006-09-29 07:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by tomapepe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like it's no big deal because obviously to him it's not. Be very non-chalant around him. If he is interested, he'll be after you like a puppy since you'll be paying no attention to him. When you see him for the first time just smile sweetly and say "hello" and then go back to what you were doing.
2006-09-29 06:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just act friendly, you have to anyway for the sake of the bride to be. you didnt say whether you were interested in this guy so i assume yes because you kissed him earlier and told him you liked him. us guys are funny, i had an ex- girlfriend whom was anoyed because when we went on our first date together i didnt ring or see her for a week. when in fact i was trying to be cool about the situation and not scare her of by coming on too strong and i was very keen on her. also when a relationship starts, some people tred carefully. one step at a time. like the man takes one step and accesses the suituation to see if she will make the next step. if she doesnt he takes a step back. he might be like this, is it your move!
2006-09-29 07:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You act courteously towards him. He hasn't done anything wrong. Besides, your focus should be, needs to be on the bride. This is her day, remember, not yours. Concentrate on her needs and doing what you can to make her day as special as you can. She'll need you.
In the process, you will be showing this guy what kind of person you are. If you are willing to put yourself aside and unselfishly give the spotlight to someone else and their needs, that's a pretty attractive set of qualities, wouldn't you think?
2006-09-29 07:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by Bud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋