If a girl performs oral sex on my first date - What am I suppose to think?

Question

We met thru a family friend. We called and e-mailed each other for 2 weeks before our first meeting. After dinner, we went to my hotel room - she stayed the night. I thought she was going to leave since she lived only a block away. We were on the bed lying down just talking and all of sudden she kissed me. It was a short kiss. Then it happened (oral sex - the best one i experienced without cumming). I was speechless since this never happened to me on first dates. I have mixed emotions about her now - wondering if all her dates get the same. What should I think?

Answer 1

Contrary to popular belief, oral sex is not a completely safe alternative to vaginal or anal sex. Chlamydia, human papillomavirus (HPV), gonorrhea, herpes, hepatitis (multiple strains), and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) — including HIV — can be transmitted through oral sex.[14]. However transmission of HIV through fellatio or cunnilingus is relatively rare. Any kind of direct contact with body fluids of a person infected with HIV (the virus that causes AIDS) should be avoided. In 2005, a research study at the College of Malmö in Sweden suggested that performing unprotected oral sex on a person infected with HPV might increase the risk of oral cancer .[15] The risk from most of these types of infection, however, is generally considered far lower than that associated with vaginal or anal sex.

Furthermore, oral sex should be avoided when either partner has wounds or open sores on the genitals or mouth, or bleeding gums in the mouth, or has recently brushed, flossed, undergone dental work, or eaten crunchy foods such as potato chips, all of which can cause small scratches in the lining of the mouth. These wounds, even when they are microscopic, increase the chances of contracting STDs that can be transmitted orally under these conditions. Such contact can also lead to more mundane infections from common bacteria and viruses found in, around and secreted from the genital regions. Because of this, many medical professionals advise the use of condoms in the performance of fellatio (flavoured condoms are available for this purpose) and the use of plastic or latex sheets (dental dams or ordinary plastic wrap) for cunnilingus, although the latter has failed to achieve the same level of widespread use as condoms.

Answer 2

While it is easy to, don't assume anything. She may have just been feeling the moment and because you met through a trusted source and talked/e-mailed so much during those 2 weeks, she felt comfortable with you to do so. Why don't you ask her or are you never going to speak to her again now?

Also - ask yourself - what should she think of you for letting her do what she did on a first date? That you let all of your dates do that because you expect it?

You didn't say no or stop her, so she assumed it was okay. And in me suggusting you say no, I mean telling a woman you want to be safe and in a mongomous relationship and knowing who you are sharing bodily fluids with.

Be careful out there and good luck!

Answer 3

first of all i will enjoy it lol ,really come on maybe u just turned her on so wildly that she could not restrain her self,or she was depressed or she did not have sex for a long time,the probabilities r endless,or maybe she is just a cheap girl,but that is just for u to find out,but i would certainly date her again to find out what type of person she is really,u can not judge a person from a first date no matter out,every body deserves a second chance.

Answer 4

Well if the thought of her doing this to other guys entered your mind.The relationship is already dead. When a guy has 1 ounce of distrust he quickly losses interest. Most guys want pure, virgin like girl. Not one that make such a bold move on the first date.

Answer 5

Don't judge her if you're not going to take any responsibility for not stopping her. Listen, I believe that if the passion is there why fight it. I mean I'm not saying it's okay to suck-off every guy you feel sexually attracted to but don't stop yourself for fear of judgment that's not fair. My fiance' and met on a blind date that mutual friend put us up to and our first date we got extremely close to having sex(clothes off, kissing, touching etc) but for he stopped me because he was afraid that he was pressuring me and I wouldn't respect him later. Well he totally regrets ever stopping me but after all the foreplay we still ended up together in the end. So don't judge her by that one action. Find out what kind of person she is and if seems to respect you and herself then keep going out with her.

Answer 6

She was demonstrating to you that she feels like she does not think she is worth getting to know. She put forth what she thought was her best and only asset to try to make you like her. Lots of girls with low self esteem put out to try to make guys like them. They do not understand that relationships are not based on sex. Some think they can make a relationship out of sex. They are sadly mistaken and they have issues. Ever seen fatal Attraction?

Answer 7

So do you honestly think if she is that good it was her first time and she was lucky to get it right?My guess is she is a little loose to be hooking up on the first night,I would enjoy it and move on,no long relationship with her.But I have been called a prude.

Answer 8

I would sure think twice about a relationship w/her. If you're looking for sex, she apparently is the one, but a long term, NO WAY.

I wouldn't go out with her again.

Answer 9

Could it have been that good if you didn't climax?

Anyway, I would just think "damn am I lucky!" Sounds like you hardly had to put forth any effort and didn't have to pay her.

Make plans for next weekend and seal the deal.

Answer 10

SHE'S A EASY GIRL NO ONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WILL GO TO BED WITH A GUY THE FIRST TIME THEY MET ESPECIALLY DOING ORAL SEX IT SHOWS TO KNOW SHE DOES IT ON MORE OCCASSION WITH OTHER GUYS SHE MEET.