Will chivalry ever make a comeback?

Question

I'm very courteous and have great manners. I'm not too proud to pull out the chair for my man or open doors for him, as he does for me (sometimes). I rarely see anyone acting in a chivalrous manner anymore...when I do, I'm like "awwww, that's the sweetest thing I've ever seen!"

Answer 1

it isn't dead...but it's dying. and u know what is so crazy?? WOMEN are the cause of it!! the ones who say "i am strong independent woman, i don't need your help". they are confusing Chivalry with Weakness...which is NOT good for the male (or female!) gender in this society. people start getting confused, some people like being treated this way, some that way. therefore, if we stop confusing Etiquette with Weakness, that will be the first step in changing things for the next generation. i have a few thoughts on how the male and female gender roles, and the feminist movement have changed our viewpoints on how men and women "should" act, which confuses things.

remember, women should never confuse independence, strength, confidence and Equality to Men as being rude, obnoxious, pig headed, or disrespectful. also, men should never confuse Manliness to being rude, obnoxious, pig headed, disrespectful; True Manliness is to be Respectable, Worthy, Strong, Smart, Good, and Dependable! good luck to us all.. hopefully we can change things for our children~~

Answer 2

No, the generation before the me,myself, and I generation is probably the last. This generation never learned manners, so they can't teach them to their kids.
We are a lazy society, and manners take too much time and energy, it seems. I never see a polite person under the age of 50, even those in their 40's are rude. A mother and daughter preceeded me out a heavy door yesterday at a store, they let the door slam in my face, then turned around to smirk at me. At Wal-mart, same thing. Big hurry to get in front of me, for reasons I did not understand. We went separate directions as soon as we got in the door. Mom, Dad, and child turned around, one at a time to smirk at me, the child, about 10, made eye contact and held it. It is not just me, I see people doing these things all the time.
If people do not have basic manners, and go out of their way to be a pain, forget chivalry.
I keep seeing and hearing that women do not want men to be chivalrous, but only from men. I have never seen a woman turn it down, none of my friends have. Is this a perception, or reality? I wonder if the woman just did not have enough manners to say thank you, and indeed, when I say thanks, I occasionally get a puzzled look in return. Maybe that is because the gentleman does not know what to say back to me. But I am so grateful for the help, I don't care!

Answer 3

Seems like the definition of chivalry you're using is really courtesy, applied equally to both sexes - I'm a fan of that!

I become a little less patient with it when it's an approach of men towards women that's exaggeratedly show-offish - for instance, when a woman stands back to let a man onto the bus first, but instead of getting on, he insists on making a huge display of standing back himself, refusing to get on until the woman has... no matter how many other passengers in the bus-queue (and on the bus) he is holding up! Sometimes it's more an egotistic display... I think it just depends on the circs. If a man is capable, and not too proud, to accept similar courtesy from women, then in my opinion that makes his own chivalrous behaviour genuine.

Answer 4

Chivalry is a thing of the old times. I was brought up to that way and i havent changed, but now and days women(most, not all) don't like that. They see at as a sign of weekness in a man(when we have 50cent, collin ferell, etc. as "male role models"). And like they say "nice guys finish last." That's why so many men are worried in being chivalrous. Most women deep down inside want somewhat of a rude mean guy, and being chivalrous doesn't go with that!

Answer 5

Chivalry is not dead---I do it, and I see lots of other people do it, too.

I think one reason why a lot of guys don't do it anymore is because of how so many women have become. I don't mean to say all are like his, and I'm not even saying most are like this. But it's enough to get everyone's attention. It's the women who pride themselves on making one male-bashing joke after the other, whether it's making them out in public or obnoxiously filling all her acquaintances' email boxes with stupid forwards containing them. In addition to that, they constantly chide their male colleagues about doing something a certain way because he's a guy, or not "being able" to do something because he's a guy, etc. A lot of guys see this and think "Well, gee, if they're going to act like that, why bother with the chivalry stuff?"

I, myself, will not open a door or even a peanut butter jar for these types of women.

And once again, most females are not like that---it's just the select few that are the noticeable minority.

Answer 6

It's entirely up to women, as to whether chivalry ever makes a comeback. As women encourage more chivalrous behavior, men will behave more chivalrous. The behavior you're seeing today is a result of the women's liberation movement of the past decades. Many woman are finding that being liberated isn't as empowering as they expect and are shifting back to a more chivalrous expectation from men. And I suspect that men will shift back to a more chivalrous lifestyle, as a result.

Answer 7

Parents being involved with their kids upbringing and the return of the draft or military duty being a must instead of a choice would not only bring back chivalry but also teach many to respect other people, peoples property, reduce the number of gang members, the number of people in jails accost the nation and bring a new appreciation for the privilege of being an American

Answer 8

I prefer men who are polite, open doors for me, pull my chair out for me, etc., and I do it in return. My friends parent's always think I'm sucking up because of the way I speak on the phone, like if I am calling someone, I will say, "Hello, this is Daisy-Evangeline calling, may I speak with Jaimi?" or I will answer the phone like, "Good afternoon, this is Daisy-Evangeline speaking." I always say please and thank you, and I always speak to my teachers with respect, not because that's the way I was raised or anything, but just because I think it is proper, and the way things SHOULD be done. Whenever I meet a guy with manners, I'm stunned; I love boys who have manners.

Answer 9

Chivalry isn't dead, just endangered.

I was raised to be polite and especially considerate of women. I make sure to open doors and pull out chairs, etc for my wife. I am raising our sons to do the same and our daughters to accept nothing less from a man.

Answer 10

It's up to parents to teach their kids manners... my husband is a very chivalrous person, I also think that society has made it easier for us to be rude because people aren't expected to respect their elders and mind their "p's and q's" any more