There is a guy that I really like, and I'm pretty sure he likes me too. But we're both shy and even though we talk a lot and see each other often, neither of us has ever made a move. What are some subtle ways to let him know I want him to ask me out?
2006-09-29 06:34:09 · 8 answers · asked by city_savvy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make sure you look at him directly when you speak to him...let your interest show in your eyes. Really pay attention to him when he is speaking and give thoughtful, intelligent responses. During a joke or a laugh, touch him gently on the arm or on the back of his hand once and a while. Bat your eye lases girl. Tell him he looks nice, tell him he smells good, tell him you like his eyes. Pace yourself...don't just start getting flirty and fresh but be sincere.
2006-09-29 06:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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What are subtle ways to let someone know you like them?
There is a guy that I really like, and I'm pretty sure he likes me too. But we're both shy and even though we talk a lot and see each other often, neither of us has ever made a move. What are some subtle ways to let him know I want him to ask me out?
2015-08-23 05:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you *must* be shy about it, start mentioning some movies opening soon that you'd be interested in seeing. And make eye contact with him when you do. Eye contact is key to establishing interest - and to determining if he's interested.
2006-09-29 06:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Katie S 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are so sure that he likes you, just go over and tell him that you also love him. There is no other better way in this case.
2016-03-17 23:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the initiative. If he feels the same way then he will say yes.
2006-09-29 06:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by The Aabenator 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's our tried-and-true list of smooth moves....
A) THE EYES HAVE IT. Great eye contact is ultra-effective when it comes to flirting. Still, many girls lock up at the thought of actually looking straight into a boy's baby-browns for any length of time. It is nerve-wracking at first--even Drew Barrymore says she gets way stressed-out at the thought of it! If you feel the same, try this step-by-step game plan:
1. Shake off any self-doubt. Some of the uneasiness people feel about direct eye contact has to do with the fact that the other person is going to look back just as closely' Zap jitters by reminding yourself you're gorgeous inside and out. Nobody except you is focused on that microscopic zit on your chin, and your crush is a lucky guy because you're looking his way. Don't ever forget that!
2. Practice your gaze in the mirror. This way, you can perfect a confident, positive look of interest. Be sure to smile, too! Rehearsing also helps you avoid lovey-dovey doe eyes. Hold eye contact with your reflection for a full minute if you can. This will get you comfy keeping your eyes on your crush when the two of you finally chat. Don't stare, glaze over or forget to blink!
3. Be way casual. Don't fix your eyes on the guy from a distance like a tiger hunting down dinner on the Discovery Channel. Pretend you just noticed him right before you reach him, then catch his gaze and flash a smile as you pass. Check out his reaction: Does he hold your gaze and smile back? If so, good. Repeat this process a couple times, until one of you is bold enough to strike up a conversation.
B) MAD SKILLS. Impress your boy from afar with your incredible talents. You can do this so undercover, it'll look effortless! Say he's the one coordinating your school's charity concert. You know he's into punk...but bet he doesn't know you're a totally skilled drummer. Volunteer your band for the show, and be sure to tear up the skins with a drum solo. He should be totally impressed with your music finesse, and now that he knows you're tuned in to the music scene, it'll give you guys something to talk about.
C) SENDIN' OUT AN SOS. Does the dude you dig rock American history class, while you can't even remember if Benjamin Franklin invented IPods or what? If so, ask him for homework help. You'll score a few private moments in the public library--just you and him. What an excellent opp! Some rules to remember: Don't make your study sessions all about doing that eye-contact thing--actually pay attention to your books as your crush explains stuff to you. If you don't, he could think you're totally wasting his time. Also, don't fake that you're lost in a subject if you're really pulling down A's. Only hit him up for the tutoring if you really need it. Otherwise, you'd be over-playing him.
D) THE MESSAGE MILL. We don't need to tell you that having your BFF chain email the entire freshman class about your crush would be a huge honking disaster--so don't even think about it! Instead, spread a compliment about your dream dude. Let's say Jason's in all-state chorus and performed an amazing solo at the assembly. Afterward, in a voice loud enough for him to hear (but not loud enough to be obvious), say, "You know who's the best singer in the whole school? Jason! His solo was so awesome!" Your girls can help you out by saying, "Oh, he's standing right behind you!" You can then turn around, seeming oh-so surprised, and say, "Wow, I didn't even see you standing there!"
E) GO, TEAM! Cheering on his excellent free-throw percentage is always a winning plan. Be careful, though: Don't act even remotely Swimfan. Never attend his games by yourself--it'll look weird. Just go with your crew, have a great time and, afterward, very casually pass him by--once--smile, and say, "Hey, that no-look pass you made was impressive!" A genuine pat on the back for a job well done scores major points.
F) SAFETY IN NUMBERS. Does your crush travel on the outskirts of your friendship circle? Use group activities to your advantage. In addition to bowling nights and mall trips, suggest your group throw a bash for your bud who has a birthday coming up. You be in charge of the invite list, and make sure his invitation is the first one to fly into the mailbox. Better yet, ask him and a bunch of other guys to help you and the girls pull this party off. A day of painting "Happy Birthday" murals and stringing up streamers can be bonding in a big way. Be sure to give him props for his excellent ideas.
G) BE A GROOVY LISTENER. When the ice as finally broken because your sneaky-smart strategy has paid off, be sure to rune in carefully to what your crush has to say. Guys love girls who listen well-it makes them feel interesting, which in turn makes them feel good about themselves, which in turn makes them feel good about you for making them feel good about themselves! Got it? Cool. Complement the listening with a compliment. While he's telling you about that giant trout he caught at the lake last summer, take in all the details, and then say, "Whoa! You must be a really amazing fisherman! I've never had a chance to go fishing myself, but I've always wanted to try it." Bingo! He'll start talking a mile a minute he's gonna want to teach you everything! Next thing you know, you'll be out on a lake in a canoe with your cutie.
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2006-09-29 06:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 13⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him out, guys like that.
2006-09-29 06:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
hold his hand and sit close to him!!
2006-09-29 06:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋