help help plz?

Question

I been in a realationship with this girl for more than 2 years and we have a son together, recently we i found she had guy friends, i ask her about it she deny it, i got are from bills and check the numbers, yeah she been talking to other ppl, i was upset, but i got over it, and now she acting dump with me, she does want to do nothing, she doesn't want to show her feelings, she real cold, wat can i do about this or is she cheating i should move on

Answer 1

since u have a son together, u have to talk to her again...try hard to make it work. sounds like some misunderstanding...unless she really did cheat on u. but honestly, phone calls r not enough for u to assume she's cheating on u.
consider getting counseling together...read some books about relationships...learn to communicate better.

consider starting conversations like:
1) present the issue.
example- i wanted to talk to u about the day we fought over...
2) explain what u feel.
example: it bothers me when u talk to other guys. i feel like sometimes u aren't telling me the entire truth. i get upset when...
3) explain what u would like to see happen.
example: i want to continue having a relationship with u. let's work on our commmunication. could u talk to him less.

avoid accusational-type statements...example: u r so....
in fact, avoid using "u" altogether except in situations where she absolutely can't deny doing something. don't do the name-calling and don't start blaming her for stuff. (if she starts blaming u for things...try pointing out how u both were wrong...try using "we" more instead of "i" or "u.")

Answer 2

Well first of all you have akid together and if you ahve 2 grams of responsability "move on" is not an option, move on is what you do with yourd little girlfriend in HS or college. Also she can have guy friends just like i have girl friends and not mean anything by it or just plain talk to toehr people. Have youthought she might be ignoring you or be annoyed because you are so controlloing?? checking her phone records?? telling her who can be her friend?? or if she can have any other friends at all?? think about it man

Answer 3

I think you already know in your own mind whats what!
Its hard to say without knowing the person,but if shes being cold with you then all you can do is ask her what her feelings are,take it from there,maybe you haven't asked her because you already know that the relationship is in trouble.
Suggest sometime apart to remind yourselves how you both feel,you can't just stay because of your son.

Answer 4

Unless you are 100% that the other guys are something more. You probable lost a lot of trust. But if the other kind of woman. Then she may be pushing you away because she found something else. but don't take my word on it

Answer 5

If she wont be honest with you, then not much of a relationship. Then its time to move on. Make sure you arrange the issue with your son.

Answer 6

You know.. trust is an issue here.. First of all.. don't attack her just for talking to men who happen to be friends.. and second don't play games with her.So, make sure of her wishes.. does she want to continue the relationship?. Point blank if she didn't want to be with you she would of left.

Answer 7

I would talk to her and tell her to put herself in YOUR shoes. This always works, for a minute for the other person to think how they would feel if they were you. Let them know that you care a lot about them and that you want them to be able to talk to you about anything. Let them know what you are thinking and that it hurts you and you being with them entitles you to the truth.

Answer 8

Time to move on, but think about the child before you go.

Answer 9

I think she is cheating on you. You should be straight forward and tell her whats going on and if she is cheating on you it's over.

Answer 10

The feed-back you are getting from her I would just move on.