My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together (or rather I've been talking about it). He says that he is trying to get comfortable with the idea of moving out of his parents house. He is 26. He has so much free money to spend on what he wants, and he doesn't really want to give it up to pay rent, etc. Also, anytime we have an arguement he says, "Im not going to live you with you if it's going to be like this." I tell him THIS is real life buddy.
Is this something that I should wait out or should I not expect it?
2006-09-29 06:07:33 · 15 answers · asked by a b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is your call
2006-09-29 06:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!!! He's 26 and still at home!!! You are going to become his new 'Mommy'!!! He will not change for quite a while. It sound like the money is too important right now, not you. Wait for him to grow-up, if you can wait that long. Things may be just fine now as he has some independence, when the bills start coming in ... that will all change. What's gonna happen when a Little One comes along and your emotions get a little skewed. Think he going to be the support you need. Please Think About This!! I've seen too many friends get all involved in playing house, only to have one of them left holding the bag, and no marbles inside.
2006-09-29 13:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by wadenovakovski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find an adult boyfriend. This guy is not the sort of person that I would want to see any of my friends get involved with. If he has no desire to take care of himself, what possible good can he be to you? Will he resent you every time he has to pay rent? Can you depend on him if you get sick, or injured?
You may want to consider all this before you start living with him...you could end up "adopting" him, doing his laundry, paying his bills, etc...wouldn't that be fun...
2006-09-29 13:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a mama's boy to me. He's 26 and he still lives at home and doesn't want to work for himself. This boy is not willing to face up to life the way it really is and I definitely would reconsider any relationship with him.
2006-09-29 13:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how long this has been going on, but doesnt sound like hes too up on the idea of moving from mom and likes his freedom. I suggest you ask him who he likes more, you or mom?
Good Luck
2006-09-29 13:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to make this choice on his own. If you push me into living together, he will resent it and blame you everytime things get tough. Wait for him, but keep looking in the meantime.
2006-09-29 13:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situations dear..
any way..wish u a very happy living to both of u
2006-09-29 13:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, you're asking him to change his way of life. it's a major step. seriously, i won't. not to have spending money so that i could be with you. that would make my life miserable put yourself in his shoes, then you'll see it better.
2006-09-29 13:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to grow up yet, either give him time or move on!
2006-09-29 13:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really likes him then
i think you should wait till he is ready
coz some things juz cant be rushed
2006-09-29 13:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by x040493t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not pressure him, stop bragging let him get conferable with the idea. it sound you want to be in control.
2006-09-29 13:12:03 · answer #11 · answered by ed46324 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋